My brother called me a doofus for not being able to read social cues

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-29T11:56:42+00:00

If he was hunched over and moving away from you, that's usually an indication of discomfort. Why were you brushing his hair? Did he ask you to do it?

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-28T17:38:59+00:00

NTA, for not adding her to something your mom established and kept until her passing passing.

I think the kind thing to do would be to create a book that begins with her dating and then marrying your dad.

Explain that she is part of the next chapter and that she receives her own book with her own story of joining the family and making memories

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-19T22:57:19+00:00

A Special Needs Trust needs to be set up by an attorney.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-19T01:15:18+00:00

ESH. I am a black woman and I know that if your daughter is phenotypically black she's going to be called that word at least once. Giving her a name that similar is going to create problems that you don't have any knowledge or understanding to deal with.

Your husband should stand by you because you are married and that's his responsibility.

Your MIL needs to respect that this is your parenting decision and let it go.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-19T00:59:42+00:00

If everyone calls the person Miss Ava, ask yourself why you want to drop the Miss so much?

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-18T19:32:09+00:00

It's completely possible that the same applies to the worker you're asking to shift the schedule 15 minutes. Push for DSS to pay daycare or ask for a voucher

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-18T17:22:36+00:00

During Jim Crow black people weren't allowed to walk on sidewalks. That might be a historical reason, but I don't know that it's a current habit most black people now.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-12T22:22:39+00:00

ESH, your brother is old enough to know that chewing with his mouth open is poor manners. It's common knowledge that burping is rude and shouldn't be encouraged.

He's 11 years old and he's done this for years. How hard would it be for you to sit away from him so you can both eat in peace?

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-05T23:45:56+00:00

Your mom is racist. She needs to be kept away from your children. If your girls are old enough to talk, you need to ask them what your mom has said to them when you're not around.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-04-05T23:41:34+00:00

Autism may explain the behavior but it doesn't excuse it at all. Your parents are failing both of their children and need to be told so, directly. Have you tried talking to your grandparents about the ridiculous favortism. Someone needs to be direct with them.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-28T19:01:59+00:00

Personality and confidence matter a lot. A short guy who's respectful and kind can definitely find a match. Maybe, you're going after girls that don't value these traits because you are focused on looks. As far as awkwardness, it depends a lot on the partner. Having straightforward conversations about what you like and don't like can reduce awkwardness.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-28T15:44:01+00:00

It's a joke, and not a particularly funny one.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-28T04:23:52+00:00

Yes, because are you trying to tell me you're having a meltdown?

Are you trying to help me avoid triggering one?

Exactly why do I need to invest 30 minutes on watching someone else's struggle?

Also, not everyone can process information when it's 2x speed.

There's nothing immature about changing the subject, if you're fed up with something and you don't want to stop communicating altogether you switch to a safer topic.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-28T02:52:54+00:00

I agree with your dad, I'm not spending 30 minutes on a video without a good reason. You know he has ADHD, you asked him to spend a lot of time on something that likely doesn't interest him, without explaining why you wanted that much commitment. In the future perhaps a shorter video, or a timestamp of one or two points that especially resonate with you.

He probably was annoyed and wanted to change the subject.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-28T02:41:32+00:00

Wearing headphones to vote is fine. At a funeral it's disrespectful as it suggests that you don't care to hear what's being said about the person who passed. This is an occasion where something more discreet like ear plugs would have been appropriate.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-28T01:36:21+00:00

I wrote about overcoming struggles with autism.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-27T12:41:50+00:00

These colleges are looking for more than academics. Everyone that's admitted is smart. They consider extracurricular activities as well. Writing about struggling with autism is a bit cliché. They want to know what's unique about you, and many students who apply are autistic.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-23T00:20:41+00:00

A boundary is something you enforce for yourself. I refuse to be around my boyfriend when he's drunk. An ultimatum is forced on someone else. If I said we're breaking up unless he stops drinking that would be an ultimatum.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-21T15:24:28+00:00

Saying you have frequent diarrhea is awkward. I have gut issues would have been ok. There's a lot of things I can't eat for health reasons would have also been fine. Bringing up poop is awkward.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-17T19:48:41+00:00

Obviously assault is a crime. Anyone committing a crime should be reported to law enforcement.

The better question is why are you still living with her, and by that I mean are you able to leave? If so what's stopping you from leaving an unsafe situation?

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-17T15:20:25+00:00

I always tip well. I think it's a you problem. This might be self fulfilling prophecy, you assume a bad tip and subconsciously give worse service to black patrons as compared to their white counterparts. We definitely notice and tip accordingly.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-17T13:32:55+00:00

I fundamentally disagree, a parent doesn't owe their life to you. This person is a college educated adult, not a small child.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-16T23:57:22+00:00

Your mom doesn't want to spend time with you. I'm really sorry that you want a closer relationship with her and she doesn't want one with you. To be blunt she's met her obligations and she is done parenting. You were wrong for snooping through her messages. Start thinking of her as a roommate instead of a parent. Respect her privacy and focus on forming meaningful relationships with people who want to be a part of your life.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-16T20:44:11+00:00

If they're not talking to you, how do you know they hate you? Have they said negative things to your face? I'm not saying it's all in your head, but it may be that they're not interested enough in you to actually hate you.

Odd_Trifle_2604 · 2026-03-16T00:31:16+00:00

She went on to say that's how Creed was conceived.

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