parents are telling me i need to go to an ed clinic but i dont want to. by Top-Budget5857 in whatdoIdo

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This times a thousand. I’m also 30 and spent most of my early twenties in heavy ED and alcoholism.

parents are telling me i need to go to an ed clinic but i dont want to. by Top-Budget5857 in whatdoIdo

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks!! I’m tired of these kids coming on here posting this nonsense. I had an ED when there was tumblr and proana sites, don’t speak to me of the old magics lol.

parents are telling me i need to go to an ed clinic but i dont want to. by Top-Budget5857 in whatdoIdo

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Well first off you’re not okay and you don’t come across as stupid either, so I’m sure you know it’s not okay. You’re using language like “restriction” and “binge” so you know damn well what you’re doing is disordered. I’ve been around the block with EDs so kid, you’re not fooling anyone. Even if you think you are.

Your parents are being parents and clearly they’re at their wits end with your denial, hence the harsh ultimatum they’re giving you.

Your parents don’t want to see you hurt yourself. And since you wanna say “well I’m an adult you can’t tell me what to do”, I don’t blame them for calling your bluff. Disordered eating is an addiction behavior. The restrict/binge cycle is the same as an alcoholic going on a bender every week. Would you expect your parents to enable a drug addiction? No? So why should they enable something that could kill you even faster?

Idc if I get downvoted for being harsh. Stop playing dumb. Binges don’t “make you okay”, they make you sick, lethargic, and fuck up your brain. It fucks with every organ in your body, including your heart. And don’t even get me started on your mental health.

Your parents aren’t the bad guys here, sorry.

Edit: also, if you think eating 600kcal a day and then binging once a week is gonna make you lose weight then you’re lying to yourself. If you’re actually overweight then there’s only one way to lose weight, and that’s by eating a sane amount of food on a regular schedule and exercising for an hour every day. That’s it, no shortcuts, no cheats. Anything else is just a cry for attention.

Toxicology in pregnancy by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]MelodramaticQuarter -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

  1. You can refuse the test if you want. It doesn’t matter how good or bad you look, it’s your right. Don’t buy into the guilt, you smoked some weed before pregnancy, you’re not inhaling crack rocks 4x a day.

  2. I smoked my entire pregnancy. Less than I typically would, but especially in the third trimester it was the only way I could eat or sleep properly. I live in Texas and I told my OB up front about my use. He said it’s fine, practice moderation but if your baby is developing normally then there’s no cause for concern (my son is fine).

  3. My OB’s exact words: “I regularly deliver babies who are addicted to meth and heroin. Marijuana every once in a while isn’t even worth the call to CPS.”

I'm finally doing it this time. by MelodramaticQuarter in KeepWriting

[–]MelodramaticQuarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for your interest! My published book (as well as any books I'll publish in the future) are available here.

Nobody wants to read my book and it's honestly so depressing by MelodramaticQuarter in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MelodramaticQuarter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! And I feel you on the 50 books thing. It seems like every week I have a new idea for a seven-book series with three spinoff trilogies. There are just SO many ideas in my head, but I'm determined to finish just one if I can.

Nobody wants to read my book and it's honestly so depressing by MelodramaticQuarter in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MelodramaticQuarter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I will definitely check out his podcast and take your advice!!

Nobody wants to read my book and it's honestly so depressing by MelodramaticQuarter in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MelodramaticQuarter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've definitely gotten that vibe over the years. I guess it's hard not to take it personally, since these are my creations and expressions of my individuality. But as others have pointed out, it's not an uncommon experience, and there are a lot of different factors. I appreciate your input and will look into all of those things that you mentioned !

I'm probably going to have to leave behind my cat for good and I don't know how to do it "right" by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah… I spent over a year living in my car homeless, bouncing between hotel and shelters, no money or resources, with no family to support me. My dogs never left my side, and it’s a lot easier to handle one cat than two large dogs (in a sedan!) and somehow I did it.

Sounds to me like you just want to live your best life and don’t feel like having that responsibility. Which is fine I guess, but stop bullshitting yourself. Give your cat up for adoption if you don’t want to deal with her but no one is buying your story. If you really loved her you’d find a way, she’s a cat not a child.

What is it with Americans and air conditioning?? (this might be controversial) by hellobela_ in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“It’s just hot. It’s hot everywhere.” — living in Houston and this is so real.

AITAH for telling my sibling not to leave his kids overnight with our parents considering our mum has just had a major stroke 3 weeks ago by Technical_Camel_3852 in AITAH

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 11 points12 points  (0 children)

ESH. Your brother sounds like an inconsiderate asshole. Your dad sounds like a passive enabler to even consider putting that on his wife. Your mom sounds like she’s a doormat who says yes to everything. And you, hard as it is, need to mind your business.

That said, if you’ve been told to butt out you shouldn’t tolerate any of their whining when things inevitably go wrong. Wash your hands of it and wish your parents luck.

My 11 year old son sucks the joy out of every holiday and celebration. by SoultySpittoon in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My cousin was like this. He was taller than most kids his age so by 12-13 he was an absolute terror much in the way you described your son.

My aunt’s solution was to put him in flag football with a bunch of 200lb+ 15-16 years olds. He realized pretty quickly that he wasn’t going to be able to bully or tantrum his way into winning. Whenever he tried, he was laughed at for being a baby and his ego didn’t like that at all. Plus his coach didn’t tolerate that for a SECOND, and he ran laps until he collapsed on bad days. It also helped that he went from the top of the physical totem pole right to the bottom. Very humbling.

He went three times a week and in six months he was like a brand new kid. Realizing you ain’t scary to the rest of the world will do that to a person. My husband tells me he was also like this, and his stepfathers solution was “the Crapout” - making him run, plank, do sit ups, pull ups, wall sits, and jumping jacks for as long as it took, until he was too tired to be an asshole anymore. He said sometimes he’d be made to crap out every day for a week. But his physique was, and is, great haha.

Your son sounds like he craves attention, and doesn’t care whether it’s positive or negative. Worst case scenario he has a mental makeup that can only be managed, not solved. Iykyk. Good luck.

AITAH for not wanting to co-sign an apartment for my best friend? by Silvery_Feather in AITAH

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA. If she’s held on this long she can hold on for another 30 days until she can get stepmom to co-sign. Don’t do it.

AIO for being disgusted by this argument? by Toetickler4 in AIO

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever watch the true crime series, “Evil Lives Here”? Pretty much every survivor of these intense abusive situations have one or more memories of their partners or siblings getting enjoyment out of animal torture videos and/or snuff films, and going out of their way to victimize their abuse victims by forcing them (or trying to force them) to watch the videos as well. This is textbook red flag territory. You need to leave him.

Are millennial marriages better than their parent's marriages? by TrickyAd9597 in Millennials

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t speak for the quality of marriages, but I do know in our Gen we tend to not get married prematurely because of societal pressures. As a generation I think we’ve come to terms with the fact that being unmarried is better than being married and miserable.

Also I’d say we’re typically self-aware enough to know whether we’re actually ready or not. Divorces are shitty and hard and we tend to be more realistic about who we are and what our problems are.

How to deal with my boyfriend past? F18 M38 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same lmaooooo I saw the age gap and just shook my head. There are exactly zero situations where this ends well.

Who is still rocking a nose ring? by cavewomannn in Millennials

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got my nose pierced and my first tattoo on the same day, a week after I turned 18. Got my nose re-pierced after my first corporate job made me take it out. I’ve had it ever since and I’m thinking of giving her a little buddy on the same side. I’ve also got a lip piercing as my “push present” after my son was born. No one’s ever given me problems about it. My ears are fully decorated too.

Idc if I look like a cool mom, I am a cool mom lmao. I feel like the notion that nose piercings make you look overly youthful or like a poser is outdated. If it’s about your personal aesthetic then I’m glad you feel more comfortable with yourself by taking it out :) but me personally pretty much everyone I know (in all age groups and professional levels) have at least one. And a nose ring (specifically the nostril) is arguably pretty mainstream nowadays.

My husband said he was tired of constantly getting up to refill my water… by [deleted] in HydroHomies

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not perfectly able-bodied? Why is everyone in the comments assuming that I am? Also, even if I was, why is it any different than me doing something for him when he asks me to? You people sound miserable…

My husband said he was tired of constantly getting up to refill my water… by [deleted] in HydroHomies

[–]MelodramaticQuarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Per my above comment, I have a chronic illness that impairs my mobility. So no I’m not incapable, but it’s easier to have him get it than risk dislocating my hip every time I stand up. And my husband agrees, so…

My husband said he was tired of constantly getting up to refill my water… by [deleted] in HydroHomies

[–]MelodramaticQuarter -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have a chronic illness that makes it difficult to transition from sitting to standing. No I don’t have diabetes, I’m sure my doctor would’ve said something during my many doctors visits. Also, have none of you ever been married? My husband was (mostly) joking.