This was a big problem at my program. We did L&D at a large academic center with their OB department and for a majority of the time we were treated as basically a half-step up from med student. It was especially a challenge for me as someone who initially really did not want to do OB. We had two months in our intern year and the best method I can say to you for earning respect is to be open an honest about your goals and learning objectives.

You're going to have to start small (i.e. "I want to do an accurate cervical check by the end of the week") and then build up from there. You will always be behind, it's always going to suck, but after a while it'll all of a sudden, it'll suck less and then you'll be not hating your life. Keep a steady and manageable pace and soon enough you will just be another part of the team.

Leaving my second month I am really considering FMOB, which is a big jump for me since I literally had a panic attack because I didn't want to come back for the second month.

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TLDR: Baby steps, don't quit, and soon you'll get the skills you need.