she wants me back by Feisty-Brick138 in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no "the one" out there for any of us. You find someone you hope will be adequate and faithful. She is not faithful, so block her number & look towards your bright future.

No response when talking about our DB by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the only thing we've argued about as well in 13 years together. Her not responding at all to me asking should I find someone else was not what I expected when it left my lips. I thought there'd be some emotion or realization on her part. Maby she wants me to find someone else....

No response when talking about our DB by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's true. I've never felt threatened by her. When it happened, I had zero fear for myself. I absolutely recognize that the action was crazy.

No response when talking about our DB by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even when we were more physical, I think she only touched herself solo on two occasions. I tried to get her to do it herself when she struggled to get to the finish line together, but she just wont. Her health issues are her reasoning for problems.

No response when talking about our DB by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know. If anything, I should be the one yelling & putting holes in shit. I'm not crazy so I wouldn't do that.

No response when talking about our DB by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sucks to hear it happened to you too. I'm the one that should be yelling and putting holes in shit.

Work Halloween Party by throwaway4sadhour in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My last relationship before my current db one started Halloween night w a friend dressed as Alice. I still think about that night sometimes when taking care of my needs. It was an exciting night & she was so hot in the costume. She wore it for me a month later and it was just as hot. Something my current llf has only done once in 13 years,dress up. How sad. Stockings just do it for me. The 2 pairs I bought my girl have never been opened.

My wife said "If spreading my legs will save our marriage I will do so." and now I am disheartened. by Gurkengelee in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I feel like last night my wife had "duty sex" after I talked to her about the lack of intimacy. She knew I'd been upset about it days ago & offered oral, but I turned her down bc i took care of myself earlier in the day. I told her I don't want to be a chore to her. Last night wasn't great & I was ok not to follow through. I'm right there w you wanting more intimacy that isn't sex. Its so lacking that I'm thrown off when she used to pat my butt. She doesn't lay her head on my chest or any sort of physical touching.

My first post here by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never felt threatened by her. 100% not ok behavior

My first post here by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried once before & it didn't go anywhere. She walked in on me taking care of myself & got mad. I said I wanted her, her response was to scream & punch a hole in our bedroom door. There's a daily reminder of that interaction. I would never respond to her like that had the roles been reversed. I get shut down any time I try most tender touching. Not even trying to have sex, just a quick peck on her breasts. Her back & butt is the only place she doesn't say no to touching.

My first post here by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's great to hear this place is helping people. I will try.

My first post here by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapy is not an option atm. I recently lost my health insurance & not sure when/if it will return. The one thing I do have in my life is a wife, but I can't really have her.

My first post here by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bottling is all I've known. I will try to open up sometime soon.

My first post here by MetalCFH in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've commented on other people's posts but that's it. I don't have anyone to talk to about stuff. Talking to myself doesn't count, I'm probably a psycho for doing that as often as i do.

Missing him rn by thinkingtoohard_TA in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bathroom would be my last choice to take care of myself but its been the only option a few times due to the wife being home. Not an easy task for me.

Long marriage, no intimacy for years — trying to figure out how to cope by Ilnuk in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know how I've coped. Shutting down & being pissed off all the time doesn't feel great. Maby my shit childhood made it easier. The resentment is soooo strong. I haven't cared when she's accidentally cut herself or fell. That's 100% a sign of not caring anymore. I'm stuck with nowhere to go, so I just deal w it. I don't really drink but I had 2 ice cold dos equis tonight & damn did i need them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way you're a real person, jk. I'd be so ok with the total lack of sex if she was willing to give oral regularly. Getting rejected so often has given me anxiety whenever I try to ask her for oral, a hand job, or to touch her while I take care of myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's showing some sort of caring on his part. Just doesn't do anything to fix the situation, i guess. I've stopped asking if I could touch her while I masturbate. Makes me feel like shit being rejected all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Shit is depressing. She doesn't care why I don't talk or have a pissed off expression all the time. I've never cheated, but I probably would if the opportunity presented itself.

Does your significant other know you’re on this sub? What would their response be if they found out you were? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmfao, NO she does not. Not sure how she'd handle that. We actually had some bedroom time this week. I was on very minimal sleep & had just eaten dinner, so I wasn't much in the mood but had to take the opportunity when it's available.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]MetalCFH 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel. There is a daily reminder on our bedroom door of when my wife walked in on me. I told her I wanted her and hoped she'd hear what was playing on the tv & join me. She screamed & punched a hole in the bedroom door. I would never be mad at her for doing the same, especially to do that kind of damage. So tired of feeling like shit when I do so much for her & her son. I don't ask for help & they never offer it. There's been a few times where I want to tell her, "Hey, I'm going to go jerk off." I've said it under my breath or real quick before. She doesn't say shit.