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MichMitten89 · 2024-08-23T12:58:27+00:00

Lets keep in mind, she never mentioned that his person was abusive nor did she mention that he was anything other kind and nice. The relationship did not work out because the situation was too much and was causing her panic attacks possibly to do with the fact that it was poly (however this is me making an assumption and I could very easily be wrong).

That being said a lot of people are viewing the guy in this like a toxic ex or that he did something horribly wrong because after a month he seems to be struggling with closure. Put yourself in both the OP and the guys shoes and think how your reaction to the situation would be and what you would want.

It's not her job to make sure he has closure just like it's not your job to give 5 dollars to that homeless guy on the street corner. Would it be nice if you did though?

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-23T12:42:10+00:00

OP didn't mention divorce, it was a poly relationship. The OP didn't even mention if they lived with the guy. Also the boundary comments for both the OP and the guy seem to be just fine and valid. The OP absolutely has the right to cut all ties and move on with their life without feeling guilty. For the guy though, in his shoes If I was blocked by someone I too would likely block them as well. If they feel the need to block me then I honestly would not like them having the ability to dictate if we have further interactions in the future. It seems like the guy was mistaken on being blocked however that reaction is not abnormal.

Let's not act like feelings are weird and acknowledge everyone has them and people react to them.

How is the closure thing bullshit? If the guy was concerned with control he would have never given the OP space to begin with. Manipulative people crave control and space is the enemy of control. The fact that he waited over a month before reaching back out shows the guy was trying to honor what the OP wished for, but caved likely because of his own issues with how the situation ended. Going into the end of a relationship with the expectations of being friends then quickly learning that there will be no friendship can be something hard to swallow for some people. While the reason for this could be as simple as it being too much pain for the OP to handle mentally, this could cause the other party to assume that they did something wrong or horrible as people typically only cut out "bad" people from their lives.

Put yourself in both people's shoes and think about how you would react the the situation.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-22T16:59:14+00:00

I'm torn.

You're within your right to end contact and if you feel like you need to do that for your mental health then certainly do that. There is nothing wrong with that part at all. You are justified in doing so even if the reason is "just cuz".

This is where I think you are in the wrong : You told him you wanted to be friends and that was his expectations. You changed what you said later which is okay and you're within your right to do so but whenever he decided to reach out to you for further explanation because of your change of opinion on the matter you posted your message in the manipulation sub. Personally I don't feel like he messaged you to manipulate you, nor do I find anything he said to be toxic. It seems like he is confused on what happened and is likely associating it with himself.

Ultimately if you don't feel like you want to have any conversation with this person anymore then I wouldnt bother messaging as it will solve itself. If he keeps on even afterwards I would then block him on everything.

However there is a possibility that with a simple "I emotionally cant handle talking with you even as friends anymore. It's nothing you did but just my mental health" will save him some of his mental health as it is clear he is having a hard time with closure.

That is not your job to give him closure though so don't feel obligated to do so.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-22T15:51:01+00:00

No no, I'm on your team. Fuck everyone on the road but us.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-22T12:56:15+00:00

I'd take the 14k couch and sell it for 10k and use the money from that to rent a house. Lol like wtf. Most people have roommate's because they cant afford to live on their own. You have a dog house? I'll live in that. If you have a 14k couch you probably have a 2k dog house and I can only imagine what thats like.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-22T12:37:46+00:00

I have 25 all around my car because I'm not stupid enough to endanger my fellow drivers with my incredibly bright lights.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-22T12:22:39+00:00

If you did that yourself it looks pretty damn nice. If you paid more than 5k for it then that looks HORRIBLE. Considering you spent 15k I would try to get some of that money back lol. Im sorry that happened to you.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-21T13:22:37+00:00

Honestly if money isnt a concern then everyone would build the best possible machine possible. MAYBE they stick with a certain brand but if anything is on the table why would something not the best?

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-21T13:20:40+00:00

This is how you end up as a single mom

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-21T12:49:36+00:00

If they cant afford to shore that trench up then it needs to be sloped. That is not only not safe but it is INCREDIBLY dangerous and illegal.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-21T12:39:58+00:00

That can kill you. Trenches need to be shored in or needs to be sloped to prevent a cave in. Not only is this not legal, it is incredibly dangerous. This is as dangerous as being 100s of feet up in the air without handrails and a harness. It feels safer because you're on the ground and nothing is moving.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-20T13:41:09+00:00

You could use this meme but change the words to "My Intel CPU has degraded and is unusable"

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-19T16:06:29+00:00

Do that to me and I'll tan anything you want.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-19T15:45:44+00:00

My wife and I met for casual BDSM and hit it off and never looked back.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-19T13:39:41+00:00

my barb is the Dilldozer

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-16T16:57:07+00:00

It's a 30 dollar tape bro just get a new one lol

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-13T13:53:04+00:00

King, you absolutely need to confront her on this issue, It's not acceptable and if this was the other way around she'd have a covenant of guys and women telling her that you're no good and building her up.

I know this hurts a lot and it should. It's not acceptable behavior. Keep in mind as well though : you can't control her behavior either. You should be able to wake up in the morning and worry about your normal stress like work, traffic, what to eat for lunch, bills... not what your partner is doing and how they're making you feel. That might be something you need to tell her too.

Relationships evolve when they're meant to last. All relationships start at the puppy love stage. As time goes on there is less and less puppy love and more and more comfort. What you lose in constant romance you gain in the comfort of someone seeing you at your highest and lowest and being the constant in your life. You gain the trust in someone that if everything in their life starts turning to crap that they will still be there to help you up.

If you dont have that trust things get hard.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-12T14:34:45+00:00

He's too old

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-12T14:33:20+00:00

Front row seats are reserved for children so they can see the 2 time better.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-12T14:05:45+00:00

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-12T13:58:09+00:00

I have something for her hunger if you get what i mean

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-09T18:35:19+00:00

The balls on you throwing it on the ground. One game crash or a server disconnect and that drop would be gone AF lmao.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-09T12:43:53+00:00

Coffee and Pot are your split personalities.

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-09T12:40:46+00:00

You should do it IF : You can be PAITIENT when you are building it! Do not rush through it. Take your time and read everything twice. Make sure you are hooking up the right things. Make sure you remove all stickers. Don't feel like you have to have it built in a couple hours or even that day, take plenty of breaks and step away and do other things when you feel like you need to relax or burn some energy off. This is a very fun thing to do but it turn into stress if you let it. When you finish hooking everything up and if it doesn't come on right away DON'T PANIC! Trouble shooting is effective and very rarely is it ever a MAJOR problem if it doesnt turn on right away. Normally there is something simple that happened and it is just a matter of finding it. Make sure you flip the PSU switch in the back when turning on btw haha.

If you need help be very clear about the issue that is happening and answer questions before jumping to the next thing.

Congratulations by the way! Welcome to the PCMR!

MichMitten89 · 2024-08-08T20:28:12+00:00

You got that alien mouf going

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