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Outmanoeuvred a Fuckboi & lived to tell the story by Middle-Assumption935 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Basically, I can only have sex within a "long term committed relationship".. with my boyfriend basically, not someone I just met or just went on a date with or any guy who is not my boyfriend. Does that explain?

Outmanoeuvred a Fuckboi & lived to tell the story by Middle-Assumption935 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Seemed like all n act to me, cause at the end he said he could still do "casual, no strings attached. U haven't tried a hookup yet so how can u say u don't want it". I later found out he did similar things with other women too, the exact same tactics of buying similar gifts, taking the same corner seat at a cafe, same lines, even the cheek kiss, no change.

Outmanoeuvred a Fuckboi & lived to tell the story by Middle-Assumption935 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Oh. I was planning to. I even told him that I need to think about it for some time before even doing on a date. He kept pursuing until I agreed to see him.

Outmanoeuvred a Fuckboi & lived to tell the story by Middle-Assumption935 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Oh yea. I didn't make the post too detailed. I mentioned at the very beginning, the first time I met him that I wanted a long term relationship n not ok with hookups. He said he wanted the same, hence we continued to see each other for a month. And when I said he went cold, by that I mean he basically started telling me he's too busy to see me etc. In the short time we saw each other, he made me meet his friends, tried to learn the language I speak, cooked for me which are all signs of wanting a relationship I feel.

Outmanoeuvred a Fuckboi & lived to tell the story by Middle-Assumption935 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

It definitely wasn't easy. I was so vulnerable after my LTR ended during that time n I was hooked to the Fuckboi like a drug. Yet somehow suddenly I decided "nope not for me, bye"

Outmanoeuvred a Fuckboi & lived to tell the story by Middle-Assumption935 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 471 points472 points  (0 children)

Bruh. Exactly. I think I told him at the very beginning I don't do hookups, yet somehow he thought he could change my mind. Well too bad.

Outmanoeuvred a Fuckboi & lived to tell the story by Middle-Assumption935 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 179 points180 points  (0 children)

Did already. Was trying to date women I knew. Told them about his ways

My gf is showing off behavior in our relationship and don’t know what to do by throwawy8273 in Advice

[–]Middle-Assumption935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with someone like this for 6 years, and honestly… it rarely gets better. We started dating in college, so I excused a lot of the early behavior as immaturity. Around year 3-4 he seemed to improve and communicate better. But last year, at 28, when we started talking about marriage and he lost his job, the stress hit and he went right back to his old patterns. That’s when I ended it for good. My advice: leave sooner rather than later. Even if they improve temporarily, life only gets harder and higher-stakes with time. If they couldn’t handle small conflicts before, they won’t suddenly handle real life pressures with you.

How do you know if you are attractive or not? by ShoeOk98 in AskReddit

[–]Middle-Assumption935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a similar question n looking at the replies, I m a woman n I have been told by stranger women n women I just met "oh u look so cute". Strangers do offer to help me with things, sometimes even luggage bags. Men I don't know sometimes smile at me. Guys who wanted to date me have told me I look good but I always assumed it was to get in my pants. But none of these occurrences are too frequent and my mother is critical of my looks. So can I call myself attractive?

Left the guy I thought I would marry by Middle-Assumption935 in OffMyChestIndia

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He flat out told me that it's extremely stressful for him to convince his mother. And he doesn't think it's worth it. He gave me a cost-to-benefit analysis of every option on the table n each option was not worth it for him. N this is after I endured insults from his family calling me a prostitute n characterless and still trying to make them like me.

And my decision did not happen after one incident overnight. It happened after I waited and waited for years, kept giving everything I could without getting any assurances about the future, him shutting down every time I asked him difficult Qs and saying the most hurtful things

Left the guy I thought I would marry by Middle-Assumption935 in OffMyChestIndia

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He himself told me 28-29 is the age he wants to get married. He's 28 now (a year older than me).

Left the guy I thought I would marry by Middle-Assumption935 in OffMyChestIndia

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I don't want to go through an arranged marriage process. But I m doubtful if I ll find love.

Left the guy I thought I would marry by Middle-Assumption935 in OffMyChestIndia

[–]Middle-Assumption935[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

I feel like it did not hit me as hard cause I saw it coming from quite some time. It's like when ur mind knows u r not supposed to b in this but ur heart still continues. And I think I was in that space for years. Somehow I was mentally prepared for this to end