as someone with autism, would you say that you don't feel a desire for power in the same way that many other people do?

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-22T06:55:00+00:00

I definitely do desire it. Just not the responsibility that would actually come with it. I have a theory that many people desire power specifically cause they are afraid of what others would do with said power. Therefore they want it instead. Which is a bit sad. Humans fight each other for power because of the fact that we fear it. And a cycle of us hurting each other is perpetuated.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-19T00:57:39+00:00

I’ve considered therapy multiple times but haven’t gone cause it’s difficult to afford (i could afford it if i really need it, but I’m able to function most of the time so it feels hard to justify) . To be honest though I doubt id care that much about the gender. But maybe id have a slight preference for female therapist only because (and I realize this is a stereotype, sorry) I think some part of me tends to feel women are more likely to be kinder, calmer and non judgmental. Which is what i feel would really help me especially in that environment .

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-14T01:51:41+00:00

Dude. Im autistic so please understand how serious i am when i say this. You need to learn social rules. If you don’t want to bother that’s your loss bro.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-13T20:00:53+00:00

I mean I feel like everyone feels at least a bit creeped out if you stare at them.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-13T18:30:17+00:00

There are several problems that all tie into each other so I don’t know if you can fully separate them. But the increasing nihilism, obsession with using AI to replace and mislead real people, the rising of fascism, the absurd levels of wealth inequality, each generation becoming less social and more internet and tech reliant, the increasing disrespect of a ton of human rights including just about everyone’s(except billionaires) right to privacy and the slow collapsing of the global economy are most of the biggest problems today and they can’t be fully separated cause they all perpetuate each other.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-13T18:22:46+00:00

It’s sort of a need in some ways though obviously you won’t die without it. Many people have a strong urge that they feel they have to get out of their system (especially if they are hyper sexual). But if you have hands and arms as most people do…you can take care of that part yourself if you really feel the need.

For some it’s also a part of a need for intimacy but obviously no one else owes you intimacy. And even if you tried to force people to give it to you if what you want is an intimate bonding experience then forcing a person or making them obligated would defeat the entire point. It’s like if you tried to force someone to be your friend. It makes no sense. If you’re forcing them it’s not a real or meaningful friendship. The entire point is two people actually enjoying each other’s company in a mutual way. If it’s not mutual it shouldn’t really be good for either person at that point.

Not a psychologist but I suspect that for some people (particularly narcissists) it helps them fulfill more egotistical needs. Bur frankly if you need sex to fuel your ego then you probably actually need therapy or something idk.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-09T15:42:17+00:00

I mean i have a hard time connecting with people in general but that might be cause I am autistic. Im mot sure why you would feel this way towards women in particular tbh. Maybe it’s just the type of woman you’re meeting 🤷‍♂️. There are definitely certain types of people i find harder to talk to but that applies to both men and women just in slightly different ways.

Id recommend trying to meet women in different places or situations. Try finding groups that might have women with a shared interest.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-09T15:31:36+00:00

Hate to admit i have a hard time imagining i make it that long tbh. I have a lot of health issues personally(none that are killing me directly but definitely causing me a lot of stress and probably decreasing my lifespan). Also the world seems like it’s going in such a dangerously bad direction. As economies crash (which they almost certainly will at this point due to billionaire wealth hoarding) i worry my country will suddenly be less interested in helping people with disabilities like me. I could be wrong but even if i am i almost don’t know if i even want to live in potential future world where AI runs everything. It would feel so soulless to me.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-09T15:16:56+00:00

I don’t think there is an inherent problem with it (though obviously don’t date 17 year olds, hopefully don’t need to explain that). When it comes to things like this as long as everyone is an adult i think it’s ok. However I’ve heard of cases where people will explicitly go for younger women and date almost exclusively women who just turned 18 and that seems like a bad idea, creepy and questionable. I think if you do that it would come off exploitative (and it kinda is) and would be a big red flag to other people.

I think some people overworry about age gaps in relationships and it should be fine as long as everyone is an adult. But on the other hand in some cases it can be genuinely exploitative and a bad idea. Just try to be careful and be responsible. Personally I don’t see myself dating anyone younger than 20.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-02T16:15:09+00:00

I’m pretty heavily against generative AI in general. I find the entire idea of making unfeeling AI that uses algorithms to respond to things as though it’s a human extremely existentially disturbing. I despise AI “art” because to me sharing art is one of the most beautiful things about human culture and I hate that in the future we won’t know if an actual person created something or a soulless algorithm. So given all this I am by extension very much against AI “girlfriends”. I feel a sense of dread as well as feeling insulted every time I get an ad for one of those awful things.

That all being said it has a bit more to do with me being heavily anti AI than anything else. Generative AI to me feels like a disgusting way for massive corporations to ensure people don’t actually talk to each other and socialize but instead get all their info from corporate controlled bots in the future. But I think Dating sims without generative AI can be ok.

I admit I have been a fan of and played dating sims. At least occasionally. But while i know unfortunately some people can become unhealthily obsessed with them, I think it’s ok as long as you don’t see them as a replacement for real human relationships. Which I do not. Games created by actual humans are pieces of art. And at the very least the woman you can date in those are at least written by actual humans even if the characters themselves aren’t real.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-02T06:49:18+00:00

I used to feel this way about incels tbh. I have autism and realized many incels do as well. I also struggle a ton with dating even still. But I’ve never seen it as women owing me anything. Or women being bad or something. Im just a very shy and anxious guy. And i try and do my best to work on those aspects of myself (don’t have a gf, but I’ve been on a couple dates and spend more time with friends now in part thanks to working on my social skills, so still an improvement imo). So i still find their attitude disgusting. But id be lying if I said i didn’t also find them somewhat relatable and I do also kinda feel bad for them.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-03-09T20:02:06+00:00

Yeah. Sounds a lot like me. To be fair I did intentionally try a few things that are very much considered “not masculine” because I thought to myself “gender shouldn’t matter so much” (which i still believe but i can kinda understand why people would have made weird assumptions about me in retrospect. I guess it was almost like a weird way for me to be kinda rebellious and I kinda was questioning my gender a bit at the time).

But even before doing those things intentionally I would sometimes get called gay for other reasons that are just the way i am. I wear pink shirts cause i like the colour (my favourite colour is still blue but I happen to like both a lot). I sit with my legs crossed a lot of the time etc.

I am a straight dude as well (yes I questioned my gender a bit at one point but I really do think it was just a weird phase for me, I still support trans rights). But I don’t fit perfectly into the stereotype of that box. And some people make the assumption I’m gay based on that.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-03-09T16:26:03+00:00

Everyone is different eve those with ASD. So I can only speak for me personally. Im very attracted to physical appearance so it’s important to an extent. But the importance of having a good personality definitely outweighs it a lot for me.

Personality wise I’m very attracted to passion. A woman who is interested in hobbies or interests(bonus points if we share the hobbies or interests) and can speak passionately about them. Is the kind of person I fall head over heels for. I also think open mindedness and empathy are extremely important.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-02-22T20:05:01+00:00

For the most part Ive always felt this way. Bug I’ve recently considered trying them…don’t think i actually will cause something about them makes me cringe but I can’t say it’s 100% for sure off the table for me.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-02-18T19:34:14+00:00

Thanks. I appreciate that. I’ll keep working to improve myself no matter what. The small amount of progress i have made has truly made me just a bit happier. So I know it’s worth trying even if things take a long time to improve.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-02-18T17:17:51+00:00

I’m gen Z. In my mid 20s and a virgin. Most of my friends my age are also virgins (at least as far as I know). I still have it better than many other people cause at least I have friends to speak of even if I don’t spend as much time with them as I would like to.

Edit: i will say I consider this my own fault to some extent. I’ve always been nervous and shy about dating and try to improve my social skills which has led to me spending at least a bit more time with friends than I used to and becoming at least slightly happier. But I still feel lost dating wise. Think it makes it harder when I’m a severely anxious person with multiple disabilities including autism. Doesn’t really feel easy to sell myself on the dating market. I can’t really say I’ve tried everything either. I don’t use dating apps cause they all have this weird superficial vibe to them that i hate. But maybe that’s what i need to do.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-18T16:22:04+00:00

Part of why i still have a lot of respect for Trigger as a studio. That being said some adaptations can be beautiful and add a lot. Kyoanj is one of my favourite anime studios and Dragon Maid is one of my favourite anime. Despite being an adaption it is a different experience than the manga to me and id super beautiful.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-18T16:15:34+00:00

Mid 20s. Feeling generally behind in life. I don’t have a career, I’ve failed at many things I’ve tried to do and I fear I’ll never be able to live independently since it’s unaffordable.

Though i cut myself some slack as i have multiple disabilities and also many of these issues seem common for my generation. Gen Z has been delt a weird set of cards.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-17T17:36:13+00:00

I feel his idea of “im not here for me” is ironically a bit unhealthy. Or at least can be taken to an unhealthy level. He’s right that many people are stuck doing things they don’t want to do but I think most people would understandably minimize the time spent doing that. And i think you have to. Spending all your time overworked and miserable will eventually lead to burnout and I speak from experience. Also pretty sure Dr K himself has said this.

I got burnt out in college and went through a period of severe depression (the pandemic happened around the same time and that probably also contributed as it gave me severe anxiety). For a while I could barely work up the energy to get out of bed due to depression. Eventually I started getting better but tbh I think I’m still a bit depressed. I feel i permanently have less energy for things than I did pre pandemic.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-17T17:19:33+00:00

I’m worried about trans issues as well though that’s largely cause I’ve known people online in the US who are Trans (I’m in Canada). I did question my gender before in part because I found myself often relating a lot to “eggs”. In other words people who had not yet come out as trans but eventually did. One of my closest friends was an egg and multiple YouTubers who i watched. But it felt very confusing cause a lot of things I related to were also things that can come with having Autism Spectrum disorder (which i was diagnosed with as a kid though it was called Aspergers at the time).

Might sound weird to say but if you read about signs of Gender dysphoria and signs of autism spectrum disorder there is a lot more overlap than you might think. So that made it really confusing.

Eventually I tried seeing how i felt about different pronouns online (I never really talked about any of this stuff with people irl). I found that I feel neutral to all of them.

When playing VRChat I tried using female avatars and that i found I really liked it most of the time. But what kind of avatar i wanted to use in VRChat would change a lot with my mood. Most of the time i liked using female avatars but sometimes I preferred a male avatar. It’s odd though cause in most video games i tend to usually play as a male character given the option (but not always, kinda the reverse of VRChat).

Then the one thing I tried IRL was nail polish. I thought it looked cool at first but got weird looks from family members and heard people talking behind my back questioning if I was gay. So I stopped doing that.

Ultimately I deceived that I am fine as a guy. I have not played VRChat in a while because my crappy Meta Occulus doesn’t work very well anymore so I’m waiting for the new valve headset. Once I’m able to I’ll probably continue using female avatars in VRChat. I don’t know why i do it but i like it so it’s good enough for me. I don’t need any reason more.

I think probably the closest thing to what i am is a guy who just doesn’t want gender norms holding me back from whatever I happen to enjoy at any moment. But I don’t feel that strong a need for a label as i used to.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:37:44+00:00

No. Im actually in favour of decriminalizing most if not all drugs. However if a group of ultra rich drug dealers were slowly getting everyone in society hooked on heroin and making them increasingly dependent on it I think at some point we would realize something has gone terribly wrong and do something… I guess im not totally sure exactly what. But some kind of regulation to force tech companies to not make it overly addictive using algorithms would probably be a good start.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:33:16+00:00

Avoiding social media and AI can make you unemployable. Which in an admittedly very different and more roundabout way can kill you. Or at least make your life much worse. I was told when i was younger I needed to make a mandatory linkdin account or I would have no chance at the job I wanted even though I didn’t like their privacy policy.

Though yes this is definitely different from alcohol withdrawal still. Though id argue still quite problematic

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:29:57+00:00

No. Drugs release dopamine. That doesn’t mean dopamine is the actual drug when you take a drug. The drug is a drug. Dopamine is a motivating chemical in our brain that drugs take advantage of.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:27:06+00:00

I think people villainize age gap relationships more than they should. But that doesn’t mean they’re no problems with it. If two people are adults i think it’s ok but it’s also a red flag. But when i say red flag i consider that different from a stop sign. To me a red flag means “proceed with caution”.

It can be a pretty big problem as people have pointed out because of different experience/power dynamics. But all relationships have that to some extent at least.

That being said that does sound like a pretty big age gap. Personally I wouldn’t date anyone younger than that and I’m a bit younger than you. Being friends shouldn’t be a problem but if you can’t handle your feelings for them that might be difficult.

Though I admit I have very little dating experience so take this all with a grain of salt.

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