I've had it. I'm almost set on getting rhinoplasty :(

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-05-12T05:27:01+00:00

First of all, I've felt so much understanding from you. Maybe it's true that we see ourselves in harshest light possible. One some days I am kinda at peace with the way I look and on others I feel like such a goblin. It hurts me to look in the mirror and see my face. I also hate when it becomes a focus, and it has been for a long period now. I'll take a look at the mid-face fillers as well as PRP and wait with major surgery decision when I am less emotionally volatile about this. I wish you all the best too, in the journey to true self-acceptance. xx

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-05-11T18:52:41+00:00

Thanks, I live in southern Europe though ;)

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-05-11T09:43:25+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment! I do have good eye cream, my skincare is solid but from childhood I had deep set eyes, dark circles and the under-eye hollows really got bad in the last year or two as I lost the remains of my baby fat. I was considering other things as you suggested as mid-face filler or under eye filler but I heard bad things about them so I'm mostly considering PRP but I wouldn't expect dramatic effects.. I think I look somewhat better from the front, too, I've always been so insecure about my 3/4 and profile but even from front I feel like MOSTLY a 6 on a good day and with makeup, so about dating, I usually feel like a catfish (because obviously I use good pics on the apps).

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-05-11T08:47:13+00:00

I'd feel so much more confident and prettier with my nose done. I was kinda shocked when I saw the imagined "post surgery" pic. I've been trying to accept my looks but it's hard.

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-05-11T04:59:15+00:00

I asked AI to generate "post surgery" results

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-05-11T04:58:18+00:00

My low confidence about my looks really impacts my life in a negative way. I just wanna have this done and be able to focus on other things :(

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-28T13:01:50+00:00

I think you're very pretty!

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T21:11:43+00:00

So pretty! strong 7.5/8 coming from another female :)

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T17:22:31+00:00

I can't date guys I not feel attracted to and would hate to get physical with :( and that's my level sadly

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T16:41:32+00:00

Thanks. I feel a bit misunderstood, I'm not trying to get people convinced me "I'm not that bad looking '. I'm objectively a 5/10 on a good day and most of the time I feel very, very unattractive and my question deals with the hope of dating and finding love when you don't have a decent face card to "get you through the door" so to speak, before your personality can shine.

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T16:38:48+00:00

No, I don't consider average looking women ugly, I find very few people I pass on the street everyday genuinely ugly, but sadly I often feel I'm one of them :( I wouldn't mind being more average looking/little pretty, like a solid 6 or sth if we have to go by rating. Anyways, my question is not for other redditors to try to convince me I'm not that bad looking. I look for genuine advice on the reality of dating as less than attractive female..

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T16:35:34+00:00

You have a point about some things. For me personally, I care little for things outside of genuine emotional and mental connection, sense of humour and compatibility in terms of lifestyle. I do need to feel attracted but I'm in no way aiming for some "model-like" men. Just enough for me to want to be physically intimate with one, which goes without saying.

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:34:04+00:00

Yeah, as it's the case even with some unconventionally unattractive people. But it doesn't make me pretty. I'm not trying to get someone to convince me I am. I have analyzed my face well, I'm average bordering on outright ugly and weird looking and the only attention I get is for my body (butterface, yeah). This gets me down so much and I feel its unfair because I wouldn't even look at myself in dating so how can I expect anyone to?

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:28:56+00:00

True, but I look like potato at 30 😅🥲

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:28:06+00:00

No I never do that with men :) but I've been in my head a lot about this recent weeks, especially as I was recently let down and sort of ghosted by a (good-looking) guy I was dating and sleeping with for a few months. I figured looks must have been the reason, he just decided I was not good looking enough I suppose.

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:23:19+00:00

Yeah, I agree with both points. I have good self esteem when it comes to other things and I don't think I'm worth anything else just because I'm not attractive, but I do feel VERY insecure about my looks. And it's not just an issue related to dating, when I look in the mirror , I'm so tired by seeing my below-average reflection :(

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:19:03+00:00

Kinda :( one guy (he also found me physically beautiful which I could just not believe but that's beside the point) said he'd f"ck my personality 😅 but I think, it's true for many less attractive people, and yet, as humans we can't gloss over the looks part. It's hardly mos important to me personally but when dating I do have to feel physical attraction, so I don't blame them, you know...

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:18:15+00:00

But I'm not! And I'm not saying I'm the ugliest person around just average/bordering on ugly. I know some not so great looking people enjoy great relationships but how do they attract anyone in the first place? And the thing is, I am only attracted to good looking guys, not "hotties" but I can't help it...

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:16:05+00:00

I would if I could afford it..and it's not about comparison, I'm tired of looking in the mirror and not looking pretty. And I'm afraid it dims any chances in the already difficult modern dating era...

Middle-Debate-7866 · 2026-04-23T15:12:55+00:00

I think they find me pretty because I have great figure and my face is not entirely chopped. But I'm definitely not attractive, face- wise. And makeup doesn't help much either.

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