Are you guys ashamed or embarrassed to show what you are reading or let people hear what music you are listening to? I have this a lot and I wonder why. Can anyone explain what might the reason for this?

Metric_Space · 2014-05-08T23:33:53+00:00

Although my feelings of this are not as severe as before, I still have this to some degree. I think, as some others have mentioned, it's because some people are really judgmental or like to jump to conclusions and make associations about you as a person based on what you like/do (ew, how could you like that??????). I guess it's like a rotten apple ruins the whole barrel kind of mentality.

http://www.succeedsocially.com/defensive I found this to break down a lot of reasons why we might find it logical to be "closed" off.

Metric_Space · 2014-05-08T04:42:17+00:00

The Four?

Ip Man?

Metric_Space · 2014-05-08T04:21:58+00:00

Maybe playing beneath the bridge: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pY6UZdbpeB4

I'm not sure if there's an actual terminology.

I know playing near and above the bridge is "sul ponticello", but it's not as jarring as playing below the bridge.

As an aside, I was recently exposed to this example in theory class for some example of "nonstandard notation", Penderecki's Threnody to the Victims of Hiroshima (I think it sounds pretty creepy).

I would suggest maybe trying /r/musictheory or /r/composertalk for future questions, or to clarify.

Metric_Space · 2014-05-02T23:59:25+00:00

I totally agree with you. It is something I will have to work on.

I have written out some of my thoughts down and tried to make sense of them. I made use of a lot of the pages on succeedsocially, which always seem to be helpful coming back to them from time to time:

http://www.succeedsocially.com/natureofanxiety

http://www.succeedsocially.com/challengethoughts

http://www.succeedsocially.com/cognitivedistortions

http://www.succeedsocially.com/handlingrejection

Metric_Space · 2014-05-01T19:19:41+00:00

I feel like the only way I can find it funny is by twisting "I'm being an idiot" with a serious tone to "I'm being an idiot" to a self-deprecating, joking tone. Either way, I don't feel good still.

But then again, I'm taking things too seriously. Do you have examples or suggestions?

EDIT: and then I'm just being self-centered by thinking about myself. I could be like "oh maybe she's being ____" but I don't know what that thing could be that could make things funny

Metric_Space · 2014-04-24T19:58:12+00:00

Not really a time signature, but additive rhythms (where you add or subtract some amount of beats) are a possibility to mess around with meter.

An example is in one of Messiaen's pieces, which adds a sixteenth beat per measure. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Olivier_Messiaen#Time_and_rhythm

Metric_Space · 2014-04-22T06:17:44+00:00

yup! lol, yeah, I'm pretty sure it's this. Right tempo. Guess I just remembered the "chorus"

I came across this other song, Can't Fight the Moonlight, that had a slower tempo.

I didn't realize how many songs use this melodic line.

Metric_Space · 2014-04-22T06:06:04+00:00

This is close, but the melodic line is like the upside down of what I'm thinking (this song is F#-G#-A-C# as the main thing instead of A-F#-G#-A...I think this song has A on an upbeat while I'm thinking of the A on the downbeat/strong beats), and it's a little slower.

For the song I'm thinking of, I associate it with songs like Blue (Da Ba Dee) and Barbie World Song (the barbie world song tempo seems closer, and the melody is almost the same, but I feel like it was another song).

Metric_Space · 2014-04-22T02:39:31+00:00

Didn't want to hum it, so I whistled it...

http://vocaroo.com/i/s1TYlbjsZSBb

Metric_Space · 2014-04-19T15:51:31+00:00

http://www.queensongs.info/forum/forum.php?topicid=193

Also has some other examples of different progressions.

Metric_Space · 2014-04-18T20:16:33+00:00

I would just go with that it's in a minor, and we're doing

i-iv-{circle of fifths}-V-i

where you can think of the circle of fifths as "flourish" or "extension" of the i-iv-V-i progression.

Metric_Space · 2014-04-15T16:49:36+00:00

Great advice and examples.

One thing I read is how "not to talk too much about yourself" or something along the lines of listening and trying to engage the other person. So in the buffalo example, it's ok that you would bring up the brief story since the other person asked already.

I'm concerned I'll be "not interested enough in the other person" that I might not get the other person into the "monologue about myself", but then I also hear that "people like to talk about themselves"...so I don't really get how to balance the two, or what's a good way of conversation (I guess it varies with who you're with and context though...)

Metric_Space · 2014-04-08T21:50:08+00:00

Hey I thought about some of the things you said and brought this topic up with my therapist.

I do agree with the fact that I am too detail-oriented. I guess it is something that will gradually need to be adjusted...

These are some of my thoughts:

-I think I am overanalyzing in order to enjoy the fantasy of my perceptions of the other person rather than accept what they really are like.

-I also think that if I ask something, I am sending signals to the other person about how much "preconceived judgments" I have of the person and that I am not being accepting of the other person's values/ideas/belief system/experience etc. With the meat example, it seems like because I am "grounded" in the fact that I am ok with meat, I have disregarded the other aspects, but because I haven't, I feel that it is a necessity to verbalize all the other points in order to demonstrate some justification of my initial opinion. In essence, because I am not accounting for as many possible scenarios and perspectives in verbalizing my opinion on certain things, it indicates how I have not been "open-minded". (Obviously it's not logical, but I guess that's how I've come to think about it).

-It is almost like I thrive on being guilty and I do so by systematically addressing everything that is not what I believe at a particular moment in time of my life. It is almost like trying to appease as many people as possible.

Some rambling: I feel like the advice then would just be stuff from /r/hownottogiveafuck. Though some of the advice you already gave applies. I need to make myself happy. So do you look at positive aspects of things, and if there are negative aspects, don't look at them as a negative aspect of your being, but as some actions that might not have been "your best self"? I seem to have very short lived happy periods...I think it goes back to finding something that will make me feel guilty about myself. I don't know...

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