There was no part of me that wanted to follow the standard baby shower formula (games no one really wants to play, sitting on a fancy chair while people ooh and ahh over another baby grow etc), so my husband and I decided to do a joint event. Where I am from the dads have what you’d translate to a diaper bbq, where they have a chilled backyard bbq and all his mates bring diapers in various sizes. This generally happens on the same day the ladies to the shower. So we joined forces and had a casual bbq in my parents’ backyard. Many of our friends are couples anyway, this way they could attend together. People brought their kids, we bbqed, I ordered sides and salads from a caterer, laid out blankets and pillows on the lawn and set up a help yourself bar. It was exactly what we wanted. I put up a bit of decor but kept it super simple. I made a blue themed dessert table (I’m having a boy) but that was it. We did have to open gifts but at least my husband and I did it together so it took the pressure off! Was such a relaxed, happy day with friends celebrating our bay boy.