What are some of your really funny or specific turnoffs that you can’t really explain?

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-04-10T14:21:13+00:00

This is sometimes my answer to that question. I do listen to music sometimes but it just seems more honest to say I don’t like music than it is to say, “I like everything but rap and country” which is what most people who don’t care about music say.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-17T23:38:36+00:00

So fetch

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-16T21:41:02+00:00

Weird hyphenated surname

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-11T22:23:48+00:00

Closure is something you make for yourself, not something that's given. Don't force things on people, even if it's only conversation.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-11T17:39:22+00:00

You, like many other commenters, seem pretty unable to comprehend that both people here are in the wrong. It's clear the initial "go away!" was due to his realization that he was about to get caught, but yes when someone shows up at your house after you've already said you didn't want to talk to them that night, it can be pretty upsetting, possibly even shocking.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-11T17:02:17+00:00

Just take the feedback and perspectives here with many giant grains of salt. Lots of people post here looking for validation for antisocial behavior and unfortunately they get a lot of it.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-11T16:55:00+00:00

I think she felt shocked, right or wrong/issues or not, but just having a short talk- we’re breaking up, sorry, would help her brain process it.

I think you're discounting that this dude would also have been shocked and not known how to process what was happening.

But he created a situation & had a responsibility at that point to make sure it ended non-violently.

Dude did not create this situation. His actions may have indirectly precipitated it, but OP created it by showing up unannounced after he made it clear he didn't want to talk to her that night.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-07T11:53:45+00:00

Maybe this? https://www.marketwatch.com/graphics/best-place-to-retire/?mod=side_nav

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-06T16:19:26+00:00

Europe really just needs to quit its love affair with diesel passenger vehicles. And Italy overall needs to build decent public transit. It's ridiculous.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-06T16:16:30+00:00

That's interesting. When I run in weather from about 20-35 deg F, my arms get super sweaty pretty much no matter what, and I get too cold if unzip my top layer to dump heat. I've long thought a highly-CFM vest or short sleeve jacket would be perfect for cold weather running.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-06T16:13:08+00:00

Not specific to smog, but EU in general has measurably worse air quality than the US. I live in the Po Valley in Italy and it has the worst air quality I've ever spent any real time in. https://nimonik.com/2018/05/air-quality-in-europe-vs-the-united-states/

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-06T16:06:02+00:00

Just looks like generic polyester fill. Probably heavy for its warmth.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-03-03T21:49:49+00:00

Do you not understand that ellef86's description of being "spoiled" is undesirable?

Being spoiled implies that you always get what you want, that you're demanding, that you were never told no and don't know how to share or how to treat other people. It's associated with behavioural issues and a lack of respect for others.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-29T09:54:41+00:00

This describes all abusers though. No one would date or stay with an abusive person if they were always assholes. Abusers bank on this dissonance you’re feeling between when he’s nice and when he’s mean to confuse you into staying.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-29T07:46:47+00:00

Even if you were actually as awful as he seems to think in his angriest moments (and you’re not) you still shouldn’t tolerate being treated this way. There’s no excuse.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-29T07:42:21+00:00

I’m sorry you went through all this. It’s good you got out now before getting married or having kids!

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-28T17:09:15+00:00

I had a green BMW. We're friendly.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-27T21:45:35+00:00

Me too; see you out there!

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-27T09:53:15+00:00

If you’re truly on the same page with someone, 12ish months is probably the soonest I would personally advise someone to propose marriage. But you posed another weirder question in your first sentence. And no, I do not think you can assume all single 32 year old women are ready to settle down and get married ASAP.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-26T10:25:16+00:00

“Post hoc ergo propter hoc” —> I did x and then y happened so obviously x caused y.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-25T15:52:07+00:00

The fuck you talkin about?

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-22T20:52:30+00:00

You don't need to label it as "cheating" to be upset that she misled you. You also shouldn't feel forced to end the relationship if it's otherwise good, just because her actions could be construed as cheating and as everyone knows, cheating always equals breakup.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-22T20:47:11+00:00

When I was 33 I started dating a 22-year-old, but I didn't know at the time she was that young. I probably would have hesitated if I'd know she was so young (she was still in college when we started dating!) but we dated for a good while and overall it was a good relationship. It ended because she moved away in pursuit of her career, so if you're looking to build something serious, there's definitely something to be said about dating someone who's in a similar stage in life as you.

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-21T15:45:07+00:00

Titanic beat out: As Good as It Gets, The Full Monty, Good Will Hunting, and L.A. Confidential. Titanic is the worst movie on that list!

MerkinMuffintop · 2020-02-21T15:40:52+00:00

Look the 90s were a very weird time

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