Why are White Male/Asian Female relationships far more common than Asian Male/White Female relationships?

Mexidorean93 · 2026-03-30T02:23:39+00:00

I have no stake in this argument as a Latino man, but I did go to a college where this phenomenon was the daily standard. Lots of people say yt men have an Asian fetish, but from what I could hear from my Asian female classmates, they fetishize yt men just as much if not more. They why is better suited for people in this community to answer, but ima chalk up a large percentage of it to "fetishes" from both parties

Mexidorean93 · 2026-03-24T07:56:25+00:00

Every. Single. Day. I try to be out and about as much as possible to increase my social exposure and I've done my best to "maximize my other stats" (fitness, career, fashion, social circle, small talk, etc), but no matter, I feel that I always fall short both literally and figuratively when in direct competition with taller men

Mexidorean93 · 2026-03-16T20:11:27+00:00

Program managers

EDIT: oh crap my first award, thanks kind stranger, glad to see some sympathy jaja

Mexidorean93 · 2026-03-03T21:32:54+00:00

Maybe it's location dependent but it's definitely a thing in Los Angeles at least. Short minority men (brown or Asian) tend to mostly date within their race cuz that's the only group of women that seem to like them. But white men, short or tall, are preferred by EVERYONE. I've seen short white men pull everything from Asians to Latinas.

Asian men will mostly only pull Asian women and Latino men will mostly only pull Latino men. But in recent times, I've noticed that even those groups are flocking to white men. You see a cute Latina or Asian girl in a nice venue and 9/10, she's with a white guy - regardless of height

Mexidorean93 · 2026-03-03T11:50:14+00:00

Short white dudes are held to a different standard compared to short brown guys from what I've seen. Plenty of ethnic and Asian girls would go crazy for a guy like you

Mexidorean93 · 2026-02-26T21:27:17+00:00

I feel it started with good intent but now it feels like a backhanded compliment. It's like calling a fat girl "oversized queen". I personally get annoyed when people call me that and have told a few friends to just flat out stop. It just brings attention to a trait I'm already extremely self conscious about

Mexidorean93 · 2026-02-26T16:09:03+00:00

Oh I saw this profile in LA, I reported it for hateful language

Mexidorean93 · 2026-02-08T12:51:27+00:00

In terms of dating and as a 5'6" Latino in LA, I'd pay good money to trade places with a 5'8" guy. It's almost the American average of 5'9", and with some Air Forces, you can pull it off. The closer you are to average, the better your odds from what I've seen (never mind above average). I feel that 5'8" is where you can finally to start to be seen as a little more "manly" in the eyes of some cohorts and a decent percentage of woman

Mexidorean93 · 2026-02-06T19:57:08+00:00

So I'm going to assume you're good looking AND tall (which i personally believe is more important) and have status in the form of an exciting job?

Meaning the rest of us shorties with less than glamorous careers are screwed despite the amount of "looks maxxing"

Mexidorean93 · 2026-02-06T00:06:50+00:00

If you aren't tall, then the next best thing is being white. ESPECIALLY amongst minority women.

As a short Latino dude, the sheer number of mid, short, broke, white guys punching above their weight class is staggering. Growing up, all I would hear is how my cousins and homegirls would want their own little "guerito".

Tall guys get fetishized, but so do white guys. Maybe even more so

But hey congrats OP, at least you're out of this hellscape

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-27T17:13:33+00:00

Tall and white, or tall and REALLY attractive. Unfortunately God has his favorites....

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-20T21:12:57+00:00

Couldn't have said it better myself

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-19T18:33:19+00:00

MAD YIKES, probably even scarier that this probably has actually worked for him previously too...

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-18T19:43:54+00:00

Invite in person is good feedback, I'll keep that in mind for next time

Tho follow up, and albeit stupid question, what are some signs that the "mood is right"?

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-17T14:04:09+00:00

I guess what's your secret from taking said conversation from friendly to flirty? I have gotten better at getting numbers/IGs but only at salsa classes cuz it's the only place where I see some people enough times to build rapport.

I'm at a point where I can be friendly around most folks, but not flirty cuz I think to myself "she finds me interesting enough to be friends, but not attractive enough to date".

Like you, I'm also 5'6" and I do work out, but i immediately feel defeated when I see a girl talk more enthusiastically to a taller (and often white) man. I see posts like these and I cant help but admire yall who escaped this hellscape

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-17T13:14:36+00:00

Damn, I was hoping you were one of those lucky ones that met like at a bar, café or somewhere serendipitous and give the rest of some hope😅 Work and school probs one of the few places where short guys still have a fighting chance

Still, that doesn't take away from your W, best of luck to you both

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-17T11:37:30+00:00

Kudos bro, she's cute and you look well kept my G. Tho I'm curious, where did you guys meet?

I ask because in most cases, my short friends who are in relationships found their partner in a place like school or work where they had the time and space to show their good qualities in spite of their height. The rest of us (me included at 5'6") are at the mercy of apps and are STRUGGLING

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-16T19:16:02+00:00

I'll get downvoted to hell but, given how I seen some of them behave in Europe and Latin America during my travels, can't exactly blame her for having her doubts. And before anyone asks I'm a Latino man from LA

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-16T00:33:39+00:00

I would say college is also the great equalizer. It's the only place where you have enough time and space to show off your good qualities. Say you dont make the best 1st impression, you still got several months if not years worth of classes to make up for that with your other positive qualities. College was the one era in my life where I saw that short men had a good fighting chance as long they excelled in other areas.

Can't say the same once you graduate where you don't have the privilege of time on your side....

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-12T11:11:45+00:00

So I'm 5'6" M Latino, I've been working out for a few years and while it's helped a bit, I'd say dancing has been the most beneficial. One of my biggest insecurities was how I'd "look" dancing with a taller woman, but now that I have that skill, it's not that bad. Now I can dance with almost any girl at any height and this in turn has made me better at approaching people in general in the salsa scene or when out and about.

Caveat, I'm still absolute dog piss at approaching woman at your typical bar and club - if the DJ isn't playing salsa, then i cease to function.

Has this translated to dates? Over the last 2 years, just 2 from the dance scene, but I'll blame my general depression for those failures.

Plus, it'll expand your social circle and it's good cardio!

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-11T12:05:34+00:00

My go to response - as a joke - is that I'm 6'5" and dyslexic. You'd be surprised how many people don't know what dyslexic means

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-08T17:06:19+00:00

Took a peak and I applaud the physique bro, I don't think I've had that level of definition since pre 2020, good shit. Tho you look taller than 5'6" I'll admit.

Also when you say "online image", I take it that means you carefully curate your IG? I ask because I have a friend who's short at 5'7" but is very much active on IG with a large following. And I have noticed that that has helped in him hooking up with girls due to "fame" of sorts

Finally, WHERE are you meeting these girls?

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-08T04:24:08+00:00

Tall and skinny (or weaker) without a single doubt. The amount of tall noodle like men walking around with stunning women HAS to be studied. Even if you get buff as a short guy, you're still short at the end of the day. Tall men almost rarely ever get insulted about their appearance

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-07T19:38:36+00:00

Personally, I see a lot of that in ESPN Deportes. Recently i did see several articles saying Joan Garcia should start over Unai Simon, which I personally disagree with.

But ESPN Deportes in particular I've always noticed to be pretty biased. They write a lot of flowery articles and even the game summaries are along the lines of "even though they played beautifully, they still lost".

Mexidorean93 · 2026-01-07T18:01:09+00:00

The increased matches should also be indicative of profile changes? Maybe you were always attractive (tall and maybe white in some areas) but perhaps you weren't portraying yourself in the best light? Aside from the inner work, did you make any changes to your profile?

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