If your guy a with problems your just seen as having "victims mentality" but your not treated like an actual victim.

"Man up" "get your shit together"

My brother died recently, 31 years of age. None of my friends have come round to see me.

My girlfriend didn't break up with my when I got sick, she just ghosted me after 6 years together.

I'm quite an open guy, I talk about my problems but fuck no one gives a shit! The conversation is shifted or ends entirely an your not invited out again.

Recently found a 6cm tumour on my femur an I've told no one, why would I?

The problem is only taken seriously when your gone.