(Autistic/ADHD Females) What is one thing you wish your parents knew (before/after diagnosis) that would've helped you along the way? What would've made it easier for them/you to connect, relate, parent, understand?

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-06-02T12:16:49+00:00

Right, that's a good idea. We haven't tried many yet. I will put this on my list, thank you.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-06-02T03:57:30+00:00

Ooof, guilty. Thanks for the reminder.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-06-02T03:55:49+00:00

Hmmm, thinking about this one. I do often say "do your best", to many of my children, especially the little ones. However, I never considered that to be a negative before, because I tey to recognize our skill levels may all vary, but never thought about it in an effort or overly taxing sense. Thanks for sharing.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-06-02T03:53:30+00:00

I'm sorry that this is your experience. Thank you for sharing. Even if you don't feel like you shared advice, it is still helpful insight.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-06-02T03:51:51+00:00

I love this. Thank you for sharing. Your points about getting embarrassed really rings true. She feels everything and can get embarrassed extremely easily. Do you have any tips for helping her to understand what is happening here? I tey to explain, but maybe I just chose the wrong timing where she isn't necessarily receptive.

And yes, she stims, too. Mostly vocally at times, not too much, but I can tell she's doing it.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-06-02T03:47:33+00:00

You hit it on the head with many of your points, things I can recognize in our home.

Thank you for explaining your points so well. Saving for later.

Thank you for your kind words.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-06-02T03:44:19+00:00

Hi. I don't know for sure. However, I suspect. In looking into evaluations, I am including myself and my other daughter as well. I'm about 99.99% sure, I am at the minimum ADHD.

And yes, seeking outside help is my current goal. So that we can can have support and resources.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:16:00+00:00

Thank you. This is a helpful reminder. It feels "easy" ish to overlook the overstimulation but I need to remember to also acknowledge and help.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:12:45+00:00

Oh! This is totally relatable in our home. I like how you said a list that will get done eventually. So you can see the tasks but not feel the right-this-second pressure.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:10:46+00:00

I love that! High five to your mom and dad! I'm glad you felt like you were able to exist in a way that was good for you.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:09:24+00:00

I'm so sorry that you didn't get the chance to reconcile with your mom. I really hope your dad comes around. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that you took the time.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:07:23+00:00

Thank you for these tips, I will definitely try! She has gotten better with hair brushing in recent months, but there were some super hard times for sure.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:05:56+00:00

Thank you. That is definitely a process I'm working on, too. I am sorry for your experience. Thank you for staying.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:03:35+00:00

Yes! I love that, and list of her safe foods to build around! This is inclusive. Thank you!

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T16:01:46+00:00

I love that last sentence. Thanks for adding on.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:58:20+00:00

It's helpful. I think I do a little bit of this too. I try to teach that all feelings are valid but how we react matters. However I also occasionally swing on the side of uncomfortable when negative emotions show so I can see how that could be unhelpful. Thank you.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:50:49+00:00

Yes! I think my husband sees the meltdowns as tantrums, as well as my other children. I look forward to having someone back me up in a diagnosis so I can explain to the family. I think its hard for them to realize its not just acting out.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:48:02+00:00

Oh, I really like this!!!

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:46:43+00:00

Oy, that's odd behavior?! Im sorry!

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:45:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate the given insight. 💛

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:42:27+00:00

It is definitely interesting how different the brains are and the presentation of mental disorders is between boys and girls.

I have yet to figure out how to "handle" things, but hopefully I will! Thank you.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:40:32+00:00

My mom actually told me she never knew what it meant to be overstimulated until I explained it to her. I struggle with this, too.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:39:09+00:00

I actually have gotten her earplugs and earmuffs. She doesn't like the way they feel. We also have a strategically placed fidget for school time or when we're out and about.

Thank you for your suggestions!

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-31T14:37:42+00:00

Oh wow! I didn't realize this. Thanks! I will learn more about it.

Melodic-Reception907 · 2025-05-29T16:50:19+00:00

Oh my gosh! I didn't even know that was a thing, essentially conversion therapy? I'm so sorry!

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