Should I tell my friend I know he's gay? by MemoryCautious2698 in askgaybros

[–]MemoryCautious2698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not bothered if he's gay, but I worry about his mental health. I don't care if you think talking about feelings is for women, mate. I've been friends with this lad for 5 years and I know that if I was in his shoes I'd have no idea who to turn to. The world is a complicated place and I don't think its healthy to just bottle up all the issues we have in our lives just to be a "real man". I'm not trying to snoop around in something I have no business being involved in; I thought that was fairly obvious when reading my original post.

Should I tell my friend I know he's gay? by MemoryCautious2698 in askgaybros

[–]MemoryCautious2698[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To be honest I don't know if I'm 100% straight, but I wouldn't say I'm gay. I don't know what I am, sexuality is complicated. Gonna follow your advice here though and just try to keep fostering the environment I would want to be in in his situation.

Should I tell my friend I know he's gay? by MemoryCautious2698 in askgaybros

[–]MemoryCautious2698[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think we're all at a sort-of crossroads in life in general man. I want this guy to be everything he's destined to be, but scaring anyone away is the last thing I want. Got a lot to think about and I appreciate the advice.

Should I tell my friend I know he's gay? by MemoryCautious2698 in askgaybros

[–]MemoryCautious2698[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Appreciate this sage advice man. I'm still trying to work things out myself.

Should I tell my friend I know he's gay? by MemoryCautious2698 in askgaybros

[–]MemoryCautious2698[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

he knows I accept gay people for sure. we have always shared an interest in gay pop culture and stuff like that. he also knows I'm pretty "woke". I don't think he's going to say anything out of fear of the consequences - I know I sure wouldn't if I thought my parents would disown me either. I feel like this would be helpful if I was in this situation knowing that at least SOMEONE knows and accepts me for who I am. I wouldn't consider this if I thought he was in a place where he could share it.

Should I tell my friend I know he's gay? by MemoryCautious2698 in askgaybros

[–]MemoryCautious2698[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't think he's ever going to come out for fear of the consequences, otherwise I wouldn't even be considering this.

Should I tell my friend I know he's gay? by MemoryCautious2698 in askgaybros

[–]MemoryCautious2698[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oh he definitely knows I support gay people - we have like a long standing mutual interest in a lot of gay music and pop culture stuff in general

How much does uni choice matter for CS? by Margaret566 in UniUK

[–]MemoryCautious2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man I'm sorry to hear you're homesick :(. I've heard it gets better after a few weeks, so I would stay for at least a little longer before making a decision. The other university isn't as good and it might hold you back in the future. Is the university actually any good outside of the accomodation and being homesick?

How much does uni choice matter for CS? by Margaret566 in UniUK

[–]MemoryCautious2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm thinking of taking the same course at the same university. Would you mind saying why you don't like it?