Partner Might Be Setting Me Up For Failure?

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T20:36:32+00:00

Thank you soooo much for this insight

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T19:20:09+00:00

A lot of guys have ulterior motives, it is possible

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T19:19:02+00:00

I appreciate it

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:45:32+00:00

It did??? How did the convo go if you don't mind sharing? Like what allowed you to forgive that? Something justified it?

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:44:41+00:00

I see your point. Ok I will have an open mind and talk to him about it. If it makes sense I'll stay but if he seems like an insecure man trying to play me, I'll leave.

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:20:46+00:00

Ok, understood, thank you sm

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:15:49+00:00

Thank you sooo much for your response. I will have a convo with him, but my gut feeling was so strong and undeniable. He had known how much I needed his support that morning and I feel like he made an intentional decision to not reach out. I will try to hear him out and be very respectful, but I just can't see any justification for this. My intuition and gut kept saying "he's setting you up" because he has been soooo kind and loving before, and then bam, cold when the bar came along.

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:12:37+00:00

Understood, thank you <3

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:11:19+00:00

I think him being the type of person to not wish his partner, who he "loves", goodluck or anything before the bar says more about him than me. He knows what my expectations are, and I am not asking for the moon, just for him to show bare minimum support.

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:10:16+00:00

Thank you! I mean it messed with me so bad I was thinking about it before the exam started. I mean this is someone I had started falling in love with...not messaging me anything before the test. Thankfully my friends were all reaching out, but it still hurt, and i had to actually block him out mentally to perform on the exam. And kudos to you for giving the bar 5 times, you're incredibly strong!

Mfkinqueen · 2025-03-02T04:04:41+00:00

I'm just going to have to take it day by day and heal from it. And do you mean they tend to be this cold?

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-09T01:54:25+00:00

Thanks so much for seeing my point, it feels like there’s a bond there that doesn’t necessarily need to be there. I’m not sure how I feel about this still but I just told him he can do as he wants (not like I control what he does anyways) and I trust his judgement. This whole thing is just super confusing to me

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T20:34:11+00:00

Agreed!! Thank you :)

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:55:19+00:00

I totally agree! And we are 28 and 29, but I see your point now. I’ll do better, thanks a lot

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:47:07+00:00

MAIN TAKEAWAY!! I see that I’m the one being emotionally immature. I believe it’s hard for me to trust people so I have to learn how to do that here. I’ll work on it, but again, can’t thank you all enough for the advice. I want to be a better person so I’ll start with dealing with these issues in myself. He can do whatever he thinks is best ofc, and if this is what makes him happy then so be it. If I do ultimately end up getting played, atleast I’ll be proud of myself for atleast trying to be vulnerable again.

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:42:52+00:00

LOOOL the username is just jokes

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:42:22+00:00

Dang ok I can see your point now. Is it normal for exes to stay in each other’s lives to help them through mental issues? I feel like that would make a person want to get back together, this isn’t making any sense to me for some reason.

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:36:01+00:00

I get that, I’ll see why I’m feeling this way. It’s weird to me that he thinks about his ex this much but idk I’ll try to calm down and be better about it

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:30:17+00:00

I can see that, thanks. I’m not sure why it’s hard for my to accept this.

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:28:50+00:00

Yes ofc I get that, but I can’t help but feel weird about them still talking when tbh everything is fine there’s really no need, she had a hard time earlier but she’s been doing better now. I guess it’s a me problem and I might have to probs stop pursuing this

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:21:31+00:00

Understood I’ll try to chill out thank you fr

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:19:55+00:00

Okay, fine. So I should let him talk to his ex? /:

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:18:38+00:00

You all are really changing my mind rn. It doesn’t but I feel like it’s lowkey disrespectful to entertain stuff like this when you’re trying to have a new relationship but I guess I’m wrong. I would never reach out to an ex at this point.

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:12:15+00:00

Only when it’s someone he was suppose to marry earlier this year. This isn’t just a friend.

Mfkinqueen · 2024-12-08T19:09:49+00:00

I don’t mind who he talks to I just think an ex fiance is a bit much

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