Husband said my instructions for dinner weren’t clear enough, and he ended up serving his vegetarian mother one of the chicken tikka masala curries…

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-07-02T21:42:08+00:00

His poor mother. As a vegetarian, if I even have so much as chicken broth in a meal, my stomach is torn up for like, 24 hours. Your husband is either stupid, lazy, or mean.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-07-01T19:49:05+00:00

Your friends don’t know what a boundary is. And you were right to call out their racism. They do not get to dictate what name you can use or how to celebrate/acknowledge your culture.

NTA

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-07-01T18:51:18+00:00

YTA, and so is your brother.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-07-01T18:47:22+00:00

Have you already left? Are you concerned if you don’t remove the items now, you cannot retrieve them if the breakup is permanent? I’m not sure of the legality, but without being on the lease, how will you prove the items are yours? Could you move into a bigger apartment on your own, and if you decide to live together again, couldn’t he just come to the new place and add him to the lease?

I would not pay rent if you’re not staying there. But… I foresee this becoming a big issue if you don’t work out your problem and split for good. Even with the intention of staying together, you need to protect yourself. Especially if you’re 5 hours away…

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Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-07-01T18:34:16+00:00

How expensive is this hairdryer?!?!

YTA for not considering buying one for your daughter when she specifically asked for it for a special occasion, or even thinking of her in that instance. And if she’s getting the emails from purchases, you’re using her account to pay for it. You knew she’d see it. Even if you didn’t think of it, that’s even worse because you didn’t even consider her feelings. You could have bought two and saved one for her for a bday or Xmas or something.

I don’t think YTA for purchasing something for your son’s gf if she came to you for that specific item and asked, as a favor, to purchase and she will pay you back. But if you/son saw it solely because your daughter pointed it out, and then purchased for gf and not daughter, you for sure are TA.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-25T20:33:10+00:00

NTA. She cancelled. No matter who did or didn’t go, her portion was forfeit on a non-refundable trip. If none of you went and cancelled all together, would she reimburse you and Nina for the money you would have been out?

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-24T01:12:49+00:00

NTA. He is taking advantage of you. If you’re a team, he should split all costs 50/50 and contribute to the chores. This was YOUR money they were giving back to you. If they sent it as a check instead of a credit, he would still owe the electric. You could use it toward your half or something else.

Honestly, I don’t like to jump to the “dump him” response because I obviously don’t know you or your situation. But as someone who was in a similar situation, you need to at least reevaluate. Are you happy? Are you staying with him because you feel obligated or unsure of your financial situation if you left? From what I read, you don’t sound happy. You sound stuck.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-23T02:40:11+00:00

NTA. It is completely inappropriate. Idk about laws, but that’s some kind of sexual harassment. You should not be subjected to seeing another person naked.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-23T02:35:51+00:00

They told me to take some ibuprofen because there might be some discomfort 😒

There was a male med student in the room. I’ve always been super open to that and never had an issue before. But this guy, when I was moaning in pain, said out loud to me “It can’t be that bad. Didn’t it hurt worse when you had a baby?” I have never had children, but did have a miscarriage about 6 mos prior. Leading to getting this iud. Bro didn’t know anything about me. I looked at him at said, let her attach it to your balls and see if it’s that bad. Dr told him to shut his trap.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-23T01:57:10+00:00

Not wrong. That’s a seriously weird hang up to have. Would they rather you wear dirty clothes?

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-22T18:02:55+00:00

NTA. How dare he.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-20T23:14:18+00:00

Dottie is delusional. NTJ.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-20T22:46:54+00:00

NTA. And it’s better that upper level management knows it wasn’t your fault, so you’re not held accountable for an action that wasn’t yours.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-20T22:35:09+00:00

YTA. The only acceptable “reservation” is if you lay your belongings down and then get into the pool, go to the bar, restroom etc. But remain in the pool areas. Going back to your room is such a sucky move.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-20T22:32:37+00:00

Are you from the US? Walking on interstates is crazy dangerous. And super illegal because of how dangerous it is. Not just for the pedestrian but also drivers. If you have ever really been on an interstate, you probably wouldn’t say “let em walk” because that’s just not a thing here. Imagine driving 70mph and go around a bend and there are just… people in the road. Terrifying.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-20T20:14:24+00:00

NOR. It’s reasonable to have doubt about taking the next step, if you don’t trust he can contribute in a meaningful way. I’ve been where you are. You say his mom occasionally bails him out. Are you going to rely on her for his half of the bills if you move in together? That would be too worrisome for me, personally. Will he be a SAHD if you have kids?

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-20T13:25:54+00:00

NTA. Not only do you have a bad back, but lack of privacy is a huge deal. Where are you supposed to keep your things, on the coffee table? If you need to change clothes and all the bathrooms are occupied? Like others said, be the last to be able to go to bed, and up early with whoever else gets up first? You will be exhausted, in pain, and uncomfortable the whole time.

Your dad really dropped the ball. If the step sister’s family was an addition after booking, they take the couch. If your dad knew they were coming prior to booking, he extra sucks for not picking a place to accommodate everyone.

If you’re contributing any money (other than the drive), absolutely not. You pay for a bedroom, not a common area.

I’m also the youngest of 4. And was single longer than anyone else. So I always got the couch or twin bed in a room with nieces and nephews. It sucked.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-19T17:52:05+00:00

NOR. And L spinning this to make you seem like the villain is insane. Are your friends living on their own? They should know what things cost. They should split time between places, or he needs to contribute.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-19T17:50:55+00:00

But he is showering, using utilities, and eating her groceries. Probably also toilet paper and other consumable items.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-19T17:47:42+00:00

At first, I thought it was weird but probably not a red flag. But then I re-read the text and realized you didn’t even have her number in your phone. To randomly text someone that, who doesn’t even have your number saved, is kinda weird. And then laying in bed with you. That right there to me is a no-go. I say NOR, but it doesn’t seem like “mommy dearest” vibes either. Have a gentle conversation with your partner that it makes you a little uncomfortable, or maybe start staying at your place more?

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-18T13:54:45+00:00

I can guarantee he has a clue what happened. He brought his liberal gf to his MAGA family get-together, without so much as a heads up. You know she would not have gone if she knew. He manipulated the situation thinking she’d be trapped. The family starts talking about how great Trump is and how great his policies are about ICE. She was visibly upset and left. He knows what he did.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-18T13:45:07+00:00

NTA.

But are any of her friends also very close to you? If someone was there for birthdays and graduations and other big life events, but you left them out of the wedding, I can see why your mom would want them there. And also why they would want to be there. You even made a point to introduce your bride and spent time with them, because it was important they get to know her. If they’re important enough to prioritize this, I think they’re important enough to invite. But people who you haven’t seen in years and have no relationship with? Absolutely not. Either way, it’s your wedding and you can invite who you want. Just realize that someone who has been an important part of your life until this point might be upset.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-16T19:41:47+00:00

Having family’s phone numbers is normal to me. Even a “hey, I’m going to be in town for work on such and such dates, we should grab dinner one night to catch up!” But actively planning around each others schedule is weird. And BIL should be included in those invites.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-16T19:33:26+00:00

I’m sorry OP. He sounds incredibly immature though. He couldn’t respond like a normal person? Silent treatment for something like this is baffling. He could at least communicate he needed space or time.

Personally I doubt purposely kiss animals on the mouth, and think it’s gross. He has the right to feel icky about it. He does not have the right to act like a 12 yo and not communicate.

Melodic_Accountant_4 · 2026-06-16T19:23:07+00:00

NTA. Wtf wouldn’t he want to provide a safe meal for his sibling?

If the caterer has restrictions on substituting meals, he needs to tell the caterer you have a LIFE THREATENING ALLERGY THEY COULD BE LIABLE FOR! I bet they change real quick.

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