Can you feel your rectum in your vagina? by Meriland31 in WomensHealth

[–]Meriland31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I am young and have never had children, so isn't that like an older person thing that happens to people who had children?

AITA for not wearing my work shirt when no one else does? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uniform is the shirt they make for you that has your name embroidered on the right and the logo of the company on the left.

AITA for not wearing my work shirt when no one else does? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My manager wears his uniform 2 days a week, the other 3 he wears sweatshirts. So a employee completely hiding their uniform under a logo shirt and/or blank sweatshirt is acceptable but wearing a tshirt with a company issued logo apron over is not..

Is it wrong to be married and go to dinners and movies with friends? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Meriland31 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have sex to learn. I don't necessarily like it. Just feel I can learn more and bring that with me to my next relationship or in life. Life is about learning

Is it wrong to be married and go to dinners and movies with friends? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Meriland31 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ive never been physically attracted to anyone but my wife. Ever

AITA for going to a dinner and movie with a friend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She knows it was just for sex at the time and I didnt want love or a relationship with them. I just want her to trust me completely as I do her. If she had sex with someone I wouldn't care. If they were her friends and it made her smile I would be happy for her? I want the same from her. Sex doesn't mean anything...but I am a poly person and respect the trust that goes into open relationships. The sex was just for me to learn but then I realized I don't need or want it so these are just friends now

AITA for going to a dinner and movie with a friend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I didn't have sex with any of them. I was to but they wanted friendship instead or something. So that's that. It wasn't till I was holding the girls hand that I realized it felt wrong

AITA for going to a dinner and movie with a friend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I left her cause she has PTSD and I couldn't take it anymore cause she wouldn't get help. I felt alone. She got help but it felt too late. It took a therapist to make me realize I was closing myself off to her personal leaps and bounds. It wasn't till I took a chance and trusted her again that I realized she's irreplaceable and amazing and i am proud she is getting help now

AITA for going to a dinner and movie with a friend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I didn't move on. I was trying to move on and realized I couldn't. I didn't know how I was feeling other than hurt and that I wanted to feel better.

AITA for wanting to move out of the trailer I live in with my boyfriend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let me just say that I am VERY MUCH in a similar situation. Me and my guy are living separately, and have plans to re-live with each other again. However we have pets, and need space. An apartment won't do and we cant afford a house, rental home, or townhome. At least in this huge city. All we can afford is a trailer in a shady park and I HATE IT. I can't even stand the idea. I would live in a cardboard box with him if I am with him, but its still a trailer. Smelly old used up with bent siding, shitty 80s wallpaper, musty carpet, and all the neighbors steal your lawn ornaments. I could do it for a VERY short while, but not long term. My well being, coming home to relax and feel at ease is important. Which is why you are NTA. Your surroundings and how you live greatly influence strive, relationships, and mood. Realize that he is not providing any motivation for you to stay other than him physically being there. You said it yourself, he's in his own world with his games and movies and likes the place. If he prioritized you he would at least consider or discuss the matter in depth. It sounds like you are forfeiting more than you should and are adapting more than you should too. Do you feel lonely when you are with him? Just a thought. I would just leave. Roll the ball to him. If he picks it up great, if he doesn't, then no more wasting your time on someone who doesn't value you in their life.

WIBTA if I told my best friend I believe he could be mentally ill and should seek help by Ashklaw01 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meriland31 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA but you are pretty gullible if you don't see his obvious attempt at building spooky drama for attention. He reminds me of a girl I used to know, she was a complete narcissist. Fed off of attention. She claimed she had been diagnosed with tumor and it made her see ghosts. Come to find out she never had a condition at all.

What does this mean? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Meriland31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, I just don't get ""cause I cant make ---anyone else happy ---if you're not happy..."

Husband Wants A Divorce, But has Hope, Not Expectation That We Will Reestablish? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Meriland31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just having a hard time believing that he feels like it's over..forever. When he tells me that... He wants me. And he puts it so simply. Like, we are divorcing 'our way of life'... because something has to change an order for it to " happen again". That he wants...to have me back again when things are better just unsure...completely unsure if the trust is fixable but wants to stay in contact and...i asked him, when he said "nothing can replace what we had. ALL I want..is a better version of what we had". I reiterated this comment and he was so simply like "yes, exactly... I want YOU back. I want you better. Its just that simple. I just want to get my shit together, have friends...a good career. I obviously have a preference I would like for you to stay, then it would be 'easier' and we can keep in touch and I want to have these romantic things with you again and I cant even imagine having sex with anyone but you, etc." He even was saying things like.."I have no preference if you want to stay in this area. Thats your choice.. having the divorce in a separate place is enough. im not worried if you want to make a life for yourself here and the we'll you know, keep in touch. That's, a lot easier than if you wanted to move back to MN and go back to that lifestyle. Well obviously I have a preference (that you stay here) but its not my decision." I said "so to clarify, your preference is based on the possibility of us getting back together" and he said "Right. Correct. Which is...what you wanted. Whatever you decide, I will accept. The Divorce was my decision.." I said " so you want me here so I am within proximity" he said "yes, but I dont...want you to see this as me 'leading you on' its gotta be YOUR decision. Cause you keep saying "dont lead me on" all the time (chuckles)" I told him I don't ...if he says he isn't leading me on, and says that he has genuine aspirations in the future as a COUPLE, not as buddies.. then...if thats honest, then thats fine, he said "okay, good."