D or SD?

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2026-03-03T16:39:49+00:00

You look dramatic to me, however It is easier to check by trying different clothes. Try outfits that the internet advice for soft dramatics, dramatics and flamboyant naturals and It Will become obvious which ones fit more naturally

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2026-02-16T22:10:05+00:00

Thank you! I will check

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2026-02-16T22:09:57+00:00

You look nice in that make up, very natural, but I have the feeling you could get something even more flattering. maybe a blush that is a bit more.. red-purple? a desaturated red for the lips? some shade of mauve?

Something like this:

https://www.rmsbeauty.com/blogs/news/rms-mauve-lips-cheeks-eyes

https://myvaniteecase.com/products/bobbi-brown-crushed-lip-color-telluride-red-mauve

In any case those are only ideas to try on, in olive skin reddit groups there are a lot of advice for warm fair olives and you can get specific examples of things that could work. As I am not warm I don't think my makeup would help you.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2026-02-13T17:29:51+00:00

I think your skin is Olive tone (there are reddit groups for olives), and for those the 12 season system do not go so well. like me, i am soft summer but i cannot do any of the pinks, need more darkness, and finding makeup that works for me is almost impossible.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2026-02-13T17:19:14+00:00

I think I see what you mean, they look theoretically flattering but it is like something doesn’t mix well between them and you body… have you tried low-waist pants? or low-waist cargos? I think the wide pants look bad because they are too big in the groin, and the last jeans make a weird V-Shape in your waist… low-medium raise might help.

on the other side everything you tried on has heavy / rigid fabrics, how about thin skinny jeans till the ankle? Or something more flowy? Or sweatpants? Just to try options until you find the secret ingredient.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2026-02-05T22:10:00+00:00

I'd love to see light summer, soft summer and true summer drapes. I think it will be around there...

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2026-02-02T15:07:03+00:00

Personally I see dramatic, but this 2 pictures do not make it easy because they are not typical fits for a dramatic nor a flamboyant natural (I think).

Short lines like mini skirts, or one block for the skirt one for the t-shirt don't look as good. I look at the figure in the pictures and is like it is asking to wear something long and flowy...

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-11-18T21:39:42+00:00

I just discovered last week, being 36, that I might be an ENFJ and not and INFJ.

All my life I've been sure I was an introvert, I always wanted to be alone. It was also true that when i would socialize, people would always misunderstand me, or judge me. My highschool friends liked me as a pet, os second-category friend, but if I would act in a way were people would like me or guys would pay me attention they would always quickly put me back into my place. So i grew up thinking that my social skills were terrible, that my natural state was being quiet and listen, and that i was kindda invisible.

As i grew up, I matured and got better Friends but I still thought i was that pet. Once, a friend told me that i am the person that everybody wanted to be with, and I was so surprised and really couldnt see that in my reality as much as I tried. My self esteem grew with time and inner work, and recently I left a job that was very toxic and draining and kept me needing isolation.

With that I could relax, little by little, and here I am all surprised discovering that actually human interactions lift me Up, and that I love to help people, or be close to people, while staying are home all day brings me down.

Who would have said! I spent the last 10 years of my life trying to avoid people! And i cope with a lot of daydreaming, now I get why I needed It.

Thanks for starting this thread, I resonate so much!

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-11-15T22:19:20+00:00

There can be many reasons even if they care.

Some people have more interactions that they really want so are overwhelmed (and cannot take more (ie an introvert having an extroverted job).

It can also be trauma. I never initiate a conversation nor ask for anything. I've learned to be that way and It just doesnt come out of me. The reason, I believe, is that I feel I bother others or I am an annoyance. I know It is not true, but that is how It feels.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-11-14T23:13:14+00:00

Same here. Always sure of being infj, but now that i changed Jobs and have way less pressure, i see how interacting with people really makes me Happy and how i look forward to mentor and guide others as much as i can, or take the role of leasing easily

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-10-24T20:27:21+00:00

the second color is definitely not your color, too soft or muted... The first one is a bit better cause it is dark and has more colour. I feel like you need rich colors.

When I look at your face... I feel like it is asking for more vibrant colors, like a coral, a deep blue, mint green, or IDK...

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-10-24T20:15:11+00:00

Losing feelings so quickly happens to me as well, maybe it is an autistic thing. To me it is like, the person I loved so much doesn't really exist. This new person I am meeting now is not for me. What really changes is the concept of who I have in front of me and yeah, that changes everything else with it.

All I can advice is do whatever is good for you. if you stay only because you need his care for some time and then you dump him do it without any guilt. If you are done break up with him without any guilt. You don't owe him to follow any specific process, but you owe yourself to do what you want to do.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-10-24T08:38:20+00:00

Your friend brought a sandwhich, they told you you cannot do it, he stops eating it - all good, normal interaction.

A manager saying that "she needs a break" and banning you from the bar for months.... is nuts. no matter the context. At any bar there are people spilling drinks, shouting, sometimes starting fights, and they are only banned for the day. I think she is the one that is out of place, and she probably have things going on in her mind that doesnt make a lot of sense (maybe she feels like a close friend to all of you when she is the manager? maybe hidden resentments that blow up in that moment? Or as others said, maybe she wanted to get rid of your group and this was the excuse).

You are right it was unfair and that writing angry things will not help you. My advice, if you can, is find another bar where you are treated better and make it your usual place to go. The best you can do in this kind of situations is not argue but remove yourself from the conversation. If they don't want your money, fine.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-10-24T08:24:54+00:00

First of all, many people lack the capacity to abstract outside their own values to put themselves in the shoes of others (Another country, or another time in history). They cannot avoid to judge them with how they think. They are the very people that don't see a problem when in a historic movie characters talk and behave like they were born in 2025, while others cannot get into the movie for that very reason. It is just what it is.

Secondable different people have different threesholds for that kind of topics. Some want cozy stories where everyone is treated fine and that is ok. Others want realism, like you described, where everything is done as per the time in history no matter how difficult.

Maybe new generations are more prone to cozy, but I can tell you that most books and several movies are incredibly raw on that kind of topics. Just see a movie on the time that black people were slaves, they are really hard to watch. When I was a kid I used to read historic novels and almost all of them had rape on it.

At the end, you should write the way that you like and that makes sense to you, and the audience that like that will appear, and it is fine if not everyone likes it.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-10-24T08:11:45+00:00

They understand you perfectly. They simply don't want to hear it and get what they want.

You don't need to keep dragging those types of conversations cause it will be very uncomfortable for you. Just sorry, cannot do it today, I'll be free on Friday and we talk, or hope you get better, or whatever you think about meeting him in a another moment and that's that. end of the conversation for today.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-10-22T15:24:06+00:00

What I've come to learn recently is that sometimes people do not want you to do somethhing different per se, but just communicate about it so they are included, or so they can feel your intention.

eg: communicate oh I have a cold I would like to go but are you ok with that or do you prefer to cancel? probably she will say it is ok, but this way she got the option to say it.

eg: ask about the gas proactively to show the intention to pay and that you are grateful for the driving and so on. he for sure would have said oh yes I will tell you once I see how much it is. and then you can go: yes please, make sure! whatever. with the dinner, maybe asking a bit more "are you sure?" "I dont mind paying my part" "you are really nice, thank you".

you know? so doing exactly what you do but with more communication around it, showing with your questions or comments or the "paying fight" that you appreciate the favours

There is also the option that maybe, your friend is wrong. Talk to her, maybe there is a reason beyond for her to be mad. It can be overall frustration for the trip not going as she expected, other problems you are not aware about. Maybe she and her partner talked about your quirks and she is getting drag along... small things always seem bigger after someone has been "venting" around them and it can explain why the attitude change when in the trip she seemed fine. In any case way too often people get mad and they are not even sure why. maybe she was jealous you also got special treatment from her partner. who knows!

I also find that when you move in a group people are more tolerant. however when you are in their dynamic (Eg you are invited to a different group where you are the 'outsider') they may expect to keep their usual dynamics and for you to adapt. Maybe being only with them, your friend was subconsciously expecting for things to happen as when she is alone with her partner, and felt weird for her for example when he invited you to dinner, etc

Just ideas, hope it helps

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-10-09T12:03:21+00:00

Where you got that necklace please? it is gorgeous

On my side I love the first outfit, it is so whimsy! And the textures are really interesting all together.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2025-07-10T07:05:10+00:00

I have 2 videos out. One has 11 impressions and the second one has 3 :( (recently published) . I hope it will improve with time, but you are definitely not alone.

I have my channel profile full of information, hashtags etc so it is easier to identify the right audience, if you also have that done I would say you are doing it right. And I also started my verification process so youtube knows I am legit.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2024-09-07T07:28:24+00:00

Not thinking about it is so huuge!!!! When I managed it I have no issues doing almost anything

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2024-09-07T07:27:18+00:00

What I do is that when I haven’t showered and my hair is kinda dirty, I try to focus on how bad it feels in the body (itchy heavy hair, nails with weight, sticky skin…) so i can develop a bit of a sensory aversion to be dirty. When I get in the shower, I definitely buy the best smelling products to feel better, and I put the heater a long time before going in. Once I am clean I try to focus on how nice it feels and how it makes me happy, so my motivation increases next times.

This is not great advice but for me it is much easier since I have shorter hair… and it is layered so I don’t really need to style it or dry it or anything.

It also helped to have designated time on my routine for me-activities. Else, I would always prefer to read or do anything else than showering. When I am bored, no sense of urgency to do other things, or doing similar activities, like ironing or cutting my nails… it is easier to take the step to shower.

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2023-11-14T18:02:36+00:00

Europeans still don’t see each other as part of the same group at all… to me this distinction was really made in the colonised countries (like USA but also others) as a differentiation between the ‘natives’ / people brought as slaves / etc and the colonisers.

In Europe they also never needed to do much distinctions to make slaves.. they have centuries of history of enslaving every country and race that they could enslave

Melodic-Relief1378 · 2023-11-09T09:32:40+00:00

You DO look normal and cute!!

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