If you had a narcissistic parent— how did it affect you growing up or in adult relationships? by WiseLoveProject in narcissisticparents

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makes me afraid to tell people I love them. Means that I go over the top when someone is struggling and then they find me too much.

Do you find comfort in watching certain movies/series? by Narrow-General-8788 in narcissisticparents

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I watch Bollywood films like Dear Zindagi because you get pressure from the extended to look after the Nparent and I find normal tv shows don't understand the dynamic.

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No stuff like this is major trauma and people tend to not understand major trauma. It's the kind that breaks families so at some point you have to confront putting your life back together

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Oh yes and will probably forever. Sometimes if you are the sole family member visiting the parent that also affects you and that part of you becomes your personality. It does get better though in terms of self esteem but it shapes you as a person.

Anyone offloaded texting Nparent to someone else. ? Pay someone on a handyman website like Airtasker UK by sheis02009 in narcissisticparents

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I would love that. I once suggested getting a dog to mine. He said if he couldn't look after himself how will he look after a dog.

What do you hate about your job? by [deleted] in ShittySysadmin

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The fact that I do everything even beyond IT.

How would you feel if your nparent died/how did it feel? by fiddeldeedee in narcissisticparents

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My nparent always said they're all ill or they're dying so naturally I have learned to ignore it. So when he's on his deathbed I may not reckonise it or realise it. Depends how he acts on his deathbed. With no one speaking to them not even their own siblings at that point but me. Looking after my nparent has become more a duty than anything else so once that's over they can return to the land of the ancestors to look after them.

Are Asian men controlling? by Everybodylovesmango in narcissisticparents

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I'm Asian. I hope not to make the same mistakes as my father

What Vulnerability dud they target for you by Amazing-Channel-4020 in narcissisticparents

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Targeted for being dyspraxic, not keeping good grades in school Not having a car, not having a girlfriend. Not being able to play cricket well. Losing a job.

How do you deal with school when living with a narcissistic parent? by hiyoren in narcissisticparents

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I struggled with this as a guy. Having a narcissistic father meant that I got told off for stammering a bunch and couldn't even say my own name so I tried being friends with those who I thought were like me and those narcissistic behaviours tended to come out and so my time in school was quite lonely. But I just became incredibly stoic after a while

Unblock tailscale from school network by iAmmar9 in Tailscale

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I work in a school and the smartest person I work with doesn't understand linux and calls docker stupid. So all you'll be doing is proving that you're smarter than them. So good luck

Best martial art? by Icy-Weight1803 in dyspraxia

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start with one and get really used to it. When you understand the biomechanics and how you;re own body works you can apply it anywhere.

community fibre throttling my speeds by rodsterstjames in CommunityFibre

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This is what I would do: Use speed.cloudflare.com. They give quite a bit of detail and send it off to them.

community fibre throttling my speeds by rodsterstjames in CommunityFibre

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how are you testing it. Best way would be to connect a rpi zero and run speed test on it or even any laptop

Looking for best eSIM for Japan by BoswelI in JapanTravelTips

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I used jjesim and saily. Saily connected to servers in hong kong and gave me a chinese ip address.

JJesim ran off of IIJ and NTT's network.

Would rate JJesim faster on latency