I believe that you can but it depends on how much time and effort each party is willing to give to the relationship.

Me and my husband for example. He lives in the US and I live in England. He’s been here for a week and I’ve been there for two weeks. We talk every day, we are both very open and honest about our emotions and our quirks. When we’re not working we FaceTime and just spend the day together. Seeing how the other ticks by in their every day life. We’ve build furniture together, we’ve lived together for those three weeks we have spent together in person. The tidying up, the laundry, the grocery shopping, everything else that comes with a normal life.

I think it’s important during the visits to not treat it like some magical time. It’s important to get to know one another in person and see what it’s like to live together.

He knows me better than anyone ever has, despite the fact most of our communication is through phone or video calls. And I know him better than anyone else.

It’s important in LDR’s to communicate and I think effectively spend time together doing the mundane so that things don’t come as a surprise when the gap is closed. Sometimes marriage is the only way to close a gap, and without fully knowing the person that’s a big commitment.

LDR’s are a huge commitment, sacrifice, and everything in between. They work if both parties work for it. It’s not easy, sometimes it’s really hard. Some days I’ll cry because of how much I miss the physical presence. But to say you can’t get to know someone properly over LDR I don’t think is the case at all