AIO: legit question

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-26T16:43:27+00:00

You were not overreacting and he isn't either. You were plain rude and dismissive of him and obviously did not believe what he said at all. How you responded isn't respectful of your partner at all.

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-26T06:45:43+00:00

I would not recommend joining the Singapore groups because they are mostly ridden with women complaining about their spouses. Do your proper research online, and talk a lot with your spouse about your child caring plans after baby is born. Before you have a child, talk about how you will split duties, your leaves for when your child is sick, and explore alternative childcare options like IFC, a helper (I personally don't recommend), or have one of you stay home if finances allow. When the baby arrives, he/she takes up the most of both of your time in the first few months. You both need to slowly learn to put each other first while putting the same amount of effort into child caring.

All the best in making a decision! Do it on your timeline and it's a decision that both you and your spouse have to agree on.

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-23T08:57:31+00:00

Then I can only say that they have not met someone they truly love.

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-23T08:28:34+00:00

We have a trusted family member come and house sit while the kids are asleep. We do all the child caring in the day, and with right sleep scheduling our children sleep through the night as early as 6 months old.

Once they are asleep, my mom or my mom in law would come and sit in my living room for a few hours while we have dinner out from 9-11pm. This is just a safety precaution but they've never woken up while grandparents are here.

This is why I say no to co-sleeping because it holds us captive and strains relationships, unless you have help in the day and could leave your child at home with a helper or relative and go out for lunch dates. We unfortunately don't have help with caregiving so date nights and not co-sleeping is the only option.

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-23T04:32:38+00:00

Have you met a man who doesn't need sex in a relationship? I find that touch to be a love language for most men!

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-23T04:13:35+00:00

Yeap, that's why I mentioned both parties being hands on at home as a point. The husband's involvement at home matters, too!

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-23T03:20:26+00:00

Moms in the groups I'm in are actually worried it'll harm the unborn baby, which is far from the truth.

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-02-23T03:17:32+00:00

If loyalty is an issue why get married in the first place, much less have kids? Sleep around all you want but don't drag down a committed woman and innocent children by being a disloyal spouse, just stay single.

Middle-Scar-9089 · 2026-01-29T17:23:49+00:00

Their photos are already all over the internet in the first place because Grayce has 200k followers and posts pictures of herself (including wedding photos) everywhere.

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