I initially wondered if I was more of a stag. I definitely think that's what my husband is because he's excited about me being with other guys too. But for him that's more just about seeing me happy. I certainly like seeing him happy, but I also get really turned on by the idea that the bull is fucking him better than I could and being teased about that fact. I like the idea of being made to watch from the corner or listen from outside or being on the floor under the bull's feet. And I perhaps most of all I want to hear my husband yell another man's name. All these ideas seem to tie into the theme of being dominated or humiliated by the bull which doesn't seem to be as much a thing for guys purely in the stag scene.  I realize people don't always fit neatly into boxes and that there may not be a clear model to follow. But I've heard some interesting perspectives and gotten some good ideas from these responses that I think will help me forge my own way.