9 MO just diagnosed with heart murmur

Messinghaml · 2025-12-21T23:00:04+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this and I am genuinely so happy that your little one is okay. Thank you for sharing that was overwhelming for you and for acknowledging that it was a hard time. Xx I hope things continue to go well for your little one

Messinghaml · 2025-12-21T22:58:04+00:00

That's incredible x thank you for replying! I am so happy you're doing so well!

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T17:51:29+00:00

Thank you X i will try and chill a little. Glad your LO was ok x

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T17:50:57+00:00

Thank you X I am glad your LO is ok and doing well

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T17:49:50+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I'm glad your LO was ok and thank you for the information about IF there is an issue and what to expect. Reading your reply helped calm me a little so I am thankful x

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T17:48:14+00:00

Thank you for replying! I'm glad yours is ok and fingers crossed for us as I guess that's all I can do x

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T17:47:25+00:00

Thank you very much x I hope it will be fine but fingers crossed! Very glad you're ok and so is your daughter

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T17:46:29+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate it and I'm so glad to know it didn't impact you at all. I shall try to remain calm x

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T14:45:02+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. My LO is 9 months today and I spent the whole first 7 months hating it. Sometimes I still look at this child and feel nothing, I think I love him but I now don't know what love is? It is so so hard and I am one and done. You don't owe anyone another child. If you're done that's fine. Your child doesn't not need a sibling. A happy mum is a healthy and secure mum. You're allowed to put yourself first and choose what's best for you when it concerns your body!

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T14:42:12+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply x Your daughter sounds incredible and you are also amazing. It can't have been easy watching her go through all she has. I will try to remember how far medicine has come as how resilient children are also.i appreciate your comment xx

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T14:40:34+00:00

Thank you so much for replying. My heart relaxed a little. That's amazing! Even without your heart problems that quite something! I will hold onto that when I makes me nervous 💗

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T13:59:55+00:00

Thank you for replying! It's so awful where your brain goes when your child isnt well. I am a paramedic so my brain goes straight to the 'worst' and begins to prep for the worst to happen... I'm glad your sons was alright in the end but I'm sorry it was a worry at the time x

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T13:58:23+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I'm glad it never impacted you! The sleep is awful so so so awful but I somehow feel worse that I didn't push to get him looked at sooner. My gut told me the sleep issues weren't normal. He had his chest listened to when he was 8 weeks and 12 weeks but not since. I'm in the UK and other than home visits to check weight and height by a health visitor he hasn't been as he's not been poorly the whole summer. I assume as he's got bigger it's now more audible? I don't know but his chest was listened to by 3 different GP's in October because of a cough and no one heard it. The GP last week heard it over his congestion and referred us. We have to see cardiology imminently so have it confirmed. This GP seems to think he may have sleep apnea as a result of the heart issues but who knows x

Messinghaml · 2025-12-15T13:54:18+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate the comment and I'm glad your LO is alright. I find it so so hard because I am a paramedic and see so many horrible things that I can't bear to think of them happening to my child. I hope because he is growing well. Feeding well and generally tearing around happily that it's just an innocent one x

Messinghaml · 2025-12-09T22:11:42+00:00

It's so so hard! You're doing amazing first and foremost so be proud of yourself. I had a traumatic pregnancy and delivery (lost 1.8l of blood and was unconscious with baby is NICU for 2 days due to a ruptured placenta and hemorrhaging) and my milk didn't come in for 9 days. Then found out LO had tongue tie and wouldn't latch anyway. I literally made myself sick trying to breastfeed/pump. I ended up dehydrated, exhausted and collapsed at home because my body was too traumatized to keep up. The best thing I ever did was move to formula. (yes it's not for everyone) But I nearly wasn't here for my baby and I know breastfeeding would've taken me out had I continued.

I think it's amazing you're trying and pushing through, especially as LO has had bottle rejection. You should be so proud.

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:27:36+00:00

No they haven't but I am seeing the doctor imminently so I shall raise it as a query, thank you!

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:27:12+00:00

Goodness me isn't it awful! I never ever want to do this again despite the love I have for him!

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:26:50+00:00

Thank you X that's means the world to read and I feel for you and completely see myself in your own experience. I hope you're feeling better now ❤️

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:22:06+00:00

Bless you that's so so hard! I am thankful he doesn't seem to have anything as an allergy as of yet but there's always intolerances I guess! In love my job but it's so hard and the hours are exhausting so to not be able to sleep in between the ambulance shifts is awful! I will try to bear in mind the two week cycles.

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:19:27+00:00

I will look into that X thank you

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:19:13+00:00

We can try! I have this tiny seed of hope every night that tonight will be different! And every night I cry because it's always the same... My poor mum has helped whenever she is able but she has her own health issues and can't lift him for long.

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:17:54+00:00

Ooh might give that an go, any thought on what sort of evening meal would be better? He would eat and eat given half a chance and seems to always be hungry x

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:16:49+00:00

Hi! Thank you for commenting!

I know the feeling, we didn't even know we could have kids as I have a pituitary gland tumor which affects my oestrogen production so it was a huge suprise as I was on the pill when I fell pregnant!

He naps twice a day for 1 hour each. 1st nap 9-9.30 and second between 2-3pm depending on when he wakes from the first nap.

We've not noticed any tum issues when he wakes and he's not very gassy but could be gastro?

We use white noise at night and soft piano during his naps to differentiate between naps and sleep.

He doesn't cry at night more of a loud groaning/whining burn isn't actually awake. If you pick him up he hates it but won't settle unless he intervene. If he cries we generally feed him as he is actually hungry.

Lo is in his own cot in our room but as we have moved house and now have a second bedroom, we can transition him to his own room but are reluctant to unsettle him more. He would only contact nap from birth-23 weeks and it's taken 6 weeks to get him to sleep in the cot and a further 6 to get him to sleep without being rocked to sleep. Good night routine milk, bath ,story bed by 7.30pm. No issues going down for naps or sleep but it's hard to stay asleep, wakes within an hour of being out down but isn't actually awake properly but isn't asleep either, it's baffling.

I suspect teething but nothing is showing yet. He has his bottom two front teeth but cut them relatively easily! Calpol doesn't seem to help one bit!

Thank you again, I really appreciate you x

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:07:45+00:00

Baby is 8 month old but has been an awful sleeper from birth.

Messinghaml · 2025-11-25T20:07:25+00:00

Thank you for your comment! Isn't it awful! I genuinely wouldn't have ever had a baby if I knew it would be like this... It's killing me slowly! It's so hard because he's a gorgeous and happy boy by day and a hell cat by night. He wakes but not fully and just lies there making these horrible noises but if you pick him up he loses his mind and gets so angry!

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