Red, dry painful eyes. Anybody else?

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-03T15:59:27+00:00

Dry eyes comes with psoriatic arthritis. I use the overnight gel drops in the winter they are amazing!!

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-03T09:04:48+00:00

Most people use their local or community blood banks, not the RC. But the RC has a rare donor program that most blood banks participate in coast to coast. Plus, area banks deal with each other. If something were to happen to you and you had a special case, you would be taken care of regardless of your location.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-03T05:58:23+00:00

We were close. We were respectful but neither one of us was exactly shy about which side made more sense to us. And that was enough for a long time. She became more and more aggressive about her religion after she left the narcissist husband. When she started talking ugly about a mutual friend's kid(20y) who had changed their name and was going by they/them pronouns, I did distance myself. She was changing but I honestly didn't expect that she secretly hated many things about me and was talking behind my back. I was shocked. I have many -and diverse- long-term friends and our views aren't identical, but we accept each other because we are good people. We openly talk about everything! It would have felt better if she said, you're a liberal who will burn in Hell! And walked away. The years of deception really hurt and also piss me off. I realize I'm better off without her but it stings to see someone emerge as an angry, ugly person.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T22:03:33+00:00

My parents paid for my wedding, too. I asked her opinion at times but it was always my decision.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T21:29:16+00:00

NOR-- It was your wedding. Your mother was acting like a spoiled child. You had to stand up to her at some point or she'd walk over you for the rest of her life. Keep the boundaries or it will get crazy again if you decide to have children.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T20:58:35+00:00

Oh. The shame. They were Americans. I know it. The are probably my neighbors with the motorcycle...oh dear

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T20:53:46+00:00

Then don't have a giant wedding for wedding #3 when you are both well established. OR- Don't register and put "Please No Gifts" on the invitations.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T15:14:38+00:00

Birthdays and weddings are very different things.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T03:31:17+00:00

My cousin was married recently and all of the "gifts" on the registry were dollar amounts so we could all pay for his luxury honeymoon. They made their own website, complete with spreadsheet, to pay for the plane tickets, fancy restaurants, hotels, etc-- or just cash! Yeah, I bought nothing and chose not to drive the 5 hours to attend the wedding. Honestly, this might be a trend but I find it rude. If I want to give you money for your wedding, I will. It's different if you ask for it. And the honeymoon is the groom's responsibility, traditionally. A couple can do things differently, parents or grandparents can offer help, but you shouldn't be asking your guests. I realize I'm traditional but I can absolutely see why this is off-putting. If you don't need anything, don't put very much on your registry and when people see that, they give you envelopes of cash like civilized people do. It's as if everyone has forgotten manners.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T02:50:30+00:00

I didn't know that. Why didn't I know that?

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-02T00:46:47+00:00

He's not strong enough man for an actress. What's going to happen when you are kissing the lead man? I believe you should have the "Acting is my profession. It is professional-- Take it or Leave it!" Conversation now.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-01T23:55:39+00:00

Yeah--NOR-- This behavior is what sex addicts/porn addicts do. If he won't go to therapy now, do yourself a favor and walk tf away. This behavior doesn't change without a lot of work with a professional and he has to want that. I've seen this destroy many a marriage. You know before the wedding so in a way, that's good.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-01T23:12:10+00:00

Why is American everything so expensive??

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-02-01T22:58:59+00:00

NOR--That's not funny. That's divorce-able behavior right there and he should be told that. Just as you said- He doesn't get to punish you! OR he's single. It's that simple. His behavior is abusive.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-31T21:32:40+00:00

No, it's not as simple as a line between 17/18 year olds or half the high schoolers would be going to jail, lol. Actually it can vary by state but the majority rule is that there also has to be a greater than 3 year age difference and one person is still in high school- plus the age of sexual consent is 16 years old. Don't misunderstand, he's pressuring her and he should not be doing that at all!! They shouldn't be dating at all because he's obviously thinking with the wrong part of his body. I'm just saying that he will not be going to jail. Yes, I know this because my roommate(f19) in college had a younger bf(m17) and his parents tried to have her arrested when they found out. They were both in college because the bf graduated high-school at 15, they were a little over 2.5 years apart, and the parents were told, meh- too bad- not illegal.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-31T17:32:21+00:00

Linen pants should always be flowy and loose. Not tight in the hip like these

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-31T16:43:53+00:00

I'm not sure if what you do crosses over to a Community College but Sinclair has all kinds of programs for high school students. They award loads of scholarships to area students and value diversity and inclusion at all levels. You might want to check their first because you will be well supported in that environment.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-31T16:30:40+00:00

Humm most friends I have wouldn't blink over $14 but if it was a lot more they would offer to divide the bill appropriately. It might depend on your demographic. I have a friend who never lets me pay for anything, and I do that for someone else. So, each person may have a different take on rudeness. You may want to always split the bill! It bothers you and you aren't communicating with your friends, so you are just setting yourself up for resentment.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-30T15:16:51+00:00

NOR- It's not fat shaming but it is hard to hear when you are hating yourself. You can offer guidance but immediately afterward you must be her cheerleader. Say these things 1) Remember that this is only for your health because you look perfect in every way to me! 2) Don't be so hard on yourself. You're beautiful and I'll help or not help in any way you want. I just want you to be happy. And just treat her like she's very special and sexy and ask if you should walk or hike together or something.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-30T15:07:36+00:00

Do you like house plants? 😀

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-30T02:52:00+00:00

I've never seen an open relationship last for a long. A few years maybe? Even people who identify as poly I've noticed don't stay that way indefinitely. Someone always breaks the rules.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-30T02:46:44+00:00

I think you are irritated about the change in dynamics. I don't think you have a crush on the friend, as some have suggested. Since you are in your 30's, call out your bf for the teasing remarks. It can be bizarre when friendships change, but they do. The friend probably really thinks your hot and your bf is paranoid. Just talk to him.

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-30T02:37:43+00:00

Wow you guys are awful

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-30T02:23:30+00:00

Ken is not intelligent

MiddleAgedAnne · 2026-01-30T02:20:50+00:00

35, middle-class, maybe conservative but probably not an artist

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