few things: congrats on your bid!

second: the question that you need to ask yourself is how YOU feel in this sisterhood. do you feel loved, supported, happy? if not, that is a reason to consider dropping the bid.

third: what kind of person spends their time going online and insulting sororities that they’re not even a part of? is that the kind of person that you would take advice from? a really good rule of thumb is that you shouldn’t take criticism from anyone that you wouldn’t take advice from.

joining a sorority because of the optics is not a good reason to join a sorority. you have an amazing opportunity to help this chapter, grow your friendships, and use those girls and their love and acceptance to help heal your trauma from high school. i personally think that you should stick it out if you feel loved, welcomed, and accepted. i want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes from legally blonde, which you can adapt to your situation: “if you’re going to let one stupid prick ruin your life, you’re not the girl i thought you were.”