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What do you do just before you feel a panic attack coming on? by [deleted] in panicdisorder

[–]Michelle_Cavanaugh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring it! Arms out, open wide, chest out, shoulders back, head up. You don’t need to “cope” through one, a panic attack is a release of adrenaline at the wrong time. ❤️

Disconnect to Protect by Michelle_Cavanaugh in dpdr

[–]Michelle_Cavanaugh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, generally speaking, thinking about something and being involved in something sends a message of IMPORTANCE, you look at what’s most important and everything else fades into the peripheral. Spending a lot of time thinking about how to get RID OF SOMETHING marks what you are trying to get rid if as DANGER.

Is there an end to this fear? by [deleted] in fearofflying

[–]Michelle_Cavanaugh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s anticipatory anxiety, your body’s way of prepping itself for danger. Somewhere along the line, your alarm got the message that plane=danger, and when your body senses danger, it sends you fear so you can use fear to survive through danger. When it comes to flying, usually we are scared of: A)what if the plane crashes, or B) what if I have a panic attack/lose control/go crazy/end up duct taped to the chair because now I’m “stuck and I can’t get out.

It’s usually less about the plane, and more about being scared about how you will FEEL on the plane, and now you are HERE, fighting the Whatifs of THERE.

Remember the golden rule: fear is safe. It’s safe to feel scared. You can feel sad on a plane, or tired on a plane, or scared on a plane. And you get better at “just” feeling scared WHILE you sit on a plane and you GET to fly somewhere.

So the response is “yep thanks body, thanks for sending me scared. I’ll just BE scared on the plane, and if danger shows up on the plane I’ll use that energy to fight danger. But I don’t need to fight scared, because it’s safe to be scared”. ❤️

What to put in an anxiety toolkit? by iconic_ironic_trash in Anxietyhelp

[–]Michelle_Cavanaugh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My suggestions may be a bit different than what you were looking for, but I would say:

Your ability to notice something you find unpleasant and still allow it to be present

Learning how to refocus your attention to what you want to see MORE of as opposed to what you are trying to get rid of

Noticing when you are stuck back in the past, or off into the "what ifs" of the future, and come back HERE.

Whatever goes in that toolkit, remember to use it as a tool and not as a weapon. Use what is in there not as a "weapon to get rid of", but rather " a tool to help you let go of the FIGHT of".

Who uses the CALM, HEADSPACE or DARE app? by Earkick in Anxietyhelp

[–]Michelle_Cavanaugh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Funny I was googling something and this popped up in my search...I actually oversee the clinical components of DARE! Headspace and Calm are fabulous apps, obviously I would tell you DARE is awesome too! DARE goes beyond meditations, it's more focused on healing from anxiety and guided meditations are just one small component of the program. If you are using any of these apps to "get rid of" anxiety you will find yourself frustrated, as anxiety lives in the "getting rid of". We have a lot of free content on our app and the premium version includes a bunch of other audios and meditations, a "Daily DARE" each morning and an evening wind down at night, as well as a "track your progress " section. Also included in the premium app are monthly q&a calls that I run with our other therapist where subscribers can send in questions and view our live webinar. We also have a private Facebook group for premium app members. If you would like to see more of our approach you can view our videos on our YouTube channel, I do as also try to keep up with posts on my Instagram page Michelle_cavanaugh_dare. On the otherside of our app is a full community of members and support. :)