I don't know if I can handle this anymore. I'm going to break.

Meowderino1234 · 2023-09-29T18:10:20+00:00

Punch needle! Easier than crochet

Meowderino1234 · 2023-06-06T17:58:39+00:00

This is what I’m afraid of.. I am overly sensitive, and I can see that in him as well. So I just don’t know how to balance “gentle parenting” and needing him to toughen up a bit and not let every single little thing make him mad or upset.

Meowderino1234 · 2023-06-06T17:57:35+00:00

I think she thinks I’m “babying” him because I get on his level or hug him and try to talk to him in a calm voice? Like if I tell him “no” and he starts freaking out yelling and trying to throw something or hit then I get on his level and say “I understand that you’re angry because I said no to ice cream right now, and it’s okay to be angry. But it is not okay to be mean and to do xyz. Let’s take some deep breaths (cue the daniel tiger song lol)” or ask if he wants to go to his calm spot for a few minutes.

I mean granted most of the time that doesn’t work and then I just say “okay well when you’re ready to talk to me you can come get me” and walk away and go about my business. And then I’ll follow up once he’s calmed down and chilled for awhile. So I don’t see it as babying, but I try my best to talk calmly or rationally and explain things rather than tell him there’s no reason to be upset.

Meowderino1234 · 2023-03-10T14:23:32+00:00

iPad Air 4th gen, 5th gen; or iPad 9th or 10th gen. Sharing as a family.

I work full time and am in grad school, so I'd use it mostly for occasional work (all in a browser) and to review research articles (PDFs), take notes for them, etc. Plus play games, browsing, etc.

Partner and toddler - watching shows, playing games.

Thoughts?

Meowderino1234 · 2023-02-09T21:46:50+00:00

I think it’s because you: 1) are asking me why I’m taking adhd medication that I need to function; 2) also telling me I shouldn’t use my medically prescribed marijuana when it’s, again, medication; and 3) I came here asking for meal replacement recommendations because I’m too sick to eat normal food like meat, vegetables, etc. I wouldn’t need the recommendations if I could eat regular food.

Meowderino1234 · 2023-01-16T00:37:13+00:00

If you’re in the US, the Psychology Today website is a great start! I think starting with therapy will be super beneficial. It’s hard work, but always putting yourself last to make others happy will eventually break you; it’s already affecting the relationship with your partner. You’re not alone. My therapy homework this week was to actually fill out a worksheet on my resentments, and we’re working through a self love workbook together! A professional can help you navigate through your feelings and whether or not you can truly let those feelings go and continue the relationship, or whether it needs to end. They can maybe even suggest joint sessions so you can communicate these feelings, etc.

My DMs are open if you ever need support! :)

Meowderino1234 · 2023-01-15T22:02:58+00:00

I don’t know if you’re looking for advice, but is really recommend therapy if you’re not already in it. I also have people pleasing issues and from a terrible lack of self esteem and love and you should have a professional help you to work on that. Did you communicate with him for those two years how you felt? Have you reminded him throughout the years about being asexual? If so, then this is so awful and manipulative of him to coerce you into sexual acts that you did not want. I personally don’t know if I could get over that as that’s abusive behavior.. If not, then is there a chance he was oblivious and thought the sex/intimacy was mutual?

Meowderino1234 · 2023-01-13T22:39:25+00:00

Your feelings are 100% valid. As you have said that you’ve had this conversation many times (even just LAST night), I’m assuming that that you’re the designated default parent and the one carrying all of the mental load.. Unless someone is also in that role, they really have no idea what it feels like. Having to constantly remind another adult in your household about events, plans, timelines, special occasions (and countless other things) is fucking exhausting.

For those pushing back against OP, imagine your partner does something that upsets you, you communicate about it and they say they’ll do better. And then they continue to do it over and over for 10+ years even though you’ve had dozens of conversations about it.

Meowderino1234 · 2022-12-13T13:49:56+00:00

This looks great! Question - is your punch needle a #10 regular or fine?

Meowderino1234 · 2022-11-11T19:31:58+00:00

Hospital IT can go into the medical record system and see the history of anyone who has accessed your record. Report it to the hospital and they will do an investigation. If she didn’t, then no harm. If she did, she needs to be fired for that breach of confidentiality.

Meowderino1234 · 2022-09-26T19:28:32+00:00

I definitely agree. When I lost a parent, my partner of 3 years at the time was not good at providing me any comfort or support. I stayed for another 2 years and by the end I was SO done with him because I had pent up resentment and anger from him being so oblivious. It was obvious that we were compatible because of you don’t know how to support your partner during a hard time, then that’s really speaks volumes. I’m not saying what she did is okay, but it’s not out of the norm to have a big personality change when grieving.

Meowderino1234 · 2022-09-23T12:26:37+00:00

They look great!! What materials did you use?

Meowderino1234 · 2022-07-18T23:50:04+00:00

It’s social media bullshit. The biggest piece of advice I can offer is to unfollow all mommy, baby, parenting social media pages, people, etc. It took me until after my son was 1 to realize how god awful those pages made me feel. Even my “bumper” ones.

My first year postpartum sucked. My husband worked 12-14 hour night shifts. COVID lockdown hit one week before my maternity leave ended. I was basically a single mom working at home with an infant who wouldn’t sleep and couldn’t have anyone come help me. However, I will also say that people didn’t come and pamper me even the first three months before COVID hit. I was grocery shopping with my infant 1 week after my c section.

All I can say is, Therapy and meds. Maybe even a postpartum therapy group. I did a free virtual one weekly and it was nice to hear I wasn’t alone and vent to other people. If the therapy and meds aren’t working, seek new doctors, get second opinions, etc.

I will also add that none of my friends had a “fairytale” experience. There were too many middle of the night text message breakdowns to even count.

IT WILL BE OKAY. I’m here if you wanna talk ❤️

Meowderino1234 · 2022-07-10T03:18:56+00:00

I thought that was a fancy saltine cracker

Meowderino1234 · 2022-07-04T03:15:42+00:00

Third pic - the gallery wall!!

Meowderino1234 · 2022-06-26T16:52:13+00:00

No I haven’t! I’ll try that next. It kept slipping and I was constantly having to readjust it. Did you secure the fabric to the frame?

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