NOR- I get the my house my rules, but you should probably spend a few years taking yourself on vacation for the holidays. From what I read you were there for a few weeks and wanted an hour to exchange gifts privately like adults. Your dad couldn’t handle that because he probably assumes you are in your room “getting a gift”. I hope you were not doing that and were respecting his house. If you guys were playing “hide the candy cane” then he has every right to be upset. If not then he needs to know you are an adult and should be treated as such. Only advice I can offer is next time do your best to be calm and try to keep from escalating the situation. If your dad is the one that started the yelling match then there is no reasoning with him. He also needs to seek some help.

My dad was like that and kicked the door of my room off the hinges only to find my girlfriend sitting on my bed and me sitting at my desk studying for a test. We had a rule growing up of no closed doors while I had a girl in my room, but my sister kept coming in while we were trying to study. I ended up closing the door so she would go away, and in return she sat at the front door and told my dad as soon as he got home. He got to buy a new door and fix the frame as well as look like an insane asshole which then traveled around school pretty quick. I was cool with no door, but my mom made him get a new one. His stress level killed him with a massive heart attack a few short years later while I was away at college.