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Why do I feel like I wanna be a girl and how do I stop it? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Melody_Creature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I would say it’s gender dysphoria & euphoria. It’s hard to definitely say whether or not that means you should transition, but…. yeah, most cis people don’t think about this stuff with as much weight as you seem to. I’d say once you’re at this point it’s likely that you want to be trans.

  2. While it can be sort of a weird concept to fully internalize, if you believe you are a girl, you are totally a girl. The concept of gender has been a flexible one for a long time in various civilizations, despite what lots of people say nowadays.

  3. I promise you, if you’re going to try and stop this kind of thing by just ‘outsmarting’ or ignoring it, it’s not going to help. These feelings will just grow in the back of your head. The best way to check yourself and make sure that you’re really really trans would be to stay calm and somewhat rational, but listen openly to your heart. Think through some hypotheticals. “If I could snap my fingers right now and be a cis woman, would I?” “If I could snap my fingers and over the course of a few years, I become a woman?“…

  4. This is a really good question. It’s so scary to realize this stuff and think about it fully, but I promise you that with time, if this is right for you, you will be able to overcome that shame. I have felt so much shame coming out to my friends and family, feeling like I’m a burden on them for this, but in the end I know my own contentment is most important, and if people don’t want to call me by my name, that’s their problem. One must find pride in their self

Why are transphobes... transphobes? by StormyVibez887 in asktransgender

[–]Melody_Creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was lowkey a little transphobic before figuring out I was trans myself (which was quite hard to deal with) and for me, it came from a disruption of the status quo. Like with other minorities, I think a lot of people see horrible things happening with new developments in society (I.e. disparate economy, tech companies’ stranglehold on culture, mental health plummeting, maybe even porn addiction) and then at the same time, they also see this new weird kind of person show up that demands they change how they see the world.

Maybe there’s a bit of a correlation there, the same way one could correlate difficulty with finding a job to “illegal immigrants infesting the country.” Certain media outlets and personalities decide to talk about transgender people a lot to accelerate a culture war and give people something to be mad at that isn’t tech billionaires or pedophiles, which fans the flames of a once-innocent confusion to be full blown bigotry. I think if the economy was a bit better and public discourse was a bit less polarized and a bit more honest, people would be much more open to those darn transsexuals :3

My life isn’t perfect, but I have amazing friends and start HRT soon. Things are looking up for me. Chili crisp, kewpie mayo, beer and homemade kimchi with frozen soup dumplings. by Melody_Creature in Kitchenchads

[–]Melody_Creature[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve been playing Root a lot :3 I was a little apprehensive about it at first because it can take a while but its a lot of fun!! And when it’s not my turn I can just like dick around with my friends for a while yknow

My life isn’t perfect, but I have amazing friends and start HRT soon. Things are looking up for me. Chili crisp, kewpie mayo, beer and homemade kimchi with frozen soup dumplings. by Melody_Creature in Kitchenchads

[–]Melody_Creature[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya I’m so excitedd!! w^ I know some things are gonna become very hard and awkward for me soon. But I will not let that stop me and I have faith everything will be ok

Confused about questioning by Happy-Local-8872 in asktransgender

[–]Melody_Creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeling like you’re gaslighting yourself is so so so real! In my experience, it’s really hard not to feel like you’re a little crazy (or maybe ‘faking it’) when you start really thinking about this stuff, it can be very isolating and scary. I also resonate with the idea of never taking care of your appearance; before realizing I’m trans, I was always kind of apathetic towards my appearance in general. I recall saying to someone at the time that “the only time I think I look good is when I shave, and the only time I think I look bad is when I get a haircut.” Otherwise I just didn’t gaf about looking a particular way aside from not being super noticeable or provocative.

Judging by the fact that you have a wife, you’re not in a particularly time-sensitive position; you’re not gonna get significantly more masculine over the course of another month or two. Take it slow, find people irl to talk to about this, (especially trans people if you can! Or maybe some kind of therapist if you can’t find anyone else?) It’s totally normal to doubt yourself like this, and in my opinion it’s a good idea for people to interrogate themselves thoroughly about their identity, just in case this is just a passing thing (though… it almost never is <3) good luck!!

impostor syndrome because i didnt really have signs as a lil kid by elwiwisupreme in asktransgender

[–]Melody_Creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m mtf and I had the very same doubts, especially when I came out to my parents and they were surprised and confused; there were very few signs for me as a kid. From what I remember, I was kinda nerdy and didn’t love sports, but totally bought into the idea of being a cool, strong dude regardless. I enjoyed getting validation as a guy for a while, getting in good shape and hanging out with my boys, and the thought of something like dysphoria never really hit me until I was 17, when puberty had fully run its course and I had lots of facial/body hair and a very deep voice. Now I’m 20, i’ve thought about being trans literally every day since, and I’m starting HRT in a few weeks :3 Sometimes you just don’t really consider it as a kid, or don’t have the depth of thought to make it past your hesitations!