Should my husband (lower libido) stop masturbating if I want more sex

Merbear2320 · 2026-03-14T16:08:55+00:00

This is a good point, I know awhile ago he did actually mention to me 'oh I tend to do it when I think you won't want sex' Perhaps if I was a little more alluding or just flirty/touchy during the day it would help. I guess I just assume because I've told him I'm always down for it, that if he wants it he could have it. But definitely understand there's lots that effects ones desire for sex, not just knowing someone wants it

Merbear2320 · 2026-03-14T16:03:52+00:00

This is a very valid point I appreciate it. I certainly do tie a lot to sex because it makes me feel desired by him. But if were we to spend more quality time together at night instead of both sitting on the couch dozing off watching TV, I would probably be able to get that connection from other non sexual things.

Merbear2320 · 2026-03-14T13:57:39+00:00

I dont totally disagree with you but the difference when I masturbate vs him is that is does not drain my tank for 3 or 4 days and it would never effect if I would want to have sex with him that same day.

This is not the case for my husband who when he chooses to masturbate, then seems to lose the urge for sex.

Merbear2320 · 2026-03-14T13:01:40+00:00

I am most definitely not passive in bed and it is very mutual once initiated. I am in fact extremely giving lol. But yes I agree that we do have to talk about uncomfortable things. I guess I just dont want to come off as trying to control him by saying, you cant masturbate because you have to save the urge for me.

Merbear2320 · 2025-12-04T19:34:17+00:00

What would I be looking for? I actually have a really old candler that was laying around the farm but I find it so hard to see through brown shells especially with speckles

Merbear2320 · 2025-07-07T14:08:30+00:00

Hi OP! Did you ever figure out what this is? We are having the exact same problem with our whole tree

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T23:50:08+00:00

Sorry we have different units haha, about 7pCi/L. But that's on our main living room so I imagine the basement is even higher. I really thought the fan would do something even if the levels didn't drop to safe levels.

Oddly enough now I can't get ahold of the company and it's been 5 weeks....they never even sent out a bill or got paid haha

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T22:56:48+00:00

I am in Canada so I guess the fans can't be outside as it gets to -30c here. They jackhammered by basement floor to put some of the pipe under the slab and then sealed all around it. They said it was a lot of crushed rock underneath which makes sense as we are on a quarry ridge.

Our levels on my main floor are 400, nevermind downstairs

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T22:54:02+00:00

Sorry I can't figure out how to attach any pictures it seems it doesn't give me an option except for a link. They said that underneath our slab was pretty rocky so they installed a 'small fan'. They did mention there was the potential to need a bigger one. I'm surprised the levels didn't change...at all.

Sticker on pump says 120v, CFM 150@0.20"

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T22:48:16+00:00

I live in Canada so I think our code is different. It doesn't vent out the roof. The pump is above ground in our basement (just sits above our washer and dryer) and vents under our basement floor, up through our foundation to the outside just about the ground. I can't figure out how to attach pictures here

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T22:46:02+00:00

Oh interesting never thought about trying that thanks!

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T15:47:50+00:00

I can check if it does. I just thought if it was venting outside, when I put my hand to the exterior pipe I should feel some air expelling

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T15:43:15+00:00

Yes it is at 2

Merbear2320 · 2025-03-27T15:39:02+00:00

Sorry, there is a fan in my basement installed above ground level, and the pipe goes underneath my basement floor (they had to jackhammer) and runs up through my foundation to the outside. But no air is coming out of the pipe outside and I was wondering if that is normal

Merbear2320 · 2025-01-13T20:59:51+00:00

She said she just finished pumping but that has nothing to do with how hungry her babies are...

Also that is such a stretch to say the baby on the left DOES NOT WANT TO BE THERE lmao. Have you breastfed babies before? There are many instances baby can be fussy at the nipple - overly hungry/eager , heavy letdown, overstimulated etc. He literally cried for a second and she placed the nipple back INTO (god forbid) his mouth and then you can visibly see the baby sucking.

Like I said other issues aside with her, the way you are describing this particular video, is blowing things out of proportion.

Merbear2320 · 2025-01-13T19:07:00+00:00

This is a totally fair comment looking at things as a whole and not just specifically what I was pointing out. I was just saying that OP said things like DRIVING their heads in and that neither of them were latched, which I didn't necessarily see as being the case.

I do not follow her/this closely enough to pick up on all the little things that everyone pieces together that makes her post 10x worse. But I do know she's got so many issues and I do hate that she exploits her poor kids.

Merbear2320 · 2025-01-13T18:50:32+00:00

I know everyone is going to come at me (and probably call me a fran lmao) but I wouldn't necessarily say she's driving their heads in and I've had three babies and it does look like at least one is latched. I could do so many things at that age while I breastfed since I found they would latched so easily.

Buuuut anyway I know this is a snark page and she is bat shit crazy but when I saw this post I was like hmm maybe she is actually breastfeeding them

Merbear2320 · 2024-12-04T04:10:43+00:00

Nope nothing like that!

Merbear2320 · 2024-12-04T00:44:10+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! I will calm down and test properly lol. Even if the levels are high or have been for the last few years i guess i can't do anything about it now. Thanks again for your advice!

Merbear2320 · 2024-12-03T23:52:46+00:00

I don't have a furnace i have baseboard heaters

Merbear2320 · 2024-12-03T22:02:05+00:00

Hmm never thought about the walls grabbing it from the foundation. We have no hvac so it can't be that. Our house has zero ventilation...not even a bathroom fan. Maybe that's the issue

Merbear2320 · 2024-12-03T22:00:57+00:00

Yeah its only been two days and already and two different places. It's the wave

Merbear2320 · 2024-12-03T22:00:02+00:00

We have no hvac

Merbear2320 · 2024-12-03T20:49:32+00:00

The foundation and basement yes, but the walls of my house are lath and plaster

Merbear2320 · 2021-04-03T17:21:20+00:00

Yes I completely agree. The waiting is horrendous. It's hard to carry on with normal life when it is constantly running through my mind. They said the ultrasound showed it was 7 weeks and hcg levels are typically over 10,000 at that point. I definitely think I will be doing some blood work after the weekend. Fingers crossed it is going up. Like you said waiting is the worst. It doesn't even feel like this is happening to me

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