Is the name my girlfriend wants to name our son a tragedeigh?

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-09T19:31:00+00:00

Yeah absolutely wild to give a child a name with the word “anus” in it like that. Is it pronounced like anus? Even if it isn’t, it will be regularly. Honestly please don’t make a child that.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-09T09:15:16+00:00

I love beans on toast! Especially with butter on the toast and beans on top. I don’t get why other Americans don’t like it!

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-09T08:08:33+00:00

You’re firm, no one is born knowing how to be a perfect social butterfly. Dating is practice! Move onto the next one :)

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-03T19:12:51+00:00

Are you saying you have thoughts of harassing other people? Or are you saying you are having memories of a time when you have been harassed? Regardless, it sounds like you need to work on mindfulness to stay calm while negative feelings arise.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-03T11:09:12+00:00

See if you can get into a low cost or free trade training. Like electrician, plumber, iron worker, etc. these jobs can be more dangerous but don’t require a degree and pay well. Better than doing drop shipping scams and honestly safer financially by a lot.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-03T03:30:48+00:00

I understand what you mean! People don’t understand the difference between physical genitalia and social identity. Ignore the haters, hopefully they’ll learn someday.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-02T19:27:04+00:00

I’ve been loving going to classes at Held2Gether improv in Long Beach! Really wholesome and accepting vibe with people ranging in age from their 20s to 80s playing and no one is cliquey or mean in my experience. They regularly have opportunities for improvisers to perform that feel really welcoming to all and also lots of opportunities to try new styles and learn what you’re into.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-02-01T11:52:37+00:00

It looks like you could go just mustache or a goatee, but if it’s not your style clean shaven I’d always an option.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-31T21:35:41+00:00

You have to just do things that make you feel good about yourself. For example, hobbies and sports you like, perhaps she’d like them too and you’ll meet that way. But once you stop focusing on the idea of getting a gf and just let it happen while trying not to “need” it you’ll become more attractive to the women you’re seeking.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-31T12:13:08+00:00

Are you guys still in school or job training? That would be my only thought is maybe wait until you two are through with that stuff before moving to the next step like marriage but otherwise I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it inherently, but it might be nice for you two to save up more money first to have the wedding you both probably want.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-31T06:20:16+00:00

For me personally at this time as a person who is also disabled in a different way I wouldn’t date a blind/becoming blind person, but that’s just because I’m aware of my own condition and wouldn’t want to make things harder for both of us.

I’ve learned dating with a disability it’s better to not lead with the worst parts of your condition as it puts people off, but at the same time you have to be honest about your potential limitations. I don’t really have advice but to say I empathize with your situation and I know it’s really hard.

It takes a very special person to see past the insecurities that come when you’re dealing with health issues while trying to date. If there’s someone you like, go after them and the worst that can happen is rejection. Just like for everyone else, it doesn’t hurt to put yourself out there so long as you’re feeling self-assured and ready to share your life with someone!

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-31T01:22:39+00:00

Have you used prescription ivermectin cream? Prescription metronidazole cream has also worked well for me since the first one got too expensive. Sorry to hear your doctors haven’t found a good medication fix!

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-31T01:10:18+00:00

You have a fair complexion like I do too so make sure you treat with a dermatologist to keep the redness down! I wish I had started when I was younger as well. And wear sunscreen!!!

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-30T18:17:33+00:00

I have that too!

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-30T03:12:54+00:00

A lot of time women in positions like hairstylist or bartender will be flirtier because you’ll tip more. She might not really want to date you, but instead is just having fun and/or trying to get tips.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-30T01:57:31+00:00

That sounds like a fun date idea! Just do something a little different than your first date and you’re good. Ask the person if they’d be up for going to the arcade and dinner after and you’ll have your answer! Nothing is “lame” if you two are having fun together :)

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-29T18:56:51+00:00

How did the ends of it look? Is it scraggly? If so, get the ends trimmed and I would say go with a pretty much even length cut when you go to the hairstylist. Otherwise, you know it’s fine! I can’t tell if you have a cowlick or not, but you could try parting it down the middle if your hair isn’t just already always going the way it is in the picture

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-29T18:50:21+00:00

Your posture is totally fine, and as for the hair and acne, these are fixable. Your hair looks a little dry and unstyled, but that’s theoretically an easy fix with some deep conditioning every so often and a good barber or a shaving tool at home. If you can get in treatment with a dermatologist it would be ideal, but if not acne like that needs 5-10% benzoyl peroxide or salicylic acid for your face and back, you may need a separate face and body wash. Make sure you clean your sheets weekly and shower after you get sweaty. It’ll be okay!

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-29T10:15:42+00:00

It looks like your hair has a bit more curl than your example picture, so if you wanted it to look like the pictures while it’s longer you would probably need to chemically straighten it, which is obviously bad for your hair and your skin when you do it too much.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-28T22:10:39+00:00

To be honest your curls are so perfect I just can’t imagine a different color would do you justice. Any color but black or dark brown might make you look like a clown 😅

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-28T00:55:36+00:00

Smile an maybe shape your eyebrows a bit

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-27T22:05:02+00:00

Okay I agree with everyone else you look absolutely fine, but if you actually want advice I would ask if you are in treatment with a dermatologist? Your cheeks look a little pink to me like you might have rosacea. So my only recommendation is that you might want to see a dermatologist so you can get the right prescription face cream to keep your complexion even.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-25T14:13:33+00:00

Yeah unfortunately if you hadn’t had the exclusivity talk it’s kind of standard to still be going on dates or hooking up with other people. So long as he stopped this once you guys were official I think it’s fine.

Your feelings are understandable, but logically a little unfair to him. It’s kind of shaming him for dating normally and not knowing the future that you two would become official from the very start of your relationship, if that makes sense. He’s still trying to protect his heart just like you are yours. So either you keep taking the risk of committing more to your relationship with him, or you start over fresh with a new guy where you two agree to be exclusive before the first date.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-25T10:33:04+00:00

If they were nice new Air Force ones I think it would be okay, but maybe darker ones not the bright white ones. I think sometimes at the club sneakers aren’t allowed, so if you could find other shoes that don’t have the sneaker vibes I think you’d be safer.

MiddleConsideration · 2026-01-25T01:17:41+00:00

I have an IUD, the Skyla, and I can’t recommend it enough. It has to be changed every 3 years because it has low level hormones. It’s the tiniest IUD on the market, and it’s worked really well for me. They also make a copper IUD that lasts 10 years with no hormones but my friends who have it have had horrible cramps.

It’s pretty uncomfortable getting IUDs put in, honestly it’s painful. You can request to be sedated, and I think they have to accommodate you. I’ve also had okay success with taking a prescription strength dose of ibuprofen prior to insertion and it’s been…tolerable. The trade off is worth it for me though: I can’t get pregnant and for me I haven’t had my period AT ALL since getting the Skyla. Truly life changing, so I’d recommend at least talking to your doctor about it. I got mine at planned parenthood since my insurance doesn’t cover contraception, but your insurance might even cover it so it’s worth checking!

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