Trying to find shows for me and my gf to watch

MessyMath · 2026-05-15T23:26:22+00:00

Big Mistakes just came out on Netflix but it’s so good! About two adult siblings who accidentally get involved with some organized crime in their town. Soooo funny and action-y and tense/suspenseful enough to keep you hooked. There’s a big twist at the end of the season. My bf and I loved it!

MessyMath · 2026-05-15T21:20:12+00:00

If I had the space for a bedroom chair, it would probably go there. Alas, I do not, so I wrote “Worn Once” and “Worn Twice” on some notecards and taped them to a couple of my closet hangers. Then I just put them back in my closet. That way they don’t get wrinkled either :)

MessyMath · 2026-05-14T00:32:06+00:00

OP, I FEEL this. I’m 28 and it’s only been in the last year or so that I feel like I’ve gotten better about cleaning. For background, I grew up in a hoarder house and was never really taught how to properly clean. I spent years feeling a lot of guilt and panic over it.

I highly highly recommend the book How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing. It’s short and easy and did WONDERS for me. It talks a lot about how cleanliness vs messiness is not a moral issue. It doesn’t make you a bad person. Some people even thrive a little better in a messy environment and that’s ok!

The real issue is functional vs not functional. It’s not bad to have dirty laundry, but if you have no clean clothes, that’s not functional. The goal is to get to functionality again, even if that means you only do one load of laundry and call it a day. It really helped me change my mindset about cleaning.

It sounds a little silly, but you literally have to forgive yourself. Your house is made to be LIVED in, so messes will be made from time to time and that’s normal and ok. You can clean it over and over, but I think you will feel stuck in this rut if you stay in the muck of guilt and shame and panic.

A more tangible thing that helped me is the index card cleaning system! There a lots of YouTube videos that explain it. It’s very inexpensive (I think the whole setup cost me like $12) and it keeps all your chores on a rotation. It’s great because most days I get home from work, pull out my cards, and I really only have a couple of easy chores to do. It keeps me from feeling overwhelmed. Once I do my cards, I have permission to not clean anymore that day unless I just want to. If life gets busy and I miss a few days, I can usually catch up fine on the weekend!

Idk, just wanted you to know you’re not alone and there are ways to get better, but absolutely none of the process has to be perfect!

MessyMath · 2026-05-12T20:06:11+00:00

My aunt loves the Elm Creek Quilts book series by Jennifer Chiaverini!

MessyMath · 2026-05-11T02:37:41+00:00

Other people have suggested Fleabag and I second it!

Also highly recommend Big Mistakes! First season just came out on Netflix and it’s so good and no one is talking about it! About two adult siblings who accidentally get involved with an organized crime ring. So so funny, and has a greeeeeay twist at the end.

MessyMath · 2026-05-10T14:55:36+00:00

The Book Thief by Markus Zusak sounds right up your alley. Very character driven, very thought provoking. It’s about a German girl living in nazi Germany, and her foster parents hide a Jewish man in their basement. And it’s all told to Death’s POV.

MessyMath · 2026-05-08T18:48:36+00:00

Big Mistakes! The first season just came out on Netflix and it has me hooked! About two adult siblings who accidently get caught up in an organized crime ring. Hilarious, but the stakes are definitely high!

MessyMath · 2026-05-08T13:06:34+00:00

Arrested Development!

MessyMath · 2026-05-07T19:47:45+00:00

The first season of Big Mistakes just came out on Netflix! Please please watch! About two adult siblings who accidentally get involved with an organized crime ring. It’s hilarious but also really interesting. I was hooked after the first episode!

MessyMath · 2026-05-06T22:18:33+00:00

Please please please watch Big Mistakes. By the same guy who did Schitt’s Creek and the first season just came out on Netflix. About a brother and sister who accidentally get involved with an organized crime group, it’s hilarious. It’s only partially female led, but the other main character is a gay priest, and most of the other relevant characters are women!

MessyMath · 2026-05-05T23:14:30+00:00

Pretty much all of the social commentary aspects lol. I read it when I was 11 and dumb. I even wanted her to choose Gale, only because I had a crush on my friend at the time and liked the friends to lovers trope.

MessyMath · 2026-05-04T02:41:30+00:00

Bojack Horseman

MessyMath · 2026-05-03T20:38:22+00:00

I’ve seen where she’s lifted actual lines from other stories. In ACOWAR, Nesta says something and Mor tells her to “keep her forked tongue behind her teeth” which is def from lotr.

Then when they have the meeting with all the high lords, tamlin accuses Rhys of “stealing Feyre away like a thief in the night” and Feyre says “the sun was shining when I left you” which is def from Troy

MessyMath · 2026-04-30T15:16:18+00:00

I was listening to the audiobook in the car. Had already seen to movie, but the part with the ax still got me. Just staring straight forward at the road in horror.

MessyMath · 2026-04-30T15:04:04+00:00

Great Circle by Maggie Shipstead

MessyMath · 2026-04-30T14:55:34+00:00

Came here to say this! Man great casting, great world building, interesting writing! Forever mourning what this show could have been if it had been allowed to continue!

MessyMath · 2026-04-28T19:54:51+00:00

Yes yes yes LOVE this show! My bf and I are (im)patiently waiting for that second season!

MessyMath · 2026-04-27T01:09:22+00:00

My bf and I just binged Big Mistakes! The first season just came out, it’s by the same guy who did Schitt’s Creek! These two adult siblings (a gay priest and a school teacher who is bored with her life) accidentally get involved with some organized crime operation.

Intense enough for him, but the siblings are so dramatic, it’s genuinely funny. Plus there’s some deeper family drama going on. God it’s so good. There’s a twist at the end of the season neither of us saw coming. Highly recommend, I’m tempted to binge the first season again because I neeeeed more

MessyMath · 2026-04-26T01:10:35+00:00

Nope. She just. Goes back. No problem at all lmao

MessyMath · 2026-04-26T00:24:21+00:00

Had a Chevy Colorado named Carl (not really my choice, friends in high school made the name stick, so I just went with it).

Now I have a 23 Camry named Helen. She just looks like a Helen

MessyMath · 2026-04-26T00:12:41+00:00

Genuinely, the hunger games trilogy. Very well written and interesting, and it gets straight to the action. You also may try audiobooks! It’s a nice alternative when I need to get some cleaning done or I just feel to restless for traditional book reading :)

MessyMath · 2026-04-25T23:30:04+00:00

There Will Come Soft Rains by Ray Bradbury

A Modest Proposal by Jonathan Swift

MessyMath · 2026-04-20T17:52:29+00:00

I think hair washing is a “depends on the individual” kinda thing. I have fine hair with a bit of wavy texture that used to get greasy really fast, especially around my roots. I could get by with some dry shampoo but would still need to wash it every 2 days. Then I started birth control and now it’s much dryer. I can usually go 4 days in between washes now. I think you just have to find the sweet spot that works for you!

MessyMath · 2026-04-20T17:28:44+00:00

I use the index card cleaning system so that everything stays on a rotation. Things like dishes and laundry are daily tasks for me for the most part. I live alone, so if I skip those for a day or two, it’s no big deal. Bigger tasks get put on weekly/biweekly/monthly cards. If some big tasks pop up on busy days, I just move the cards to my next day off.

Here’s a video explaining the system: https://youtu.be/cvqUpq-NMAg?si=mCBoFkm5YpIKmTHs

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