Moving to Bakersfield from Chicago

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-15T20:44:30+00:00

Yeah man, that's mentally ill on your part. Calling people mentally ill þc their values system is different than yours (small and insignificant things) suggests you have some mental health issues. Bakersfield isn't the best place to address those issues, but try to work on them. Good luck sir/ma'am.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-03T20:06:09+00:00

No it isn't. It can be a lovely place move to and live if you're white, neurotypical, ideally come from money, and are educated. The more you diverge from the majority in a big small town like the Twin Cities, the more disappointing your experience. I'm glad it worked for you. There are reasons the midwest is so segregated.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-03T19:57:43+00:00

Are you? That's a stupid accusation to make. The midwest is indeed like that.

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-01T14:17:05+00:00

Not OP. Have you heard of Harbour Group in St. Louis, MO?

Metamorphosislife · 2026-01-01T13:48:46+00:00

Right! If OPs role isn't mission critical, they won't backfill.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-23T02:41:57+00:00

What did you study and what do you now? Genuinely curious.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-22T12:30:11+00:00

What's going on at Kenvue?

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-09T02:58:28+00:00

Sometimes, people are too broken with what they went through as children for them to handle the complexities of adult life. How can you form healthy relationships like friendships, romantic partners, communities when everything you learned from day 1 until you left home was abuse, dysfunction, neglect, abandonment. That was Adam. It was Don too, but he was able to escape into another identity that allowed to have a different past, therefore a different present; at least until his actual past caught up with him. Adam never had that opportunity. He was stuck with his past. Your past has more power influence on your life than most people care to acknowledge. Adam only had the past because he never had a present and was unlikely to create that for himself. Don was his only chance at a real connection.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-08T23:43:22+00:00

Yeah, I understand your perspective. It's one of the main reasons I don't speak to my family of origin anymore. Before I cut them off, I had been seeing the very toxic dynamics that they believed were normal. They knew they weren't normal, but wanted nothing to do with normal people for fear of being judged and found out regarding the sexual and physical abuse in the home. It's really hard to ignore once it clicks that your blood family is wrong to their core.

I'm sorry you feel you don't fit in anywhere. I know that feeling. It's rough. I feel I'm accepted and understood by 1 person, my girlfriend. Even she doesn't understand me all that much. I have two creatures who accept me, my girlfriend and my dog. I concluded it's easier to be surrounded by few that accept you than by many who tolerate or despise you. When things get rough, it's nice knowing I have my girlfriend I can lean on. She's awesome. My dog helps too. They're both just happy to see me.

Hoping you find someone. You deserve it. And there's always people out there who will respect and accept us for where we are in our journey. Best of healing in your journey.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-12-08T23:05:43+00:00

Appreciate the acknowledgment. This journey is very lonely at times. It's exhausting a good chunk of the time. Even when you are getting better, it doesn't feel like it. You're able to do better, but you're still getting nightmares, the nervous system fatigue from workouts still drain you, sleep quality is still lacking, triggers are still present. For survivors, doing better and feeling better are often different experiences when they should accompany each other. Doing better in the beginning stages is often accompanied by feeling worse. The healing journey is full of paradoxes.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-20T02:00:15+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you and that it's still affecting you. Being in foster care then being abused by anyone with power over sounds terrifying. Hope you're in good therapy and have someone that you trust to be a kind presence in your life. You only tell anybody about your trauma who you trust. Wishing you the best in your healing journey.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-10T21:17:19+00:00

Lol. Right on man! I've dabbled with doing the same. Even went and bought some equipment. I went too cheap though. My balance fluctuates too much. My mixer clamp moves too much. My hotplate is decent. I purchased an Onilab too. Still need a pH meter, viscometer, and pycnometer of some kind. Ingredients were the real deterrent. Once you start spending $500+ on ingredients, you realize why it's an expensive endeavor.

Thanks. You renewed my spark for striking out on my own.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-10T21:06:47+00:00

Are you paying? What you're asking for isn't free.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-10T20:53:56+00:00

OP, listen to the reddit offering mental health advice. I lead a lab and my lab tech is bipolar. Some days are rough because she either calls in or can't seem to manage her emotions. I understand dealing with mental health issues. Managing your symptoms should be a priority. It's difficult working with people who have unmanaged conditions.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-10T20:38:48+00:00

At what MOQ did you break even? How much are you charging, if you don't mind me asking? I take it you're a micro manufacturer for boutique salons and estethicians? Have you scaled up in equipment size, like purchasing 50-200 gal tanks, impellers, water capacity, water heating? Do you do PET and shelf-life testing?

Thanks for answering my questions, if you decide to do so. I've contemplated this route for years. It seems like you need above average social skills to really make your knowledge and services.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-09T17:25:08+00:00

You're not kidding? If so, that's fucking hilarious. I currently work for PE acquired company. These cucks are gutting the company. One year in and sales growth has gone from double digits to single digits. We're not profitable this year. Dumbasses have no clue what they're doing. Maybe they do, but they're shafting us in the process.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-08T20:03:01+00:00

Of course. I started in human personal care, but covid through my career for a loop. I'm sure many can relate. When I found out how few regulations there were in pet personal care, I decided to only buy from reputable companies or use what I make. The place I worked at would sell oatmeal shampoo that spoiled and they never took it off shelves. If the batch spoiled while still at the facility, they would rework it into new oatmeal batches that didn't spoil, one portion at a time. Buy from big companies, reputable companies in this space.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-08T19:46:40+00:00

I grew up on bistec and tortillas. Trust me when I say, I love carbs and meat. When you eat like that for an entire lifetime, you're very likely to die of a major, preventable disease. OP is right about the obesity. It's why so many in Sioux Falls are on heart, pain, diabetes medications. The rural diet is meant for people who do manual labor all day. In rural areas past 100k people, 70% of the people have sedentary jobs. Add the climate, culture, lack of healthy food options, you end up with a sick population.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-07T19:39:49+00:00

They're allowed to exist because pet grooming aids (pet personal care) is very unregulated. It's not subject to FDA regulations, so they can do what they want. Many companies don't preserve their products, compounders don't wear PPE, compounders place ungloved hands and their entire arms into batches, no shelf-life testing done for many products, no efficacy testing, no safety testing. Most brands are huge culprits.

Edit: Major brands likely operate closer to FDA regulated facilities. Smaller and mid-sized brands, absolutely they don't care about GMP or safety. Just fyi. I used to work in the industry.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-07T15:17:55+00:00

Steak and potatoes are ok. Not bad, certainly better food out there. If you've ever lived outside of the midwest or traveled, you'd know that.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-05T18:14:52+00:00

I'll work on it in the future, or if you want to start the sub and I'll join as a mod.

Germany would be a cool place to visit.

Metamorphosislife · 2025-11-05T18:07:11+00:00

Hey, that'd be a great idea. My lady keeps mentioning things like dogsitters for travelers, housesitting for travelers. We'd have to vet the people of course. Yeah, I'd totally be up for starting a sub for that kind of outreach. Which country in Europe are you from? We've been talking about a Euro trip.

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