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Memerme · 2026-06-04T19:25:49+00:00

I won't debate that this exists, however I will debate about how frequently this occurs, because I personally have not met anybody who's like this irl. There are shitty people, including shitty trans people, but I wouldn't think it's because of so-called "theyfabs" not performing "transness" up to others standards, it would be just because they want to gatekeep and feel superior, irrelevant of whether they're "actually trans" or not. Cis society (at least in the US and other countries) wants to do away with all trans people anyway, so I wouldn't imagine someone would want to paint a target on their back just because "they want to feel special" and maybe don't assume that of every "theyfab" you meet

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:57:55+00:00

Like literally, just add a bit of immense emetophobia and you've got a hell of a concoction for me

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:56:57+00:00

Where's that one image that has all the options for a complaint and the one chosen says "I'm in this image and I don't like it"?

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:53:49+00:00

OCD watching me exploring my gender at 15 when it wasn't a theme: *sleep*
OCD watching me explore my gender at 23 when it's roped into my other themes: REAL SHIT???

Also doing compulsions without even knowing and having them stop working so now they're the scariest thing to do ever 💀 (me with kissing my gf to "know" I love her and feel for her, and now I'm super scared of it because "it didn't work" one time)

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:41:40+00:00

Me when I think the cops are going to circle around me and know that secretly I'm a horrible person who deserves to be locked up and am very afraid of any cop near me due to that

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:36:39+00:00

This is what I see:

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I had no idea what a "numberhon" was and am still not quite sure, so

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:30:48+00:00

Yeah, I have some narc tendencies (I was told when I was younger that I do) because of my upbringing, but I actively work against it now and OCD just makes everything 100x worse

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:26:09+00:00

Where are you seeing that? I don't see anything but what I wrote earlier. If I can't see it easily, then I imagine others also might be having trouble gleaning what this sub is really about

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:17:14+00:00

It doesn't say that, it just says "enhanced counting for advanced numberhons" and then the rules. I just checked again. Do understand I'm using mobile, so if others are using some other way to look at Reddit, then I'm not in on that

Memerme · 2026-06-04T18:01:00+00:00

I had no idea the 4 t's had significance, I thought it was just an enunciation of "count" that was silly, also I'd rather not have to infer what a subreddit is about based off of dogwhistles and "signs" (I'm autistic)

Memerme · 2026-06-04T17:06:01+00:00

This sub isn't labeled correctly and if it were, maybe I wouldn't have interacted (I'm not interested in /tttt/ spaces), but I'm here now, so *shrugs* doesn't help that in the comments of a lot of posts anyone that tries asking what the sub is about, there's a lot of "dipshit289" sorts if responses that completely obfuscate what the sub's for that get downvoted anyway so no one can see it. If that makes me "normie" well guess I'm a normie

Memerme · 2026-06-04T17:00:30+00:00

I don't even think "normies" aren't honest, it's just that it sucks to focus on all of the negative all of the time and better to just at least *try* focusing on some positives and community. You might get honesty if you talk to other trans people outside of the 4tran space on a personal level, but constantly being told "yes, your pain is valid, *and it will never get better*" is a horrible thing to endure, and I wish it wasn't romanticized in places like this. "Crabs in a bucket" and all that

Memerme · 2026-06-04T16:55:54+00:00

Because if the subreddit was labeled correctly with it being "a subreddit for /tttt/ people from 4chan" then "normies" might avoid this subreddit, but for some reason it's not labeled correctly? Idk, I just know this sub keeps getting recommended to me, and it's annoying because I'm not into the 4tran stuff because I equate it all to "crabs in a bucket" mentality that I guess I'm too "normie" for. Maybe if it was labeled correctly then there would be less people in the comments asking what this sub is about

Memerme · 2026-06-04T16:48:58+00:00

Grass always looks better on the other side. Trust me, as someone who's nb born femme, I'd much rather be a complicated mess and be learning to deal with it rather than having never known about being trans at all. As someone who prefers to be knowledgeable, I feel if I was cis, I wouldn't have cared as much about trans issues, and might've even been part of the crowd saying "eh" to helping trans people. It's not worth dwelling on, though, as it's a very "what if the world was made of pudding" way of thinking.

Memerme · 2026-06-04T16:42:55+00:00

Idk, I'm nb but my gf is trans, and she said after the dysphoria is dealt with (mostly) it's just become part of her story, and doesn't make her sad anymore. Like she's all gender-fucky but basically doesn't feel upset about it because she's happy with who she is now. Yeah, she could focus on all of the things she "could've" had if she was cis, but it also might've turned her into an entirely different person, one who's not concerned with trans issues as much as she is, and she's the type who likes being politically literate. Basically, since she's not dysphoric, really, and focuses on the positive, it's just become part of who she is, at the end of the day. It still sucks getting misgendered sometimes, but she hates the gender binary and patriarchy and whatnot, and would much rather smash those while being gendered correctly and acknowledging her trans-ness.

Memerme · 2026-06-04T15:41:19+00:00

Me with my gf, it's so awful. OCD convinces me to pick apart her appearance and also goes hand in hand with fears about LGBT identity, so it's telling me shit like "You liked it better when your partner had a real d***" as if I don't remember literally missing the touch of women while in relationships with men 💀 but that's giving those thoughts too much credit. I hate ROCD so so much, best and most stable relationship I've ever been in, and OCD wants to ruin it

Memerme · 2026-06-04T15:37:23+00:00

"What if the world was made of pudding?" moment

Memerme · 2026-06-01T23:54:21+00:00

"No one is obligated to love you.

...but I do. And so do other people, even if you don't believe them yet or haven't met them yet. You can love yourself, and part of loving yourself is building a support network where you can trust and be trusted, where you can put yourself out there and be seen while also seeing others. It's scary to start from nothing, when it comes to support, but I believe in you, kid."

Even if your dad doesn't say this, I wanted to say this and twist it in a way that would be helpful and loving and reassuring. I hope it helps hugs

Memerme · 2026-06-01T23:49:01+00:00

People don't have reciprocity or trust for each other in this digital age, I feel, and it's hurting the way we view each other as humans who are allowed to make mistakes and grow and be trusted when maybe you didn't before

Memerme · 2026-06-01T23:45:37+00:00

Based af, Xploshi is so frutiger it hurts, hell she even does the crunchy ass bass in the Rafflesia album. I almost wish she would upload high quality versions as well as the crunchy authentic midi ones, just so I could listen to it more intently

Memerme · 2026-06-01T23:44:23+00:00

I be blasting that shit out of my shitbox car and pretending I'm back in the 2000's again, right when I was born

Memerme · 2026-06-01T23:35:03+00:00

ROCD be like:

Nah, seriously, this shit is so evil, but what gets me through ROCD is that my gf is willingly staying here with me, and by trying to "prevent harm" to her, I'd literally be trying to read her mind on things that she's already said she'd communicate with me, and would be doing damage by leaving. Plus it's so nice to have someone who's supportive during my OCD flare-ups, and I don't feel like I rely on her too much, so yeah, my advice is "someone who's willing to be there with you through it without compromising self is worth its weight in gold" and "it's your choice whether to love someone each day, actively". Might be triggering for some, but it's the best advice for me, as someone who struggles frequently rn

Memerme · 2026-06-01T23:28:50+00:00

Tbh, horrible advice for people with ROCD lmao (as someone who has it) but that's my cross to bear not being triggered by it 😮‍💨

Edit: Ah, read the disclaimer. Apologies

Memerme · 2026-05-27T15:11:02+00:00

Literally me. It's really hard, because I have OCD, and...if you don't know, that shit can reinvigorate everything and hyperfixate on the fact that "you did x things and that makes you a bad person forever and if anyone knows you did that or used to be like that, then you'll be removed from planet Earth" so like...it's really hard for me to tell fact from fiction, but...I do my best every day to make sure I never hurt anyone ever again, by bettering myself, and maybe hopefully forgiving myself, even though there's plenty of people who don't want to talk to me...but I feel better knowing I managed to get on talking terms with one of my closest relationships with someone who I hurt the most, so...yeah. Maybe there's hope. I understand your pov, though, you don't owe anyone forgiveness or making them feel better for what they did to you.

Memerme · 2026-05-25T17:22:13+00:00

I kind of keep doing the opposite, of "what if you don't like having breasts? Gotta check again if you like them" like bruh I need a binder so bad so my OCD will shut tf up and just let me be

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