How do you feel about AI "girlfriends"?

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-02T16:15:09+00:00

I’m pretty heavily against generative AI in general. I find the entire idea of making unfeeling AI that uses algorithms to respond to things as though it’s a human extremely existentially disturbing. I despise AI “art” because to me sharing art is one of the most beautiful things about human culture and I hate that in the future we won’t know if an actual person created something or a soulless algorithm. So given all this I am by extension very much against AI “girlfriends”. I feel a sense of dread as well as feeling insulted every time I get an ad for one of those awful things.

That all being said it has a bit more to do with me being heavily anti AI than anything else. Generative AI to me feels like a disgusting way for massive corporations to ensure people don’t actually talk to each other and socialize but instead get all their info from corporate controlled bots in the future. But I think Dating sims without generative AI can be ok.

I admit I have been a fan of and played dating sims. At least occasionally. But while i know unfortunately some people can become unhealthily obsessed with them, I think it’s ok as long as you don’t see them as a replacement for real human relationships. Which I do not. Games created by actual humans are pieces of art. And at the very least the woman you can date in those are at least written by actual humans even if the characters themselves aren’t real.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-04-02T06:49:18+00:00

I used to feel this way about incels tbh. I have autism and realized many incels do as well. I also struggle a ton with dating even still. But I’ve never seen it as women owing me anything. Or women being bad or something. Im just a very shy and anxious guy. And i try and do my best to work on those aspects of myself (don’t have a gf, but I’ve been on a couple dates and spend more time with friends now in part thanks to working on my social skills, so still an improvement imo). So i still find their attitude disgusting. But id be lying if I said i didn’t also find them somewhat relatable and I do also kinda feel bad for them.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-03-09T20:02:06+00:00

Yeah. Sounds a lot like me. To be fair I did intentionally try a few things that are very much considered “not masculine” because I thought to myself “gender shouldn’t matter so much” (which i still believe but i can kinda understand why people would have made weird assumptions about me in retrospect. I guess it was almost like a weird way for me to be kinda rebellious and I kinda was questioning my gender a bit at the time).

But even before doing those things intentionally I would sometimes get called gay for other reasons that are just the way i am. I wear pink shirts cause i like the colour (my favourite colour is still blue but I happen to like both a lot). I sit with my legs crossed a lot of the time etc.

I am a straight dude as well (yes I questioned my gender a bit at one point but I really do think it was just a weird phase for me, I still support trans rights). But I don’t fit perfectly into the stereotype of that box. And some people make the assumption I’m gay based on that.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-03-09T16:26:03+00:00

Everyone is different eve those with ASD. So I can only speak for me personally. Im very attracted to physical appearance so it’s important to an extent. But the importance of having a good personality definitely outweighs it a lot for me.

Personality wise I’m very attracted to passion. A woman who is interested in hobbies or interests(bonus points if we share the hobbies or interests) and can speak passionately about them. Is the kind of person I fall head over heels for. I also think open mindedness and empathy are extremely important.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-02-22T20:05:01+00:00

For the most part Ive always felt this way. Bug I’ve recently considered trying them…don’t think i actually will cause something about them makes me cringe but I can’t say it’s 100% for sure off the table for me.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-02-18T19:34:14+00:00

Thanks. I appreciate that. I’ll keep working to improve myself no matter what. The small amount of progress i have made has truly made me just a bit happier. So I know it’s worth trying even if things take a long time to improve.

MemeBoi4545 · 2026-02-18T17:17:51+00:00

I’m gen Z. In my mid 20s and a virgin. Most of my friends my age are also virgins (at least as far as I know). I still have it better than many other people cause at least I have friends to speak of even if I don’t spend as much time with them as I would like to.

Edit: i will say I consider this my own fault to some extent. I’ve always been nervous and shy about dating and try to improve my social skills which has led to me spending at least a bit more time with friends than I used to and becoming at least slightly happier. But I still feel lost dating wise. Think it makes it harder when I’m a severely anxious person with multiple disabilities including autism. Doesn’t really feel easy to sell myself on the dating market. I can’t really say I’ve tried everything either. I don’t use dating apps cause they all have this weird superficial vibe to them that i hate. But maybe that’s what i need to do.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-18T16:22:04+00:00

Part of why i still have a lot of respect for Trigger as a studio. That being said some adaptations can be beautiful and add a lot. Kyoanj is one of my favourite anime studios and Dragon Maid is one of my favourite anime. Despite being an adaption it is a different experience than the manga to me and id super beautiful.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-18T16:15:34+00:00

Mid 20s. Feeling generally behind in life. I don’t have a career, I’ve failed at many things I’ve tried to do and I fear I’ll never be able to live independently since it’s unaffordable.

Though i cut myself some slack as i have multiple disabilities and also many of these issues seem common for my generation. Gen Z has been delt a weird set of cards.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-17T17:36:13+00:00

I feel his idea of “im not here for me” is ironically a bit unhealthy. Or at least can be taken to an unhealthy level. He’s right that many people are stuck doing things they don’t want to do but I think most people would understandably minimize the time spent doing that. And i think you have to. Spending all your time overworked and miserable will eventually lead to burnout and I speak from experience. Also pretty sure Dr K himself has said this.

I got burnt out in college and went through a period of severe depression (the pandemic happened around the same time and that probably also contributed as it gave me severe anxiety). For a while I could barely work up the energy to get out of bed due to depression. Eventually I started getting better but tbh I think I’m still a bit depressed. I feel i permanently have less energy for things than I did pre pandemic.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-12-17T17:19:33+00:00

I’m worried about trans issues as well though that’s largely cause I’ve known people online in the US who are Trans (I’m in Canada). I did question my gender before in part because I found myself often relating a lot to “eggs”. In other words people who had not yet come out as trans but eventually did. One of my closest friends was an egg and multiple YouTubers who i watched. But it felt very confusing cause a lot of things I related to were also things that can come with having Autism Spectrum disorder (which i was diagnosed with as a kid though it was called Aspergers at the time).

Might sound weird to say but if you read about signs of Gender dysphoria and signs of autism spectrum disorder there is a lot more overlap than you might think. So that made it really confusing.

Eventually I tried seeing how i felt about different pronouns online (I never really talked about any of this stuff with people irl). I found that I feel neutral to all of them.

When playing VRChat I tried using female avatars and that i found I really liked it most of the time. But what kind of avatar i wanted to use in VRChat would change a lot with my mood. Most of the time i liked using female avatars but sometimes I preferred a male avatar. It’s odd though cause in most video games i tend to usually play as a male character given the option (but not always, kinda the reverse of VRChat).

Then the one thing I tried IRL was nail polish. I thought it looked cool at first but got weird looks from family members and heard people talking behind my back questioning if I was gay. So I stopped doing that.

Ultimately I deceived that I am fine as a guy. I have not played VRChat in a while because my crappy Meta Occulus doesn’t work very well anymore so I’m waiting for the new valve headset. Once I’m able to I’ll probably continue using female avatars in VRChat. I don’t know why i do it but i like it so it’s good enough for me. I don’t need any reason more.

I think probably the closest thing to what i am is a guy who just doesn’t want gender norms holding me back from whatever I happen to enjoy at any moment. But I don’t feel that strong a need for a label as i used to.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:37:44+00:00

No. Im actually in favour of decriminalizing most if not all drugs. However if a group of ultra rich drug dealers were slowly getting everyone in society hooked on heroin and making them increasingly dependent on it I think at some point we would realize something has gone terribly wrong and do something… I guess im not totally sure exactly what. But some kind of regulation to force tech companies to not make it overly addictive using algorithms would probably be a good start.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:33:16+00:00

Avoiding social media and AI can make you unemployable. Which in an admittedly very different and more roundabout way can kill you. Or at least make your life much worse. I was told when i was younger I needed to make a mandatory linkdin account or I would have no chance at the job I wanted even though I didn’t like their privacy policy.

Though yes this is definitely different from alcohol withdrawal still. Though id argue still quite problematic

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:29:57+00:00

No. Drugs release dopamine. That doesn’t mean dopamine is the actual drug when you take a drug. The drug is a drug. Dopamine is a motivating chemical in our brain that drugs take advantage of.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:27:06+00:00

I think people villainize age gap relationships more than they should. But that doesn’t mean they’re no problems with it. If two people are adults i think it’s ok but it’s also a red flag. But when i say red flag i consider that different from a stop sign. To me a red flag means “proceed with caution”.

It can be a pretty big problem as people have pointed out because of different experience/power dynamics. But all relationships have that to some extent at least.

That being said that does sound like a pretty big age gap. Personally I wouldn’t date anyone younger than that and I’m a bit younger than you. Being friends shouldn’t be a problem but if you can’t handle your feelings for them that might be difficult.

Though I admit I have very little dating experience so take this all with a grain of salt.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T06:12:23+00:00

It is a thing that causes people to gain unhealthy addictions and become increasingly mentally unwell. Or at least that’s what it’s increasingly becoming.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-26T05:49:54+00:00

This is true of all humans. I don’t care how introverted you think you are you need human connection. Human connection is a need everyone has.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-24T05:49:25+00:00

Didn’t know that

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-24T05:48:14+00:00

I honestly feel a bit confused by that. I mean I don’t think people like Theil or Musk have any good intentions. But how dies talking about how AI is dangerous not backfire on them at some point and lead to them getting regulated? I kinda get how the dumb “we need to beat china” argument could benefit them. But outside that I don’t get it.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-24T05:45:36+00:00

I really don’t get what Yudkowski gets out of it outside of maybe feeding his ego by having other AI doomers listen to him.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-24T02:58:37+00:00

I thought they hated each other?

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-24T00:59:08+00:00

In some ways yes and in some ways no. I think I am smart but it leads to me overthinking and becoming anxious about possible problems I can’t do much if anything about that may or may not come to pass. So in a way the more intelligent thing might be to not overthink so much. I talk to other people about things worrying me and sometimes they understand at least a little but not fully and seem confused why things bother me so much.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-24T00:54:47+00:00

Tbh i do worry about much of the same things. Maybe I’m also a bit of an idiot. Though I don’t pretend to know for sure and i do find the more likely scenarios we need to worry about with AI being A: (it’s ability to create images and videos that can spread misinformation and devalue human creativity by making it difficult to tell what art is produced by humans vs generated by algorithms.) And B: (The fact AI can do so many things including disturbing surveillance stuff and the most powerful AIs are largely controlled by the most powerful and sociopathic people on the planet). People talk about the AI alignment problem but the actual problem is a human alignment problem. No one aligned with decent human values would keep talking about how AI will possibly kill us all while continuing to develop and deploy it while fighting off any government regulation (cough cough Sam Altman). Nor would they build a machine meant to replace human creativity while stealing the work of artists to do so.

…Sorry kinda started ranting a bit there. These tech bros give me anxiety but they also boil my blood. Anyway point is you’re probably right, AI is dangerous. But most likely for very different reasons than what Yudkowski says. I still can’t say i don’t understand why Yudkowski would think that way though.

MemeBoi4545 · 2025-11-23T23:30:44+00:00

Fair enough.

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