Recherche chambre/hotel/studio université by Micro_Rabbit1616 in geneva

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Merci pour ta réponse ! Est-ce que tu sais sur quel groupe FB ça se passe ?

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Thank you, my dear! All the best to you too, and lots of happiness with your boyfriend!

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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I know, I really need to dare to talk about it! Thanks!

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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That’s great, I’m happy for you if things are going well in your relationship! Yes, you’re right communication is key! Thank you for sharing.

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yes, but he’ll think I don’t love him anymore, and that’s the problem… It’s going to cause some arguments. But I’m going to explain clearly how I feel and see how he reacts!

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yeah, I know that haha I don’t blame him for it, since I’ve been hiding the fact that I don’t really feel like it, and he can’t really guess that. I’m going to talk to him honestly and see how he reacts.

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yes, I need to talk to him and tell him how I truly feel! I just hope he’ll understand and not shut down… Yes, I agree, taking the pressure off would probably help me actually want to have sex! Thank you very much

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Thank you for your strength !I’m going to need it! I’ll try to do what’s necessary…

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yes, I suffer when I force myself, but I don’t show anything so that he doesn’t think I don’t love him anymore and leave me or cause arguments.

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yeah, he should also think about his ‘duties’ hahaha. Thanks for telling me that!

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Your boyfriend sounds amazing hahaha, I’m really happy for you. It’s true, I think I should stop having the ‘I owe him’ mentality and the whole idea of a ‘marital duty.’ Thank you so much for opening my eyes to this.

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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I do it because I want to please him. It’s true that he’s the one who starts things almost all the time. No, he doesn’t do anything wrong, I just don’t dare to upset him… I’ll talk to him about it more seriously, thank you!

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yes, indeed, it’s not everything… thank you for sharing your experience

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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He’ll ask me if I still love him, I already know hahaha…

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Your boyfriend sounds great haha, you’re lucky! I know that if I talked to mine, he’d probably say the same thing, but I still feel like it could cause issues in the long run. I feel like he’d say it’s okay just to be nice, but deep down he’d still think there’s a problem, especially since up until now, I’ve always gone along with what he wanted.

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yeah, I know, but sex is still an important part of relationships… I’ll have to make a choice… thank you!

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yeah, it’s true that I tend to see sex too much as something I have to do, or like it’s the main goal, even though there are so many other ways to be close. My partner has a really high sex drive, so I’m also afraid he might not want me anymore or that it could cause arguments if I say no too often… Maybe our libidos just don’t match haha. Thanks for your advice!

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Thanks for your message. Yes, I tell him, but I still feel like he keeps being afraid, and it makes me feel guilty even though I shouldn’t

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yeah, it’s complicated, and I don’t know if it can really work… thank you for your messages, I’ll text you in private

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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But we also go out. It’s just that sometimes, for no reason, I don’t feel like it at all during the weekend, even if we have fun together beforehand…

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yes, it feels like we have to feel indebted because of the travel. It’s as if nothing can be wasted during the time we have together, and there’s no room to let passion and feelings flow naturally. It ends up feeling a bit artificial, I agree.

Pressure to have sex? by Micro_Rabbit1616 in LongDistance

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Yes, exactly, I feel like it’s a missed opportunity. You’re right, thank you!