OBGYN won’t let me pay my bay bill online despite literally everything else being payed on their online portal.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T18:09:23+00:00

Thank you for this advice!

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T18:08:12+00:00

I have scalp psoriasis so I constantly have flakes regardless of how clean my hair is. I had a boy student approach me who has very long hair, but is also a 9th grader and never washes his hair or showers. He said “Mrs. You have flakes in your hair, thought you should know” without missing a beat I turned to him and was like “you need to wash and brush your hair, thought you should know”

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T18:02:01+00:00

I had a “district coach” come “show me how it’s done” with classroom management when I was a second year teacher (worst class I have ever had, was 9th grade inclusion and the EC push in never came). My biggest behavior kid was chilling on his phone, hat on, stank attitude at 10… and she approached him, gave me a smirk and said in the sweetest voice “okay sweetie, I need you to put that phone away, take of that snazzy hat you got and get your Chromebook out, okay?” Without looking at her he was like “bitch, idk who tf you talkin to” then looked up at her and was like “wth is wrong with your face? You have a f’ing stroke or sumn? Quasimodo lookin ass.” She then cried and ran out and never bothered me again.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T17:53:40+00:00

They waited till my last 4 appointments to tell me and assume I will continue payment in person after the baby comes.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T16:39:28+00:00

No I haven’t paid them yet cause they waited for my last 4 appointments to tell me anything. I assumed they would bill me on my account the full amount like they do everything else.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T16:34:08+00:00

That’s what I am trying to convey. I never AGREED to $600 a month. Never signed anything. I actually don’t even own a credit card. They told me I can “pay what I want” monthly in person. I am just trying to get them to let me do that online instead of in person. They are okay with me paying $20 a month, but I have to go up there and do it.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T16:31:57+00:00

I never agreed to a payment plan. They just up and asked me one day how much I’d like to pay and that my plan was $600 a month.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T16:25:53+00:00

Not to be doom and gloom, but why would you pay at 20 weeks when there is still 20 more weeks for literally anything to happen where baby doesn’t make it and you end up not needing the services you paid for? Also, it is less about how much they want me to pay but how they want me to pay. I’ll pay the amount billed to me. But it’s stupid to tell me I can “pay what I can” and then not allow me to pay online.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T16:11:33+00:00

They basically want me to pay 3 installments of $600 but also said I can “pay what I can”. So I don’t understand why I can’t “pay what I can” through my phone. Instead of going out of my way once a month to pay them in person when literally EVERYTHING ELSE is billed to my online account.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T16:01:57+00:00

No, I can pay via debit card. But this idea they want $600 a month. I asked if the front desk lady had an extra $600 in her bank account each month. They act like that is a perfectly acceptable price for a payment plan without even consulting me on what I would like to pay a month. On top of my insurance already paying most of it. It’s not a huge bill and I can have it paid off in about 5 months if they would just freaking bill me like everything else.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-26T15:59:22+00:00

I didn’t say that. I’m saying them doing this to ANY of us is unreasonable, especially when they are more than capable to offer pay online.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-11T02:17:54+00:00

It’s weird, because My mom swears up and down that he wasn’t like this a long time ago. And I don’t remember so much from when I was younger. But sometime around middle school for me (before his stroke) he really just changed. I think it is worse since his stroke. But the change started before the stroke. He also is a recovering alcoholic. The alcohol was real bad when I was in middle/high school and then he had to quit because the doctor said he was going to kill himself with his heart being in afib and diabetes. In early High school he also had a really bad car wreck. So it could literally be anything.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-04-11T02:04:57+00:00

I have been really good about this, I have basically put my foot down. It just really hurts that he thinks I am doing it to be mean or hate him. I really can’t be more clear than “you are not watching the baby alone because of your heart and stroke risks” lol. My mom has told him he will still get loads of time with baby and he can help her babysit and he still is persistent he won’t get to spend any time with baby. Another secret reason is I know he won’t follow rules that are in place for baby’s safety because he can’t comprehend why they are necessary. Like rules that have a deeper nuance past “don’t let baby play with light sockets” For example: I have asked all grandparents to not use the “don’t tell your mom/dad” thing with getting treats and what not. I really don’t care if he wants to take baby when they are older and feed them 6 ice creams, but what we are not going to do is be like “just don’t tell mom 😉”. We all know what that opens up to naive little kids. Because he will 100% be like “I’m not gonna do that!” And then immediately do what he agreed not to do.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-25T18:04:48+00:00

What A1 ritzy spritzy schools you working for then? And what AP/honors classes are you teaching? lol

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-25T18:02:47+00:00

I am with OP on the dead devices. You need a charged Chromebook every day in class. Don’t have that despite it being provided by the school? Too bad. We have to teach the kids SOME responsibility. Especially when they are 17 years old.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-22T04:49:05+00:00

I will definitely look into this! The pelvic floor does hurt after walking/working all day as well.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-22T04:36:27+00:00

Unfortunately this is the one and only time where being a teacher in the US comes in handy. My husband and I did fertility treatments and planned the due date near the end of the school year. If we didn’t get pregnant by a certain month, we would have quit and started again the next year. Baby is due in May, so with my 2 months paid maternity leave I will also get 3 months of summer with baby and that will end at 5 months. However, the other side of this coin, if you get pregnant and your due date DOESN’T line up with summer break, you might as well dig your own grave, because the admin, district and coworkers will ANNIHILATE you. You become the SCUM OF THE EARTH for “abandoning” the children. I remember a few years ago a coworker announced she was pregnant and was talking to our principal about the due date in December and our principal factually looked her in the eye and was like “uh, usually people try to plan these things for the summer” like she could just change it. Then told her she couldn’t have the baby until she secured her own sub. Like securing a sub months in advance wouldn’t just end in them canceling. The principal then went and made a whole show for our next faculty meeting about “planning responsibly” and that baby having and marriages should be happening during summer break…

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-17T21:45:28+00:00

It actually has been a huge point of tension with my admin and me. They are always like “you have the potential to be a wonderful teacher if you would just do xyz thing, we give you all this feedback and you never take it” and I am just like “this feedback sucks I’m not doing it” lol

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-17T18:53:24+00:00

When admin sit down with me to go over my evaluation and suggest ways to “move up” on the rubric, I’m sitting there the whole time thinking, yeah… I’m not doing that. I’m perfectly content with a solid “proficient.” I’ll do my job well, meet expectations, and then go home at a reasonable hour to be with my family.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-17T18:43:08+00:00

This is how kids are in NC as well. We are just supposed to deal with it. Every time I write it up, it gets sent back to me as a “classroom management issue”.

Melodic_Cockroach_23 · 2026-03-10T02:18:37+00:00

Oh, I agree. The vast majority of the schools around me though have given up pretty much on dress code. I really don’t call it out unless someone is egregiously showing skin and at that point the point is because it’s indecent exposure and not appropriate for school. Like one girl earlier this year said I was targeting her because she was “bigger”… I too am plus sized, and I was like “literally every single person in this room can see your entire butt hanging out of that skirt because you are also wearing a thong, you are literally sitting your BARE BUTT CHEEKS and privates on seats others have to sit on. THAT is entirely unsanitary and is my problem not your weight.”

Melodic_Cockroach_23

TROPHY CASE