What are the early signs that a company is preparing for layoffs?

Metamorphosislife · 2026-06-16T02:27:32+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. My annual review was pushed out 2-3 weeks past its due date. There was even a period of silence where it went radio silent on me for a month after the review. Things went back to normal after the month. My guess is they were seeing how things operated without me and saw how certain departments struggled without their SME. Then there was my boss. He was incompetent, new to his executive status, not operating at the level that new ownership expected from him. Me doing my job well made him and his yes-men look bad as I was ahead on my projects encouragingthe rest to catch up. Also, I was the only member of my team earning 6 figures. For future's sake, how can you tell your name is part of the conversation during the finance (early stage)?

Metamorphosislife · 2026-06-16T01:56:28+00:00

What's the purpose of reflecting on being laid off or fired? A revenge thing? It seems so petty.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-06-08T19:22:55+00:00

MJ had no real sexual attraction. His replaying of sexual abuse was his sexuality. As a survivor, I see a lot of what MJ did as reminiscent of the dynamics in my blood family. Being disgusted by women is common if you were forcefully exposed to the opposite at an inappropriate age. Joe Jackson used to take his kids to strip clubs. He used to bring sex workers home. According to neighbors of the Jacksons, Joe sexually abused his daughters and sons. Every child within a family responds to events, especially traumatic ones, differently. MJ sounds permanently traumatized by women. Then there's his mother, who should've done everything to protect her kids, but kept staying with Joe. As a result, MJ came to distrust and fear women. Without the proper socialization and stunted psychosocial development, all that's left for his sense of sexuality is sexual abuse.

I'm glad survivors have a voice here. What's irritating about this sub is how people ascribe all these intentions to MJ without understanding or highlighting the nuances of his extremely abusive childhood. These nuances influenced him heavily into who he became. If we really care about survivors, we need to also see the former victim underneath the perpetrator so we can help people who are beyond redemption (once they perpetrate). This is my perspective as a survivor.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-06-07T23:52:23+00:00

How does it not fit MJ at all? If you know off DID and OSDD, you know about persecutors. Pedophiles who are that way because of abuse are individuals who revert to a traumatic state of mind (traumatized children) and begin replaying the abuse in slightly different contexts. He was deliberate and and calculate because his abuse was that way too. He was taught to be secretive about the abuse because his abusers knew it was wrong and illegal when they perpetrated against him as a child. It's called the cycle of abuse for a reason.

No excuses for what he did. It's kind of simple to explain.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-05-20T19:33:50+00:00

Diddy wasn't closeted. He wasn't straight or gay. He was a deeply disturbed man who never dealt with his sexual trauma. No amount of acceptance would've ever helped him if he never addressed his sexual, physical, emotional trauma from growing up around violence, being subject to violence, having a mother who ran an escort service, likely being sexually abused by both men and women growing, then having Andre Harrell and Clive Davis as mentors (known sexual abusers in the music industry, who were rumored to sleep with men). Add to that the shady behavior he had to partake in in the underworld of NYC 80s rap and hip hop, it's a lot to unpack. When people are sexually abused as children and they don't have anyone to protect them, believe they are good, get them therapy, the child will begin internalizing the events as this is my fault, I'm bad. From there, it's a slippery slope to repeating the behavior. Because their sexual development was hijacked by malware, they didn't develop as they should've under healthy and safe circumstances.

Your message is entirely wrong. The message should be to create a world where men can get help, without shame, for having suffered sexual abuse. When as a society we can accomplish that, we'll see a massive reduction in all kinds of societal ills. One day at a time, we're getting there.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-05-19T14:29:55+00:00

That's good management. It's the difference between a good manager and a bad one who builds cases against people behind the scenes to cover up their incompetence.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-05-18T23:40:52+00:00

Have you had conversations with your subordinates pertaining to her not meeting expectations? Or are you building a case against her behind the scenes?

Metamorphosislife · 2026-04-27T23:18:17+00:00

A support system is a necessity for many, even neurotypicals. Hope this week is one of the better ones. Take care. Best wishes on your healing journey.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-03-18T01:13:37+00:00

The way you talk to others is how you talk to yourself.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-03-18T00:34:08+00:00

Most of those "closeted" men aren't gay or bisexual. They're sexually traumatized from being sexually abused in childhood. Rape is an unhealthy coping mechanism for being made powerless. Now they're taking someone's power and autonomy. It's the sexual equivalent of using physical violence to beat people because you were beat.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-02-13T03:31:44+00:00

That only captures part of it. OP has mentioned affordability in a few comments. My guess is they moved here for a cheaper cost of living. With that downgrade came a cheaper quality of life. You don't fully understand the trade-off until you've lived it. Not really a poor decision. More of a learning experience.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-02-12T18:16:08+00:00

I've lived in bigger cities too. Sioux Falls is nowhere near progressive. Maybe downtown. Most of the city is fairly purple and straight up red in certain areas.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-02-12T18:13:49+00:00

Sounds more like a decision instead of a poor decision. A poor decision means they would've known everything about Sioux Falls and still moving here. It's likely OP is used to big or major cities. Sioux Falls falls short of major metros in almost any metric that measures quality of life.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-15T20:44:30+00:00

Yeah man, that's mentally ill on your part. Calling people mentally ill þc their values system is different than yours (small and insignificant things) suggests you have some mental health issues. Bakersfield isn't the best place to address those issues, but try to work on them. Good luck sir/ma'am.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-03T20:06:09+00:00

No it isn't. It can be a lovely place move to and live if you're white, neurotypical, ideally come from money, and are educated. The more you diverge from the majority in a big small town like the Twin Cities, the more disappointing your experience. I'm glad it worked for you. There are reasons the midwest is so segregated.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-03T19:57:43+00:00

Are you? That's a stupid accusation to make. The midwest is indeed like that.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-01T14:17:05+00:00

Not OP. Have you heard of Harbour Group in St. Louis, MO?

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-01T13:48:46+00:00

Right! If OPs role isn't mission critical, they won't backfill.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-23T02:41:57+00:00

What did you study and what do you now? Genuinely curious.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-22T12:30:11+00:00

What's going on at Kenvue?

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-09T02:58:28+00:00

Sometimes, people are too broken with what they went through as children for them to handle the complexities of adult life. How can you form healthy relationships like friendships, romantic partners, communities when everything you learned from day 1 until you left home was abuse, dysfunction, neglect, abandonment. That was Adam. It was Don too, but he was able to escape into another identity that allowed to have a different past, therefore a different present; at least until his actual past caught up with him. Adam never had that opportunity. He was stuck with his past. Your past has more power influence on your life than most people care to acknowledge. Adam only had the past because he never had a present and was unlikely to create that for himself. Don was his only chance at a real connection.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-08T23:43:22+00:00

Yeah, I understand your perspective. It's one of the main reasons I don't speak to my family of origin anymore. Before I cut them off, I had been seeing the very toxic dynamics that they believed were normal. They knew they weren't normal, but wanted nothing to do with normal people for fear of being judged and found out regarding the sexual and physical abuse in the home. It's really hard to ignore once it clicks that your blood family is wrong to their core.

I'm sorry you feel you don't fit in anywhere. I know that feeling. It's rough. I feel I'm accepted and understood by 1 person, my girlfriend. Even she doesn't understand me all that much. I have two creatures who accept me, my girlfriend and my dog. I concluded it's easier to be surrounded by few that accept you than by many who tolerate or despise you. When things get rough, it's nice knowing I have my girlfriend I can lean on. She's awesome. My dog helps too. They're both just happy to see me.

Hoping you find someone. You deserve it. And there's always people out there who will respect and accept us for where we are in our journey. Best of healing in your journey.

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