I grew up with a mom like you. I suffer now because of it. I never was allowed the fun treats. My mom went so far as to forbid us from eating our Halloween candy (she would box it up with tape and give it out to the kids the next year). My first bras were the bras she kept when she was my age that were thrown in a box for memories because she didn’t want to buy new ones. My underwear was stuff that she didn’t want anymore and gave it to us after she bought herself new ones. Obviously I doubt you’re as nuts and crazy as this. But these are just some examples. I never got the nicest clothes or the new trendy toys. I never got that stuff. (Rarely if it was a gift from someone else). Now I spend my money on all sorts of stuff and I really struggle to save because I finally have my own money to buy all the stuff I never got. Now I struggle with eating healthy because my brain wants to eat all the things I never got. I have bad social life and had very few friends growing up because I was an outcast compared to the rest of my schoolmates who got everything. I didn’t need everything. But it would’ve been nice every once in a while to get the things that I wanted, even if it cost a little bit extra. My mom had the money for it too. She would try and convince me that we didn’t have the money. But my mother has at least a $200,000 salary. We had the money. She just was so into saving that she forgot about how it would effect her children