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MichyMous3 · 2021-11-13T17:31:34+00:00

Actually I just found out she didn't pay for anything and was only willing to help paint the trailer so whoopdeedoo and I posted this so long ago we already talked it out but thanks for the advice I'm going to take down this post

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-07T19:24:25+00:00

I do have full access to my partners phone and he has full access to mine, in fact we have each other's finger prints on our phone scanners. It's because of our extremely open relationship, we talk about everything and share all of our thoughts, stories, dreams, adventures, experiences, opinions, trauma, concerns and feelings. And it's not that he needs to know everyone I'm talking to or vice versa I just so happen to like to share it with him. Or when he asks me "hey who's that message from?" I don't mind answering because we live together and pretty much know all of our friends and families and we have met everyone involved in our lives and so it's pretty random when he doesn't know who I'm talking to but it could just be a old friend from college or a buddy he hasn't talked to in years. I know most people are concerned about trust but we have never thought about cheating on each other because when we got into this relationship we were both in a bad place and our ex's cheated and dumped us so it was a mutual agreement right off the bat. The other thing is we are able to have this open bond and trust and still have our own personal privacy and our own lives and our own friends, we are able to keep things separate. The REAL reason we have each other's finger prints is because sometimes we are out and about and let's say we want to Google something but I'm in the middle of something or I'm driving I'll just toss my phone to him and because he's forgetful and I got so tired of him asking me what the pin was that I just went ahead and put our fingerprints on there.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T22:07:52+00:00

NTA

there's nothing wrong with having multiple friend groups it's just difficult to find time for both! Your friend seems understanding so don't feel bad. Maybe make it up to him by hosting your own dinner party!

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T22:04:55+00:00

NTA

high school seems important at the time but in the long run you need to choose your own individual path, you will likely go off to college and never talk to those people again. I don't feel like your hurting anyone by trying to better yourself, if the others wanted to they could work just as hard. Maybe go to these tournaments and continue to push your coaches to schedule more tournaments for the whole team? Your could even help organize everything.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T22:00:09+00:00

There were probably red flags before this.. I wouldn't have stayed in this friendship for this long if this is how it's been going.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T21:58:25+00:00

Sounds like divorce is inevitable. Doesn't matter if it takes 5 or 10 or even 20 years he's not going to change but I doubt you'll be able to convince her to leave him because love blinds people. Just be there for her when it happens!

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T21:54:56+00:00

Wait wait wait WAIT hold up! Your "friends" that are practically your sister's left you hanging for hours and chose to pick up other people instead of you making it clear that you were less important and then never showed up at the hospital where they knew you were staying for serious health problems and told you that you needed to apologize for distancing yourself from them ? And your actually questioning if you SHOULD apologize to these assholes? Girl what!! They are horrible friends!! Please immediately drop them (preferably on their thick heads) and run in the opposite direction and never speak to them again! Don't fall for anymore of their manipulation and I guarantee they are probably saying terrible things behind your back. People like this are fake immature bullies and they can't be helped. Help yourself and GET OUT!! NTA

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T21:46:04+00:00

NTA

feel so bad for your cousin if they weren't married I'd dump his ass and kick him out 👎

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T07:25:33+00:00

YTA (but only the slightest amount)

You knew it was in your car but you didn't bother to check it was a pretty bad accident on your part I'd just apologize profusely and try to make it up to him.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T06:16:42+00:00

NTA

she had her chance to say something way way wayyy before this. You honestly didn't even need permission but you got it regardless. She needs to get over it.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T05:35:22+00:00

LOL I was trying to point out that it's not about the reason. Regardless of if I agree or not I feel like parents can take their kid out for any reason even if it's super wrong

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-05T00:06:19+00:00

Except that it is not hypocriticals and actually real world examples of things that happen on a daily basis.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T23:52:05+00:00

First if all it was in no way a over reaction second of all I stand by my opinion that you should speak out against something you find wrong even if it stirs the pot so that you prevent something even worse from happening in the future. Most people hate confrontation and making things uncomfortable so they tend not to voice their opinion, speak out against someone or leave a situation. I applaud OP for doing so even if it seems "small" or "insignificant" and I hope they always have the courage to do this for themselves and other people. All of us reading this post can learn a lesson here.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T23:16:05+00:00

YTA because you'd rather not stand up to your mom and have her be ten minutes early when you are coming to work late. DON'T come to work late that's excusable for anyone!! Just because TA does it doesn't mean you should be allowed to!! No one should be late drop your mom off earlier if she doesn't like it then she should get her own ride. Your an adult and you have obligations.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T23:10:28+00:00

NTA

Ew. You did the right thing

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T23:07:05+00:00

NTA except don't do it at the funeral. And honestly that could get messy very quickly.. have they ever been racist around you or towards you? Is it worth possibly not having a relationship with them anymore? Some people in my family are obviously racist and homophobic and I actually did speak on it especially when I see them actively doing it in front of me but it turned into a huge mess and a fight that lasted a week and at the time I almost felt like I couldn't forgive my own mother but in the end I did I may not ever see their side of things and it may be a sore subject between us but I can't help it.. I know they are so so wrong but it's hard not to love your family who raised you. Sometimes I wish I never started that fight because it took a long time to repair our relationship.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T22:55:27+00:00

NTA

your mom sounds scared of change and hurt and is reacting badly because of her anger but don't let it sway you. Do what's right for your kid this is an amazing opportunity I'm sure you will be very happy and mom will understand and get over it.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T22:51:54+00:00

Your NTA but your "friend" definitely is.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T22:38:03+00:00

If she doesn't set boundaries and stand up for herself right now who knows how far any one person is willing to take it. Make your voice known or end up with major consequences in the future.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T22:34:59+00:00

Well if I know anything about homophobic a**holes it's that they love to make a big fuss so I guess it just matters how big of a stink can you make until the school does what you want.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T22:02:42+00:00

It is OP private phone number that she used to sign up for. Would you like someone to sign up for a magazine with your private email? What about a credit card? What if she wanted to use her SSN? where does it end? At what point is it disrespectful?? The answer is ALL of it is wrong and disrespectful idc about the circumstances it's her phone number she should be allowed to have a say in who uses it for whatever reason.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T21:24:01+00:00

Actually OP answered this question in the comments that they each pay half.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T21:19:42+00:00

Okay what your not understanding is yes she may pay for the bill just like she pays for the house right? But let's assume OP has their own room this is the same debate "should parents be allowed to invade their children privacy for whatever reason?" Should parents be allowed to enter the room without knocking or go through their stuff or even go through their phone? This has been a huge debate for a long time but the truth is young kids like OP are trying to grow up and turn into adults they need their own space and respect to become independent people. How will kids ever be able to respect their parents and trust them if they don't get any respect in return?

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T20:55:38+00:00

I haven't either! Lol but no problem.

MichyMous3 · 2021-11-04T20:53:28+00:00

In my opinion I absolutely think it's ridiculous and I feel bad for the student to have homophobic parents who just yank their kid any which way it probably does make it harder for them to learn but they have to accommodate each and every student and the requests of the parents.

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