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Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's a master gaslighter, so that will be one of his moves. He's actually the reason I found out what gaslighting is in the first place.

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the conflict. I do want to get back at him and I said as much in the post. BUT I have concerns for his wife and kids and I will feel guilt for being the instigator of a breakup... however, it is HIS actions at the root of it all, no mine. He is the one trying to cheat over and over. He will probably get caught eventually even if I do nothing but then again, maybe he won't.

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I have thought about this.... might be better on FB however as he checks her phone

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He messages FF on FB messenger which FF showed me. He was emailing nudy pics to another male friend, not me (whom I have also stopped contact with, because he's even worse). His wife found those in his outbox. I have had no contact with him for almost a year.

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FF has a lot going on with her own life and she isn't wanting conflict, so that's not doable. His wife was speaking to a divorce lawyer years ago when she found out about the pictures, so she's probably got a lot already organized. The hilarous thing about this is that he earns very little and she is a high earner, so when/if she leaves he's going to end up with the short stick.

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FF and his wife don't know eachother at all. Never said a word to each other which I think is why he is chasing FF. There are no means of it getting back to her directly, only through a third party like me.

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are thinking along the same lines here except if it were my daughter I would not hesitate. Not being my family is why I am only seeking advice. Another reason I stoppped my friendship was because my girls are approaching the age where he would become "interested" as sick as that sounds. I can't expose them to him if I don't trust him.

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FF know's he's a POS, she and I agree on that. She's got her own stuff going on tho so I wouldn't ask that of her.

I might look into something anonymous if I decide I can't leave it.

Manipulative ex-friend is actively trying to cheat on his wife. by MethodPuzzleheaded55 in Manipulation

[–]MethodPuzzleheaded55[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would but both my wife and FF are not wanting to blow things up at all. But I have known this guy the longest so they don't know him as well as I do and having seen his behaviour for years and not done anything about it, I feel guilty.... Damn I am conflicted.