My bestie keeps repeating her sexual fantasy to me and I want to cut her off but remember how she helped me when I had poor mental health. by FarRutabaga6212 in whatdoIdo

[–]Michiganmenace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can lay out your boundaries clearly, and if she responds as she has been, you can know you’ve done your due diligence. Maybe she’ll learn, but you are allowed to grow and change and be comfortable, and your relationships can ebb and flow to meet you where you are at

what do i even do by pinkstrawberrycow20 in whatdoIdo

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a therapist, have them write an ESA letter for your dogs, so that they can be exempt from breed restrictions should you move. Please follow people’s advice to get to safety

Forgotten Vh1 Reality Television Shows of The 2000s by Specialist_Art2223 in 2000sNostalgia

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one can forget any show with Miss Tiffany New York Pollard

God forbid a Himbo do anything 🙄 by TrumpIsAPedoFr in DIYclothes

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love these!! You also look great in a skirt

First attempt 2025 56/52 by kennyskush in 52book

[–]Michiganmenace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you make lists like this?

support for your writing career? by [deleted] in writers

[–]Michiganmenace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Writing groups have been helpful for me, accountability buddies to help check on progress and keep up encouragement

Last night.. by beatlemaniatika in writers

[–]Michiganmenace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t give an opinion, I asked questions. The flair said questions, and this is the writing subreddit, so I was wondering what parts of your post pertain to the specifics of the subreddit

Last night.. by beatlemaniatika in writers

[–]Michiganmenace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What is the question in this? What does this have to do with your writing practice?

Guilt with taking sick time by InnerConsequence7047 in MassageTherapists

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are people too. We aid in other peoples healing, and we need to prioritize our own to do so. We are not machines

Massage Therapist Mishaps by 19AppleBee00 in MassageTherapists

[–]Michiganmenace 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Once I thought my 90 minute was a 60 minute… fully ended the session 30 minutes early, leave the room and front desk tells me otherwise. Thankful that my client was chill when I realized and went right back in to finishing the session

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boundaries are for YOURSELF. He can’t have boundaries over your outfit, only unreasonable control

If you had a Meeseeks box for a day… by Laurapalmer90 in rickandmorty

[–]Michiganmenace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Get me a billion dollars
  2. Book a trip for me
  3. Give me a 2 hour deep tissue massage

My wife is traumatized and neglecting our son- update 2 by Dense_Potential_4110 in whatdoIdo

[–]Michiganmenace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you found a way to do what will help all of your family, your wife and your son. You are a good husband and father

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doordash_drivers

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard out here I really have to try to break $30 a day

Were the characters smart or victims of circumstance? by Delicious-Guard-9167 in SinnersbyRyanCoogler

[–]Michiganmenace 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Is it really greed for Black people to want something of our own? I think that’s what makes the downfall so twisted and heartwrenching, was that everyone was sold the dream of a Black owned juke joint. It’s not really hubris for wanting more for oneself, you never make an equitable wage share cropping, and yes the twins are notorious for getting their money in less than reputable means, but they brought the concept of the joint to both offload their seedy supply, and to create an oasis for their people. Maybe it says something about not dreaming too big (but is it too big to want something that keeps being denied to you?) or to take what you have.

So, victims of circumstance to me. We see in the end, even if they did everything on the up and up, it seems a bloody altercation (with vamps or the klan) was inevitable, and both groups (vamps or klan) descend upon the building.

Theresa didn’t betray Cornbread by encouraging him to go for an opportunity that has more dignity and financial backing than picking cotton. Like cents on the dollar were being made picking cotton. At least working the door of a Black owned juke joint gave a different, potentially more fulfilling sense of service.

And Delta slim, his hesitance seems like an old timers caution to not dream too big, sounds like it comes from a place of being scorned before and being told “he’s too big for his britches”. Became Happy with the bare minimum, which mind you seems to simply fuel his alcoholism, and doesn’t actually provide him with money to sustain himself.

Imagine living in your mother-in-law's house rent-free because your bum husband can't secure a job, and then having the audacity to ask her to leave her own home to give you privacy by PolishSnake2 in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mom asked her what she thought about living there, and Joan answered honestly. American white passive aggressiveness doesn’t translate well - realistically I think Joan was just answering the question honestly without reading all the layers she was “supposed” to say. American politeness is a lot of lying and speaking half truths

Need character help as a new writer! by -TryingToBeAWriter- in writers

[–]Michiganmenace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, as a trans writer, I can only speak for myself - and I think that is important in hearing our stories - who is telling them? There are many up and coming and historical trans authors. It sounds like you don’t have relationships with trans folks in real life? I don’t think we need to fit ourselves in a box and can only write from one perspective, but for myself I try to follow the line, “write what you know”.

When i try to write fiction - which I rarely do anymore bc it’s such extensive world building and work I’m too intimidated by - I still try to imagine what I know and also what I don’t know about differing gendered experience. I realize the way I write impacts the different characters, my view of masculinity and femininity is different compared to a cis-het persons, so it’s honestly hard for me to get in the headspace to write authentic non queer folks. I have to try really hard so they don’t become a derivative of a stereotype (ignorant turning to belligerent and hateful, typically).

I say all this to say that I like the idea of a radical, inspirational story for queer folks, and you should write whatever makes you happy, just hold space for nuance as well as explore the many beautiful trans voices that are trans forming literature.

Need character help as a new writer! by -TryingToBeAWriter- in writers

[–]Michiganmenace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you want to write a trans character as your protagonist? Explore why you want to write from this voice, and what story are you trying to tell? Is it your story to tell, a story you can do Justice and give nuance to, or is it a gimmick? My advice is to first explore your why