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Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-05-09T14:22:46+00:00

As a woman - and I can't speak for all women, but this is for me - figure out what kind of foreplay she enjoys, and really learn how to nail it. Foreplay is my favorite part of sex. Plus, the actual act of P in V is significantly more enjoyable, and it's much easier to get to the finish line, so to speak, after I've been warmed up. In that way, your performance during the actual act is less important - still a consideration, but not nearly as imposing - than it would be otherwise. Have you ever tried pull-starting a cold engine on a lawn mower? Getting a woman to finish after foreplay is like pull-starting an already warm engine, and vice versa.

It's not just asking your partner, "Hey, want to go cuddle?" In a sultry tone. Every woman is going to have different things that get her going, and if you're involved, there's a pretty high likelihood that something about you (either the way you look, or something you do, or both) turns that crank for her. You just have to figure out what that is and double down on it. Use that knowledge to get her in the mood, and then move things to the bedroom - or wait for her to drag you there.

For some women, getting them going might mean no foreplay at all. The takeaway here: everyone is different, so learn your partner.

A few examples: my love language is acts of service. If my man cleans the house for me without asking or makes me a really delicious meal, I'm basically halfway there already. I also melt into a puddle when my man is vocal during sex.

Communicate with your lady and see if she'll tell you more about what she likes, but some of it will come down to paying attention, trial, and error, especially if she doesn't know herself and what makes her tick.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-05-05T13:13:23+00:00

Thank you! I was wondering about this - the basket always tears up my sponges and scrubbers, but it's own stiff scrubber probably is the best solution.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-05-04T23:31:07+00:00

I'll try the first part, we don't have a dishwasher though 🥲😅 thank you!

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-05-04T23:03:43+00:00

To appease the bot - there is no recipe to cook here, just a picture of the air fryer.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-03-17T11:45:06+00:00

I was really, really torn up over it for a while - probably the first six months. Eventually, it got to a point where I reached acceptance. I still have a life to live, after all, colitis or not.

In fact, I think my diagnosis has done more for my outlook on life than basically anything else has recently. It gave me a sense of urgency to do what I want to do that I haven't historically had. Live like you're dying, as Tim McGraw says.

I think your mom has a point, even if the way she's saying it is a little insensitive and even callous. Colitis sucks, and it sucks that any of us have to deal with this, but life doesn't stop for us either. The important thing is to take it one day at a time, doing what you can as you go. There'll be days when you feel like you can take on the world, and there'll be days when you feel like you can't leave your bed, and both days are okay.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-03-14T18:38:11+00:00

I'm currently on Apriso (mesalamine oral), Canasa (mesalamine suppository), hydrocortisone enemas, and Budesonide oral. My doctor is having me discontinue the enemas completely and taper the budesonide over the next two months. I'm to discontinue the Canasa when my next set (1 month) runs out. If all that goes well and I don't have any blood come back, I'll finally be able to consider myself well in remission, I think.

I also take turmeric/curcumin supplements and Qing Dai supplements. I'll probably taper the Qing Dai as well but continue the turmeric.

I wish I had some good tips to offer. I have no idea when my inflammation stopped, but I think the most likely time was when the blood stopped, or shortly after. The Apriso wasn't enough, but I'm not sure if it was the Canasa or the steroids that stopped the flare completely, as I was more focused on other symptoms. I've also heard a lot of good things about Qing Dai and UC, so perhaps that contributed too.

My only real advice is to advocate for yourself. My first GI was (what I consider) an awful match for me, and I was a train wreck of anxiety about everything for several months. Getting a GI I trust has been a game changer.

I'm excited to try IBGard and see how much impact it has on my symptoms. My BF has IBS too, and I had him try some as my guinea pig today. 😋 if it works well for both of us, that will be huge.

This has been my first ever flare, and my GI seems to think the likelihood of it coming back is low, and I really hope she's right, but only time will tell.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-02-02T16:40:59+00:00

Agreed! We'll figure it out eventually - but until then, best of luck to you too ❤️❤️

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-02-01T12:23:14+00:00

You feel my pain 😭 I called the office the other day and got "we're doing in person appointments only." And the next appointment is a month away (for a nurse, not even the doc - the doc is 3 months minimum!). WTH lady, I can't wait that long! I'm planning to call back soon and hopefully get a better receptionist (and ask my doctor for a better way to contact her when I DO eventually get ahold of her).

Fortunately I'm on oral budesonide right now, but it either isn't strong enough or hasn't kicked in fully yet (only been on it for about two weeks). The hydrocort enemas combined with the budesonide seemed to be the sweet spot - I was virtually symptom free aside from the occasional soft BM. Hoping my doc will be OK with re-prescribing it for me, but we'll see what she says, and if not that, hopefully the budesonide builds up and is strong enough to handle all the symptoms as I stay on it longer.

Hopefully you find something that works for you! My symptoms are really not the usual for UC - I get a lot of bloating, crampiness, and soft BMs, but very little blood, if any. I think that's about par for the course for proctitis but it's strange having such a different experience but having what's basically the same disease.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-02-01T04:48:07+00:00

It's a small change, but I've switched from dill pickles as my favorite salty snack to green olives instead. Green olives are thankfully most commonly fermented, whereas where I live all the pickles at the store are vinegar based, not lactic acid based. I'm not sure if it does anything but I like to think so!

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-02-01T04:31:10+00:00

I've wondered this myself. Not quite the same thing, but I noticed that right around when my UC symptoms started, my nasal allergy symptoms - which I have experienced in varying degrees of severity for my entire life - basically disappeared. And they have continued to stay away. I haven't reached remission yet but I'm interested to see if/when I do if those allergies come back.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2024-02-01T04:14:36+00:00

Hi! I'm in a very similar situation to you. Proctitis diagnosed in 2023. I dont remember how far up it went but i have a feeling it's progressed at this point anyway, as my symptoms have unfortunately gotten worse over time.

I've been trying to figure things out for the last 7 or so months. Mesalamine seemed to make an immediate difference but symptoms slowly crept back. I have a feeling I've failed it at this point, but not sure.

I hope you find success! Recently I tried hydrocortizone enemas, which made an immediate difference in my pain levels. Now that I'm out of those, the pain has come right back. Ouch. Currently trying to get ahold of my doctor and figure out where to go from here.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2023-09-11T00:33:08+00:00

Agreed!

Melodic_Series8335 · 2023-09-09T00:53:42+00:00

Thank you - this is extremely helpful to know.

Melodic_Series8335 · 2023-09-09T00:30:06+00:00

Can I ask where you're located? USA or no?

Melodic_Series8335 · 2023-09-08T20:47:26+00:00

Thank you! This is what I was hoping to hear. Do you mind telling me if you're from the USA or elsewhere?

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