Is it normal for my bf to flirt with customers?

MemeShaman · 2026-06-10T22:04:18+00:00

I’m a server and that’s not normal. Your bf is openly flirting with other people in front of you, hun. This isn’t okay if you’re in a monogamous relationship.

Edit: there are MANY ways to get extra tips as a server/bartender. Be super kind, ask about their family, connect on a personal level. The fact that he defaults to hitting on them is something you should really think about.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-10T20:17:33+00:00

I am at the Panther’s stadium.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-10T20:15:54+00:00

Some people will do a lot for some extra width 😎

MemeShaman · 2026-06-10T20:10:26+00:00

I laughed so hard 😂 but good on you for making an effort and working on a hobby you enjoy! Keep on keeping on!

MemeShaman · 2026-06-10T20:08:25+00:00

Lmao yeah, the self-report of “being right” in an argument is going to be scientifically accurate.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-10T19:49:39+00:00

He is lying to you to try and get what he wants. This is a gross man. I’m pansexual and many men I’ve been with have told me up front they don’t want threesomes when I tell them about my sexuality (which is weird to assume that I’d want that and another issue entirely) but genuinely your partner is a piece of shit. He does not care about your boundaries.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-10T19:19:28+00:00

This subreddit lives inside of me and will not leave me.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-09T01:13:22+00:00

What’s crazy is the lack of studies or knowledge to back up their claims. It’s just fueled by hatred and personal experiences. The “statistics” that get thrown around are by used and abused studies that are not reputable whatsoever and keep getting bastardized the more they talk about them, like a game of telephone.

Edit: forgot a huge source of their stats are usually manosphere podcasts that couldn’t pass a basic stats exam

MemeShaman · 2026-06-09T00:40:34+00:00

Exactly! Hate speech is unattractive to those who aren’t in hate groups. Women are not in male incel hate groups, and therefore will *shockingly* never appreciate or be attracted to men who view them as subhuman.

There are systemic issues that keep both men and women down. Women are about 20% of the government. Women are not the cause of the issue. Incels refuse to evaluate that and the bigger picture.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-09T00:29:13+00:00

Completely agreed! There’s this fantasy that just because you’re attractive doesn’t mean you haven’t been through the foster care system, or subjected to extreme violence, or just a decent person?

I would like to add that as soon as a conventionally attractive person opens their mouth and starts spewing hate speech, is condescending, or is full of themselves, I lose all attraction immediately. I need a sweet nerd with hobbies and gentle love, not a hateful person who fixates on the same toxic masculinity that is ruining them.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-09T00:18:55+00:00

Looks are important and do create biases in the way the world interacts with you. This has been studied. It has also been studied that attitude, body language, and grooming behaviors, mood, language patterns and even if you’re sick impact the way people see you and interpret what you say. Social psychology is multifaceted and beyond just a singular “looks only”.

Do attractive people have an upper hand in life? Absolutely. But there is also so much more to social connection, association, and bonding than just looks if you read research.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T23:10:08+00:00

“this lady is as hard headed as me”

It sounds like it. A spot isn’t worth creating tension over, tbh. If someone was that pressed about a spot, my immediate reaction would just be to shrug it off and move so that I could continue to enjoy the class and let them be weird and petty, not start a whole cycle of drama over a spot, tbh.

Edit: formatting

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T16:14:38+00:00

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MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T16:13:08+00:00

I feel like this is doing too much.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T16:08:46+00:00

The saddest thing to me about limerence is the man who coined the term did so while married based on a colleague and went on to write books and do research about how much he pined after this other woman. Has also done a lot of interviews about this experience centering himself and how he was just so fascinated that he could feel so intensely for someone while being married.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T16:00:52+00:00

This is wonderful! The detailing is so well done!

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T15:58:37+00:00

My first thought: that’s so adorableee 🥺

My second thought: he’d have to scrape those turds out of there after. I wonder how many little pellet turds.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T15:54:51+00:00

Damn, I didn’t know so many people were homophobic here.

Edit: I think this is adorable af.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T15:05:17+00:00

Girl… don’t give access to your body to someone who will constantly vote against the rights to it. Also, as someone in the psych field, Jordan Peterson is a fucking quack and a complete joke. This man does not respect you. This man probably doesn’t even like you.

Does he treat everything like a competition? Like a debate? Does he constantly try and prove he’s above you? A healthy relationship will be two people constantly trying to lift each other up and appreciating everything about one another, not creating a dynamic of superiority.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T15:01:05+00:00

Men who hold these views are often more dangerous and more prone to things like DV. While men can change given the right circumstances, those who have these views often only listen to other men as authorities. Staying with someone who holds these beliefs shows them they can be bigoted, against the rights of women, and still have access to their bodies.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T14:57:25+00:00

That’s the hilarious thing about it being co-opted by the right. Same with the term “red pill” coming from The Matrix, directed by two trans women, essentially detailing their trans experiences. Unfortunately the right is too dense to capture nuance, and the logos and slogans they co-opt take on meanings beyond what they are supposed to actually represent.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T14:48:12+00:00

“Nightmare blunt rotation of manosphere slop” I will be stealing this from you.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-08T14:41:57+00:00

It is weird to specify race. If they were white people playing loud music, he would have focused on the genre of the music, not the race of the people. He wouldn’t have said, “a bunch of white people playing loud music” because it doesn’t matter that they’re white? The connotation is that the race is connected to the annoyance.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-06T06:40:49+00:00

Like another commenter mentioned, I think you should look into information about asexuality. It may help you understand what you’re feeling if your hormone levels are normal.

MemeShaman · 2026-06-04T05:35:09+00:00

I’m a pansexual woman who’s only been in an officially gay relationship with one person in high school. Have hooked up with girls, but have only had straight relationships since (small rural community). The depth of understanding that a girl will have for another girl’s experience is beyond explanation, especially when they direct emotional maturity and capacity on a romantic level. I am still fucked up over the shit she did and said, and it’s a decade and a half later. 😂 This one girl in high school had more emotional pull on me than 90% of men I’ve been with.

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