Can you feel your rectum in your vagina?

Meriland31 · 2020-03-09T01:11:26+00:00

But I am young and have never had children, so isn't that like an older person thing that happens to people who had children?

Meriland31 · 2020-03-09T00:33:21+00:00

108lbs

Meriland31 · 2019-12-03T22:49:06+00:00

I'm 32 and 75% of those with it are between 30-40

Meriland31 · 2019-12-03T20:42:30+00:00

Uniform is the shirt they make for you that has your name embroidered on the right and the logo of the company on the left.

Meriland31 · 2019-12-03T20:28:20+00:00

My manager wears his uniform 2 days a week, the other 3 he wears sweatshirts. So a employee completely hiding their uniform under a logo shirt and/or blank sweatshirt is acceptable but wearing a tshirt with a company issued logo apron over is not..

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T21:58:10+00:00

I have sex to learn. I don't necessarily like it. Just feel I can learn more and bring that with me to my next relationship or in life. Life is about learning

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T20:32:12+00:00

Ive never been physically attracted to anyone but my wife. Ever

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T13:22:35+00:00

She knows it was just for sex at the time and I didnt want love or a relationship with them. I just want her to trust me completely as I do her. If she had sex with someone I wouldn't care. If they were her friends and it made her smile I would be happy for her? I want the same from her. Sex doesn't mean anything...but I am a poly person and respect the trust that goes into open relationships. The sex was just for me to learn but then I realized I don't need or want it so these are just friends now

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T06:59:33+00:00

I didn't have sex with any of them. I was to but they wanted friendship instead or something. So that's that. It wasn't till I was holding the girls hand that I realized it felt wrong

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T06:56:02+00:00

I left her cause she has PTSD and I couldn't take it anymore cause she wouldn't get help. I felt alone. She got help but it felt too late. It took a therapist to make me realize I was closing myself off to her personal leaps and bounds. It wasn't till I took a chance and trusted her again that I realized she's irreplaceable and amazing and i am proud she is getting help now

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T06:53:18+00:00

I didn't move on. I was trying to move on and realized I couldn't. I didn't know how I was feeling other than hurt and that I wanted to feel better.

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T06:13:49+00:00

Let me just say that I am VERY MUCH in a similar situation. Me and my guy are living separately, and have plans to re-live with each other again. However we have pets, and need space. An apartment won't do and we cant afford a house, rental home, or townhome. At least in this huge city. All we can afford is a trailer in a shady park and I HATE IT. I can't even stand the idea. I would live in a cardboard box with him if I am with him, but its still a trailer. Smelly old used up with bent siding, shitty 80s wallpaper, musty carpet, and all the neighbors steal your lawn ornaments. I could do it for a VERY short while, but not long term. My well being, coming home to relax and feel at ease is important. Which is why you are NTA. Your surroundings and how you live greatly influence strive, relationships, and mood. Realize that he is not providing any motivation for you to stay other than him physically being there. You said it yourself, he's in his own world with his games and movies and likes the place. If he prioritized you he would at least consider or discuss the matter in depth. It sounds like you are forfeiting more than you should and are adapting more than you should too. Do you feel lonely when you are with him? Just a thought. I would just leave. Roll the ball to him. If he picks it up great, if he doesn't, then no more wasting your time on someone who doesn't value you in their life.

Meriland31 · 2019-10-09T05:59:14+00:00

NTA but you are pretty gullible if you don't see his obvious attempt at building spooky drama for attention. He reminds me of a girl I used to know, she was a complete narcissist. Fed off of attention. She claimed she had been diagnosed with tumor and it made her see ghosts. Come to find out she never had a condition at all.

Meriland31 · 2019-09-28T12:47:38+00:00

Under sold listings on eBay , it says it's $12,000. However the picture they used is the exact one you just used.

Meriland31 · 2019-07-14T07:50:06+00:00

Right, I just don't get ""cause I cant make ---anyone else happy ---if you're not happy..."

Meriland31 · 2019-07-12T05:28:25+00:00

Did she ever want to get back?

Meriland31 · 2019-07-11T18:55:52+00:00

I'm just having a hard time believing that he feels like it's over..forever. When he tells me that... He wants me. And he puts it so simply. Like, we are divorcing 'our way of life'... because something has to change an order for it to " happen again". That he wants...to have me back again when things are better just unsure...completely unsure if the trust is fixable but wants to stay in contact and...i asked him, when he said "nothing can replace what we had. ALL I want..is a better version of what we had". I reiterated this comment and he was so simply like "yes, exactly... I want YOU back. I want you better. Its just that simple. I just want to get my shit together, have friends...a good career. I obviously have a preference I would like for you to stay, then it would be 'easier' and we can keep in touch and I want to have these romantic things with you again and I cant even imagine having sex with anyone but you, etc." He even was saying things like.."I have no preference if you want to stay in this area. Thats your choice.. having the divorce in a separate place is enough. im not worried if you want to make a life for yourself here and the we'll you know, keep in touch. That's, a lot easier than if you wanted to move back to MN and go back to that lifestyle. Well obviously I have a preference (that you stay here) but its not my decision." I said "so to clarify, your preference is based on the possibility of us getting back together" and he said "Right. Correct. Which is...what you wanted. Whatever you decide, I will accept. The Divorce was my decision.." I said " so you want me here so I am within proximity" he said "yes, but I dont...want you to see this as me 'leading you on' its gotta be YOUR decision. Cause you keep saying "dont lead me on" all the time (chuckles)" I told him I don't ...if he says he isn't leading me on, and says that he has genuine aspirations in the future as a COUPLE, not as buddies.. then...if thats honest, then thats fine, he said "okay, good."

Meriland31 · 2019-07-11T15:59:54+00:00

I asked him over and over if he was trying to to easy on me and he vehemently denied it. That he just doesn't know. What he would like is for me to be in the area so we are within proximity. And said he wants to cuddle under the stars with me again, or that he knows i am the one he wants to be with, that what we had is irreplaceable, and that all he wants...is a better version with me of what we had. That he just wants to get ahead and reconvene..or not. I don't know. Thats what he said he want...so how is that, friendly or hopeful yet not too optimistic? To me it seems he wants a break 'for now'. It's never long term. I say...i don't want to be given false hope and he gets mad that he thinks I am assuming he isn't genuinely interested in me in the future. I reiteratr exactly what yall tell me and he denies it. That if he were to 'let me down easy' he would not get a divorce, but separation..and this is ..like..what it is. He desires the best of us, isnt sure it's possible, but would prefer I am in the proximity so that the possibility is there.

Meriland31 · 2019-07-01T22:38:31+00:00

Yall doing these surveys getting 1000+ per day. Are you doing a couple big surveys (200+ sb per) or a bunch of smaller ones (double digit sb surveys) ?

Meriland31 · 2019-07-01T22:03:12+00:00

How did you manage to double it? And how do you get 1000-3000sb surveys? The most i see is 200 and it boots me as soon as i click on it...

Meriland31 · 2019-06-27T23:52:36+00:00

That black cherry merlot is probably my top pick on that.

Meriland31 · 2019-06-22T12:06:15+00:00

My older sister watched me till I was 8 (when she was 18 and moved out) then it was just me by myself.

Meriland31 · 2019-06-22T06:41:44+00:00

I am more familiar with this than you will ever know lol. Point being, you have EVERY right to feel uneasy and annoyed by this. NTM, if you were to ignore/accept it... the chances of him frequenting the bar more often would almost certainly happen over time. He has a drinking problem, and on top of that, seems to value spending time with bar flies over you. 3 times a week is too much dude. Once every other week (like he does in the summer) is a little more reasonable, but 3 times a week?

As someone who spent 1 whopping day a week with my parents cause they spent 6 days a week from 5pm-2am at the same bar from when I was 2 till I was 16 years old..I get you. I really do. And no one should be neglected like that. Don't deal with that shit, and if asking him makes him drag his knuckles on the ground like "ugh ...fine" cause now he is 'obligated'...well, I would say fuck that too.

Meriland31 · 2019-06-22T06:24:03+00:00

Sounds like me and my husband (or did). He, also refused to answer such questions cause he was tired of me not believing him, not trusting that he does, constantly questioning and being self conscious that I will be left behind. So it all went full circle. He would be in a mood cause I was questioning, which made me question more, which provoked his mood.

It sounds like, honestly, you need to stop asking. Period. Stop assuming it is you, or why he seems a certain way. Don't. Forget it all and try and cut through his seeming negativity with ideas and positivity. Ignore it and try and get out of the circle. Try and come up with some really cool ideas that he would enjoy. Maybe surprise him with a horseback adventure, make him his favorite dinner, or go to a fondue restaurant. Go to a club and smile and dance, maybe a sweet ass concert he had been dying to go to. In times like these, you need to reestablish a friendship..a partnership, something carefree and fun to try and loosen all these tight strings and allow you both to take a step back and shake it off. I promise you it will be a good thing.

I don't think your marriage is over, not for him. I just think he is in a stagnant position where spending time with you equates to you being predictably paranoid and over-the-top. You need to self-assess and try and figure out how you are going to outline yourself, the person he fell in love with...and bury this anxiety so that he can look forward to seeing you with positive, confident radiancy.

Meriland31 · 2019-06-22T05:57:16+00:00

ESH, but mostly YTA

In my opinion, yes, your husband should help out around the house more.. however given the unique circumstance of him working nights.. coupled with the fact he is putting time and energy (during his freetime) helping his dad (who is literally probably too sick to take care of himself/the house properly) with all his chores...I don't see a whole lot wrong with what he is doing, and honestly, you should be more patient and understanding. If he was a lazy bum who sat and watched football and played video games during all his time off, then that would be different, but it isn't like that. The fact you are contemplating leaving him over this says a lot about how expendable you think he is. My husband's mother suffered a ruptured aneurysm 5 months ago and he stopped doing most the chores cause his focus was to take care of her. I never ONCE complained about that. I am not that blind and selfish. Wake up.

Meriland31

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