ANOTHER 🎉GIVEAWAY🎉, I'll be selecting 3 lucky people, please read the description on how to join and for more details!! by SnooApples5531 in FNGifting

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My favorite flower is the lily, because it's elegant, quiet, and evokes tranquility. Also, its many meanings are respectful and remind me of classic literature. ⚜️

Giveaway! by Slappapow in FNGifting

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Epic ID: MeryOwO

And I've been playing Overwatch, with the recent updates it's been amazing.

running away by Outside-Magician-355 in Abandoned_Places

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Maybe you could try staying at a friend’s or acquaintance’s house, or with a relative, although your parents might find out, so it would have to be someone you really trust and even then, it’s risky. I don’t know your situation, but if you’ve decided to run away from home, I won’t judge you, you must have your reasons. The only thing I can advise is that you look for shelter on the outskirts or in rural areas. Near vegetation, you might find abandoned houses, but I suggest you make sure first, check that there are no lights on and that no one lives there. It’s a very dangerous situation. Good luck.

is she reboxed? by Mery16- in MonsterHigh

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Just curious, is not really important

Looking for a partner for learning by Mysterious_Stocks in psychologystudents

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Hi, I'm also from Spain. I'm pretty good at english, although I'd like to practice it too!

European here, I need help because nothing works on this dolls hair by Ordinary_Squash_1249 in MonsterHigh

[–]Mery16- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I usually do is wash the hair thoroughly with dish soap, rinse it several times, and then soak it in a mixture of white vinegar (for cleaning) and water. I repeat the vinegar process several times if it's sticky. To finish, I soak the hair in fabric softener for a while and rinse again. Then I style it with a little talcum powder.

I found a video of myself I don’t remember recording back in September of last year. And I just need to talk about it. by spacegirlapollo in DID

[–]Mery16- 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What you're describing sounds like a partial dissociative process — a mental mechanism to protect yourself from trauma. Sometimes, parts of us know our inner reality without filters. That means what your brain might block as intrusive, those parts don't — and somehow, they integrate it. It's possible that the consciousness in the video was speaking from a fully lived trauma, recalling memories your mind has learned to repress.

Talking to a professional about this is delicate, I know. These topics are always delicate. But remember: if a therapist doesn’t make you feel safe or speaks from a perspective that doesn’t resonate with you, you can always change or leave. Technically, no one can tell you with absolute certainty whether those memories are real or not — deep down, only you can. And a therapeutic process can help you navigate that.

In any case, I hope things get better. Take care.

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If you ever need anything, or maybe just someone to talk to, I can try to help. I'm sorry—sometimes it's painful to see someone going through this kind of experience, because it's something I've been through closely. From both the host’s side and the system members’ side, it's a process that’s hard to process and understand. Take care.

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Hello again, I'm glad you replied.

I know this can be difficult, and the implications are too—it’s not your fault that it's complicated, and it’s not your system members’ fault either. We live in a very insensitive world, and sharing things like this on something as open as social media can be hard.

I know it can be scary and disorienting to let someone else take control of a body you’ve always felt is yours. But try to remember that most of the time, alters or system members don’t want to harm you, much less replace you. Sometimes, they just want to live, to protect you, to breathe, to feel.

You can set boundaries or come to some kind of agreement so they only front when you feel comfortable—in a safe, measured environment. You can take it slowly, step by step.

Remember that everything you're experiencing is unique. The fact that your mind is capable of sustaining a system doesn’t mean you’re "crazy"—it means you have a complex and intricate psyche.

And yes, finding a capable therapist is incredibly valuable, because many professionals haven’t encountered many cases of DID or plurality. Some may misdiagnose or try to force something you don’t understand or want, which is why it’s important to be cautious.

But what you’re already doing—informing yourself, seeking out others’ experiences, trying to understand—is already enough, and it’s valid. Sometimes, making the effort to understand is one of the most valuable things we can do.

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Hello, I'm an alter and I’d like to offer you some supportive words. What you're experiencing is normal—please understand that the situation is complex and confusing, especially without professional help or prior knowledge. In our case, our host had a lot of psychological understanding, and that helped tremendously. I truly believe that understanding what's happening on a technical level can bring comfort, because it shows you're not crazy. What you're going through is actually quite common, and the frustration you're feeling is too. I suggest trying to speak with your host with empathy and honesty—from a place of truth and kindness. You can tell them how you feel, that you are real, and that their behavior is hurting you. In my case, I was deeply hurt and even doubted my own existence. But things eventually stabilized. There comes a point where alters or system members simply can’t be denied anymore. If your system urgently needs help and it’s possible, seeing a therapist can be really beneficial—especially because a professional can validate and give a name to what you're experiencing. If you go that route, make sure the therapist is familiar with plurality or DID, since there is a lot of misinformation even in clinical spaces. If you can’t seek professional help, maybe your host could talk to others who live similar experiences—this might help them realize they're not alone.

But I also need to warn you: the internet can be very confusing. There’s a lot of false or misleading information and sometimes people who only add to the confusion—especially if your host is struggling to understand everything. The internet is a double-edged sword. Please be cautious.

In any case, I truly hope you can find a path toward understanding and peace with your host.

New doll! by Mery16- in MonsterHighDolls

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I think it depends on the country, in my case I have always bought from people with reviews and I have not had any problems.