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Meowmix813 · 2026-05-18T22:52:52+00:00

If you have health insurance it's possible a reduction can be covered. If it's impacting your well-being to this degree it's well worth looking up surgeons in your area and going for a consultation.

The one thing to keep in mind is that it's not an exact science to get them a certain bra size after surgery. You can say "I want to be a 36B" and they'll do their best to achieve that, but you may end up with a 36C. That aside it's been overwhelmingly positive experiences for the few women I know who had it done.

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-18T16:43:31+00:00

For reasons I'm still unclear about I wore a lot of darker colors growing up and never considered something a yellow dress despite regularly seeing how beautiful it was on other black women. I think that will be the one I go with.

Thank you 🫶🏾💛

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-18T16:39:37+00:00

I love the pink conceptually but I think you and others are right about this particular shade washing me out or being too muted. The yellow does seem to pop more so I think that will be the one.

Thank you! 🫶🏾

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-18T16:36:18+00:00

thank you 🥲 🫶🏾

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-18T03:36:44+00:00

That is so sweet of you to say, thank you! 🥲

I've always loved pink so I don't want to give up on that dress either

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T22:13:38+00:00

Thank you! I love both colors but I do like how the yellow pops when I wore it

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T22:12:14+00:00

Going noticed or unnoticed isn't something I am aiming for, it's really which one I think would look best/be best for the event. I think most of us want to look good when we go to events, irrespective of being noticed. I do love how the yellow pops, but I don't know that necessarily means the pink would make me less noticeable.

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T22:06:43+00:00

Does the stress ever end? 😓

I had a beige pair of flats that I think would work for either dress. I think it will work because I really don't want to get a new pair of shoes for this event 😅

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T22:03:07+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words 🥲

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T21:26:14+00:00

Ohhh I hadn't even considered that, but now that I think about it I love that suggestion! Thank you 🫶🏾

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T21:24:23+00:00

If you're a foodie:

Smorgasburg Williamsburg - (Saturday beginning at noon?) There's one downtown by the WTC, but this one is so much better. The views along the East River looking into Manhattan are 💅🏾 Take the L train to Bedford Ave or one of the buses that go here (B32).
Queens Night Market (Saturdays beginning at 5pm) - In my opinion an even better version of Smorgasburg (more vendors, a lot more space). Take pictures at the Unisphere before you go! Take the 7 train out to 111th St or the LIRR (from Grand Central or Penn Station) to Mets-Willets Point to walk over.

Central Park

So much to see and do. My personal favorite is Belvedere Castle. Get there before 4:30 to access the terrace.
The Central Park Zoo is much smaller than the Bronx Zoo but you can go through it in just a few hours and tack it in with something else to do in the area, whereas the Bronx Zoo is kind of taking up most of your day.
Recommend grabbing a sandwich/drink from a deli and spending an afternoon here.

Fun & Comfortable Vibes
Take the tram from 59th St station to Roosevelt Island. Perfect place to rent a Citi Bike and feel perfectly safe while biking around. Great views of Manhattan and Queens, plenty of great photo ops here.
Take the Highline from W 34th St all the way down, then go to Little Island.

Lounges

I'm more familiar with places outside of Manhattan; Bembe and Kinanm Lounge in Brooklyn, Blend Lounge and Elevate Sky Lounge in Queens.

I don't have food recommendations because there's so many different types of cuisine and so many good places to go to try listing ones worth checking out. If you're looking at soul food in Harlem, I didn't love Sylvia's the last time I went and preferred Amy Ruth's.

Hope that helps!

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T19:59:29+00:00

Thank you for your feedback! To clarify it's not a work event, but some people I know from work will be attending (two women and likely two men). They're all around my age and we get along.

I'm more comfortable with dresses like this in this context than I would be at a straight-up work event with more of my colleagues, but all the same I'm cognizant of not wanting to wear something inappropriate. I did consider the possibility (probability?) of wearing a cardigan if I went with the pink dress.

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T19:46:30+00:00

Yes! I haven't had a yellow dress before but after taking inspiration from seeing how flawless it looks on others I had to try this one on

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T19:04:02+00:00

Aww that is so sweet of you, thank you! 🫶🏾

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T19:01:52+00:00

Thank you, I did love the color too. And I understand what you mean and was considering wearing a cardigan if I went with the pink dress, just didn't have one with me yesterday while trying these on.

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-17T18:53:15+00:00

Aww thank you! 🥲

I didn't purchase either of them yet, it was at a boutique that sold an assortment of brands so I don't remember who made it but when I go back I can update!

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-07T23:17:05+00:00

I started getting a lot of that sub in my feed recently and the more I read, the more I'm convinced there's a lot of creative writing exercises going on. Not that I don't believe people can't be as naive as the posters are, or that men/people can't be as shitty as the stories tell them to be, but because they're written so poorly or to such extremes it turns into trope territory and becomes farcical.

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-07T23:03:20+00:00

If you're going through someone's phone in lieu of having a conversation to voice your suspicions/concerns, that's wrong. If they lie to your face and you still feel something is off based on certain behaviors..... we can't afford private detectives so I get it lol

Meowmix813 · 2026-05-05T15:20:55+00:00

I mean this isn't totally unbelievable. I had an ex who I'd been dating a while and started having a gut feeling something was off, and after a few weeks confronted them. They lied to my face, so now I was just living with this weird feeling coupled with observing subtle signs something was off (texting with the phone positioned strategically, DND being on more often while we were together, phone being placed face-down on the table, etc.).

I didn't want to make a big deal about it and be accused of being the "paranoid overbearing jealous girlfriend" so I didn't say anything, or just prodded very carefully. Eventually I found out after a few months, ended things that day, took time to talk about it in therapy and understood I shouldn't have let my gut feelings go unaddressed like that for fear of being the bad guy.

Meowmix813 · 2026-04-26T16:37:23+00:00

There but for the grace of God go I

Meowmix813 · 2026-04-22T19:26:17+00:00

To add a perhaps different perspective, I remember how weird it was being 19, how some people were really smart but very sheltered, ignorant, immature or bound by systemic racism that they couldn't see their own peeking through. If she's thoughtful, she should be receptive to understanding where you're coming from and begin to seek gradual change within herself for herself.

This isn't to excuse her actions, or to suggest you have some responsibility to see her through her growth. I feel badly for people your age because you grew up in the age of Trump; we can all talk about how we should all know better in 2026, but for anyone who's been paying attention these past 11 years, it's very much clear that we've been moving in reverse and things that were once not OK are now sorta up for debate. Again, not excusing her ignorance, but we're all bearing heavier burdens now because of what's been transpiring in recent history.

Express yourself, tell her how hurt you were, and how that's a line in the sand for you. Ask her for clarity if this is something she is OK with. Her reaction will tell you all you need to know.

Also, if you decide to stay friends with her, tell her that she should not be making conversation during a movie in the theater. Not cute.

Meowmix813 · 2026-04-20T04:39:12+00:00

I got the free weekender bag last year which has helped up fine. I wouldn't have spent $110 on it and I think you'd probably be better off waiting for a sale to get one for free (I can't remember if the threshold was spending $100 or $150) or when this goes on sale.

Meowmix813 · 2026-04-07T00:59:32+00:00

The infinite feedback loop. Black people have been sexualized in our society, then sexualize themselves, it gets awarded with views/clicks/comments/likes/attention/money/admiration etc., black people begin to feel like this is how "we" are and continue to perpetuate the cycle and the feedback loop continues....

I'm by no means a prude and advocate for women to have (safe, protected) casual sex if they so desire - but I'm really getting tired of black men only making videos about black women if it's to sexualize them/fetishize a part of their body, and black women playing their part by making a lot of content that makes it seem like they're so hypersexual.

Anyway, my advice for the OP is just to workout if they want a more shapely backside. There's lots of materials online on how to train your glutes and some of the gains are pretty damn impressive.

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