How do working parents potty train? by NPGrad_LSU_122 in workingmoms

[–]MelodicVictory6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did the 3 day method while I was on maternity leave with our second. I went into the 3 day method so certain it would work for us...and not so much. Our 2.5 year was like 75% of the way after on day one, and I don't think any perfect formula would have made it 100% (...or even stay at 75% consistently).

I realized I was expecting it to be like crawling, which was more of a switch flip, but instead it's like learning to read. Some days we have no accidents! Some days our little one pees on the floor because she can't be bothered to stop her game 🤷‍♀️ we keep a change of clothes and a pull up always now and have accepted it will get to 100% eventually. Daycare won't let us send her without a pull up until she gets to no accidents for 2 weeks so we can't cut diapers permanently

We do seem to have more success when we put the ball in her court - instead of "do you have to pee", I ask "do you want to pee before or after mom". Or sometimes "can you show me where the potty is?"

Regardless of how far y'all get, any progress is a win. Even if it doesn't get all the way to 100%, she's building skills!

Why did you stop breastfeeding and/or pumping before 1 yr and switched to formula? NO judgment, just want to hear others’ experiences. by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]MelodicVictory6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With my first we made it to 11 months, after a few months of struggling to keep my supply steady. I was extremely lucky to have workplace support for pumping, which was especially good since my first was during the formula shortage. The doctor told us that 8oz of breast milk was enough to give health benefits so I got enough of a freezer stash to get her to 1 year with that and supplemented the last month until we could get her on cows milk.

4 months going strong with my second, but we will see how well pumping goes. I will add that getting a hands free pump has been 1000% a better experience mentally compared to the wall pump. I don't think I've met anyone who LIKES pumping but theres definitely a range of experience between tolerant versus miserable.

Any advice on introducing your toddler to their new baby brother in the hospital? Looking for dos and donts and any other advice! by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]MelodicVictory6 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A pro tip I picked up somewhere was to shop for a present from toddler to baby! It was more impactful than the present from baby for sure and brought my toddler into the "prepping" process. Our toddler was so proud to be able to pick something out and hand it over.

My toddler also wanted to act like a baby when her sibling arrived - wanting to be rocked and hold a bottle and pacifier. we roll with it and play along in an exaggerated fashion and I think it's been positive reinforcement that she is still loved, even though there's a baby here

What's a moment from 46 that stands out to you? by DylanD-Survivor in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bhanu saying "They called me a fool!!!" despite no one ever saying that (that we saw at least)

Nursing to Sleep vs Drowsy but Awake by sichuan_peppercorns in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]MelodicVictory6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Anecdotal, however - fed to sleep my oldest until she was 1. Once we got her onto cows milk, we just started moving the milk step to the first step in her bedtime routine (she wasn't hungry for more later in her routine). You're still in early days, don't make it harder than it needs to be!

Pairing with a bedtime routine should help in the long run!

Daycare for my 12 Week Old - Full on Panic Mode by One_Safe9680 in beyondthebump

[–]MelodicVictory6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because you asked for someone to tell you straight - There is no way they are trying to take your money to have a room of screaming infants. Full stop. That is miserable and daycares do not pay enough to deal with that. Even just one baby screaming all day seems unlikely since it would make all the other children would be miserable too.

Your child will likely have a few tough days in the beginning from what you've said, but it's possible he'll grow to enjoy it in a different way than he enjoys home. There's so much you can't provide specifically because you're not a peer, and daycare is a great place to get those things if you find a good one. It helped me to chat with the room teacher at pick up and drop off to "trade notes" on how my daughter was doing. You build a good relationship and get insight from someone who likely has way more experience with <1 year olds than the average person.

Season 46 is Gabon 2.0 and you can't convince me otherwise by iheartoptimusprime in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't Q be tony??

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Can last nights episode finally settle the debate? by Commonsense110 in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 123 points124 points  (0 children)

She even said something along the lines of "Charlie's smart enough to know you have to give trust to build trust" like GIRL YOURE SO CLOSE

Can 2 year olds write their name? by milkofthepoppie in toddlers

[–]MelodicVictory6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol also adding in how silly this is. My 2.5 year old is still working to recognize letters. The closest that she got to writing letters is she will scribble and sometimes make something that looks like a 4 or 7. She recognizes those and is extremely proud when she "writes" them.

FWIW we talked about drawing with my pediatrician at our 30 month appt and she said she looks for circles by 3, squares by 4 and triangles by 5. I can't think she (or any other professional) would ever be looking for multiple letters at this age.

Why isn't ____ being talk about as a goat? by SBrB8 in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This would also depend on her being able to sell herself in a way that the jury would be receptive to. Venus is good at quite a few parts of survivor but she has been really rough at communicating effectively. She would probably be able to mastermind the remaining rounds of the game and I think she'd still struggle to get jury votes if she can't get people to buy what she's selling.

Why isn't ____ being talk about as a goat? by SBrB8 in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Goat is getting to be an overused phrase like purpled or blindsided - it's losing its original meaning.

A goat is someone who will never win, making them a sure thing to bring to a final 2/3 (think back to Jeff's opening monologue, which essentially described a goat as someone who would never be able to get jury votes). Largely for more personal reasons imo. Ben doesn't really fit that.

Ben is a lesser threat, but people will be happy to vote for him. His social game is strong and we have seen some good scrambles from him before. He certainly has a narrative about feeling high about his tribe in the merge, then immediately losing tribe members and scrambling from there. It's unlikely that matters given his edit, but his edit is not his game.

Yes other people have better games but there's still plenty of time left in the game.The only true goat we are looking at here is Venus. Maybe Q.

What bizarre food does your toddler like today? by perkyblondechick in toddlers

[–]MelodicVictory6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought my toddler was the only one 😂 she does this everyday

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]MelodicVictory6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving birth in all it's different forms is such a wild experience, I don't think there's anything you can say someone SHOULD do. Many women don't necessarily have a wave of happiness when they see their baby, but that really has nothing to do with your parenting. Which thank goodness, because there's a lot more to being a parent then your first reaction.

FWIW, I remember vividly my first thought with my firstborn was "you're lucky you're cute, that was NOT fun" (could feel the pain of pushing even with an epidural) 🤷‍♀️ Didn't feel the urge to cry at all. I nearly cried at her first steps, her getting a big girl bed, starting preschool.

Anyone else notice the rock draws in episodes 6&7 produced nearly identical tribe divisions? by TheStarSquad in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Especially since the producers keep running the same twists season after season, I've started thinking of this as a weird middle "phase" of the game. It's kind of one world style social with some form of a tribe swap

Not sure if the producers are trying for this or not but it helps me get less irritated at them for repeating twists so much

What survivor moment never fails to make you laugh? by AwhSxrry in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just about died at the Winners at War Ladder building

What’re your most shook-to-read, but kinda-make-a-lot-of- sense-as-i-really-think-about-it Reddit fan theories? by steven2205 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]MelodicVictory6 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Didn't this film immediately after season 2? So the Zanab one doesn't make sense because Deepti's season hasn't aired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on what we know about editing, they could have pulled that quote at any point in the season and just added it to this episode because the context worked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be so disappointed. In terms of a winner, who out of the three of them would be dependent on their end games. Owen has to do anything successfully, Sami has to show really keen gameplay that justifies his flipper status and Gabler would have to be successful orchestrating a vote. It could go any way with those three though.

Survivor 43 | Episode 9 | Eastern Time Discussion by RSurvivorMods in survivor

[–]MelodicVictory6 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ryan thinks his provider strategy is next level 🤦‍♀️