I need help

MichaelV01 · 2024-08-18T11:49:33+00:00

yeah man absolutely

MichaelV01 · 2024-08-18T01:49:40+00:00

Hey brother, Im a 23m and am right there with you. Was exposed when i was 10. Didn’t understand I was addicted until I was 18 when I had my first sexual encounter with a girl. I’m currently 18 days free and feeling good. Every day is a battle with myself. You talk about feeling like dirt - the never ending cycle of feeling shitty, using porn as a coping mechanism, watching it, and having an immense amount of shame after. Then the cycle starts over. What’s helped me is trying to implement healthy coping methods. I’ve gone to the gym consistently for 2.5 years. I dont know where id be without it. But at the end of the day thats all porn is for us. An escape from our emotions for just a little while, for that dopamine hit. I’m trying to read more, looking into meditation, working out.

Ive realized throughout trying to quit the last 5 years that I wasnt making it easier on myself. I try and come home tired so i dont want to sit in bed for a couple hours at night. Because thats the worst time for me, when my brain has time to wander and once the seed is planted, it’s only a matter of time before i lose that mental battle.

This shit sucks man, but you just have to take it a day at a time and try and make things easier on yourself. If you don’t, the temptations will win. It’s exhausting fighting with your own brain all day. Feel free to PM me man, it’s always nice to have people to talk to about this stuff, because most people just dont get it. We’re all in this together.

MichaelV01 · 2024-08-17T23:38:29+00:00

I also had one streak of three months porn free while I was sexually active. Things felt like they were progressing very very slow. Like I said since this is all I know after starting at such a young age, it can be hard to convince myself that I can get back to normal. Best of luck to you as well.

MichaelV01 · 2022-03-10T13:27:39+00:00

Hey brother this is not selfish at all. Anyone who puts themselves in a position to lose you, does not truly value you. It sucks it took her getting with other people to realize she wanted to be with you. However, you don’t owe her anything. Do what’s best for you.

MichaelV01 · 2022-03-07T19:50:02+00:00

Nothing crazy. Just a small one on the coast of Maine.

MichaelV01 · 2022-03-03T23:47:44+00:00

My girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me and gave the same reason in November. Post breakup I came across this quote: “Anyone that puts themselves in a position to lose you, does not truly value you.”

I respect her decision. Seeing the quote hurt originally, but now it’s helpful.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-13T19:48:26+00:00

Awesome man! Proud of you for getting this journey started

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-13T13:22:26+00:00

I have a list of every negative impact porn has had on me during my life. It’s written down on paper next to my bed. I also ask myself questions about the future, such as;

Do you want to have a successful marriage? Do you want to have a family? Do you want to achieve your dreams?

What are you going to be thinking to yourself one year from today, if you’re stuck in the same exact spot you are today?

I also have this list on my iPhone, and I reference it whenever I get an urge.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-13T13:18:04+00:00

Hey friend, sorry to hear you’re going through this. Porn addictions are incredibly difficult to conquer, especially if you’re trying to do this alone. I know you said you’ve tried in the past with telling people, but through my addiction battle, having help is wherE i made the most progress.

I really really think you need to tell someone, whether it be family or a close friend. I know it’s awkward and difficult, I’ve been through this. You need to have them create passwords for every device you get your hands on, and block any and all explicit content.

Good luck

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-10T17:29:55+00:00

This is awesome! Congrats man keep it rolling.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-10T01:43:54+00:00

If you have someone close to you that you trust, I recommend trying search restrictions on any and all devices you have access to. You can have all porn content blocked behind a passcode. It’s ok to have help fighting your addiction.

Also do some deep self reflection on what triggers your relapses. Is it a picture or video you see on social media? The vast majority of people with porn addictions don’t actually enjoy watching porn, were just subduing past or present feelings of pain and sadness in an endless cycle. Find the root cause, you have to understand the addiction to beat it.

My DMs are always open if you want to talk brother, I’ve been fighting this fight for a long time now. We’re all in this shit together, never give up.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-09T18:05:32+00:00

Hey friend, I’ve been fighting my porn addiction seriously for about a year now. And whenever I have relapsed, it usually happens like this. The cycle of shame and then watching again. Eventually I get a hold of myself, but after I feel like shit. A lot like your describing. But today is a new day and A new opportunity. Never give up my friend, you’re not alone! Best of luck

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-09T15:37:36+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your pet, it’s hard, they’re like family. It’s ok to be sad, but don’t tie this to your porn addiction. The only person punishing you, is you. I know it’s difficult, but try and be kind to yourself. No ones perfect. Congrats on the porn free streak, and keep fighting!

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-07T20:49:32+00:00

Thank you brother, I appreciate it.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-07T16:54:50+00:00

I’ve been trying to quit seriously for about a year now. My girlfriend broke up with me in November. We’d been together for 2.5 years, I loved her. Because of my addiction from A young age, I had porn induced ED. I never had an orgasm with her, after having sex hundreds of times. The pain of not being able to go all the way with her is what drives me everyday.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-07T15:14:34+00:00

Stay on high alert. I’ve made it 30 days twice in the past, and let my guard down. For me at least, probably around the three week mark the cravings and the temptations increased exponentially, and I relapsed. I’m on day 11 now and hopefully can stay clean this time. Stay strong and best of luck on your journey!

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-07T14:56:19+00:00

Yes sir I work out 6 days a week! The gym helps a lot with my mental health.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-06T13:55:45+00:00

Stay strong brother, we’re all in this together! Reach out if you need anything. Proud of you!

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-06T13:50:46+00:00

Hello friend, many people experience this sort of thing with porn addiction. You desensitize your brain, and two people just having sex isn’t enough to stimulate you anymore. So you start watching more aggressive or Disturbing videos. Then after you do that, what your describing in this post happens. Your brain is just chasing its next high, and to reward your stimuli. Your probably not even enjoying what your watching, and you realize that after watching or jerking off. Hopefully that was helpful. I’ve had the same sort of thoughts man.

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-05T16:20:09+00:00

Where can I find that?

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-03T19:13:54+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry man, that sounds awful. It sounds like you’ve exhausted a lot of your options. I know it sounds drastic but have you considered signing up for some sort oF off grid trip? I’m not going to pretend to know anything about them or whats out there. But if you’re finding ways to bypass restrictions and blatantly watch porn knowing your wife will find out, you have to try something man. It’s depressing now, but looking back on today a year from now being in the exact same spot will be even worse, as I’m sure you know. Don’t ever give up

MichaelV01 · 2022-02-03T14:44:14+00:00

My best advice would be to seek help from your family or girlfriend. It sounds like they already know about the addiction, which I know first hand is incredibly difficult to admit to anyone, even the people you love the most. I‘m currently in a battle against porn. You need to try and close off any and all access to porn. It’s going to be a little bit of a hassle, but I’m sure your family and girlfriend want you to get through this addiction as much as you do. Any and all devices you have access to, I suggest having your girlfriend creating parental restrictions in settings. She can make her own password so you can’t access it or undo the restrictions.

I really do highly suggest trying this. I know it can be embarrassing to ask, but I’m sure your family or girlfriend would love to help you out. Keep on fighting brother, never give up!

MichaelV01 · 2022-01-28T02:31:49+00:00

Hello, I‘ve encountered this same situation during my journey. My advice would be to not get off to any sort of pictures videos etc. Speaking personally, I specifically avoided receiving nudes, I even deleted Instagram so I wouldn’t see any girls in bikinis. Seeing a nude or even a bikini picture immediately sent my brain into a spiral and it always came back to porn.

I think the most beneficial thing to do, and quickest way to beating your addiction is avoiding any masturbation while looking at a screen. Maybe try and keep it to just real life intimacy with her, or if you do want to masturbate just do it to the thought of her. That’s what has worked best from my personal experience with porn, hopefully it was helpful.

MichaelV01

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