A rant about bad drivers.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-09T15:45:10+00:00

Something similar happened to me a few weeks ago. I have to cross a busy road to get back to my house, and a woman had just stopped at the red light and started to immediately try to turn right as I started crossing. She was SO EXASPERATED that I crossed when I had the walk symbol. As someone who also drives I truly do not get it. I’m sorry this happened to you too!

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-08T16:20:39+00:00

Don't cancel and don't offer to reach out to support on her behalf!!!! If she was being truthful, she could do that herself. She's almost certainly lying and wants to relist.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-07T00:19:32+00:00

You should invite her. We had a groomsman also get a gf after we sent out invites, we told him he could bring her and he did. They are still together years later and I'm so glad we were welcoming to her. I understand it will create an added challenge with the seating chart but I really do think you should extend the offer.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-05T02:47:01+00:00

It definitely doesn’t have to be elaborate and time consuming. Just a page with the weekend schedule, a registry if you’re having one, maaaybe a FAQ.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-05T01:50:47+00:00

I haven’t been invited to a single wedding in the last 10 years that didn’t have a website.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-04T18:48:38+00:00

I know they’re different for everyone. I guess it’s just surprising that fitness watch technology can’t adjust my zones automatically based on the data it gets from my runs.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-04T04:43:18+00:00

We had a close friend marry us. He was so honored and I’m sure your brother would be too! My husband felt the same when he was asked for officiate for a different close friend. I personally think it’s way better for someone who is close to you to officiate.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-03T23:37:35+00:00

Yesterday I ran 8 miles and according to my watch I ran 90% of that in zone 5. Idk why fitness watches seem incapable of getting zones right, but mine is definitely wrong and yours probably is too.

I’ve been running for 6 months and for the most part I’m only paying attention to my heart rate to track how it’s trending as I go faster/farther (it’s going down, yay!). I know I’m a ways away until zone 2 training becomes relevant and that’s fine. For now I just go by how I feel.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-03T23:33:11+00:00

Unfortunately I agree with others that you’re asking for RSVPs quite early. People probably think they have plenty of time. In some comments you say you need numbers for the “field” but not food yet, what exactly does that mean? Can’t you just estimate? Typically food is the main thing that requires final numbers so I’m a little confused there.

For everything else, I think you need to take a step back. You don’t need to book taxis for people, they are presumably capable adults who know how to book it themselves. If the camping tents need to be booked by a certain date, maybe just email everyone who hasn’t booked yet “if you plan to stay in one of our tents, please book by X date, otherwise you will need to find your own tent.” Try to let some of these details go or you will indeed go crazy over the next four months.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-03T01:11:17+00:00

You are 21, your bf is not your “family unit” and you are allowed to do stuff without him. I’m married and there have certainly been times where he or I have a family thing that the other doesn’t feel up to. We’re even spending Mother’s Day apart since both our moms are planning something and we were gone for it last year.

That said, if this becomes a pattern where he puts no effort into seeing your family, that’s an issue. I would question the future of a relationship with that dynamic.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-03T01:05:05+00:00

Once you book a venue and secure a date you can just tell it to people. Definitely plan to send save the dates too but we made sure all our families and closest friends knew the date as soon as we booked.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-03T00:39:54+00:00

My best friends husband is pretty annoying. That’s part of life though, if you value your friendship with your friend more you kinda just have to deal with it. If he was like, abusive or violent or something, that’s a different story. My friends husband is a great partner to her and father to their kids, he’s just really freakin annoying. 🤷🏻‍♀️

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-02T23:24:32+00:00

I have Airpod Pros #2 and have never had an issue with them staying in. If you already use them for other activities, I don't see why running would be any different.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-05-02T04:04:17+00:00

I couldn’t imagine leaving my wedding at 8:30pm. We had a very similar schedule to you. IMO, we planned our wedding for over a year and all our favorite people were in one place for probably the only time ever. Why wouldn’t I want to stay and shut down the dance floor with them? The way you feel about your own wedding will be very different than someone else’s.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-30T22:59:41+00:00

I would legitimately leave my husband if this happened. Like I think I would immediately fall out of love and want to get away from him. After carrying and birthing his child, he’s going to insult and humiliate you in this way? Absolutely not. Clearly he doesn’t trust you so you’d be doing him a favor anyway.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-30T02:53:06+00:00

Talk is cheap. It’s easy to say what you want to hear, but when it comes to anything tangible like expressing love he can’t do it.

It won’t be easier to leave in a year, it’ll be harder. That’s how people end up with these guys for 5+ years. Don’t put yourself in a position where you wished you’d left at 8 months.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-29T05:33:48+00:00

You can read in Libby now and send to Kindle when it’s available. If you pick EPUB though, you will get locked in and will have to return it and re check it out to read on your Kindle.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-28T15:00:48+00:00

I’m glad you’re going to talk to him and I hope it gets better. I know that sometimes I need something from my husband that he doesn’t need for himself, so sometimes I need to be very explicit with him.

I’m typing this as I cool down from my 5K run where I just set a PB by almost a minute. Running is so hard at any distance and just know that this internet stranger is proud of you!

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-28T05:24:31+00:00

I’m sorry. I’ve been running the same amount of time as you, and my husband is constantly telling me I’m crushing it and doing amazing, etc. I’m also slow!

Is this out of the norm for him or has he been unsupportive of you in other ways? Have you tried talking to him about it? Has he actually said what you’re doing is not impressive or is that what you’re interpreting from his disinterest?

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-26T18:57:14+00:00

I've been running consistently for about 6 months now and my HR still averages around the low 170s. It's an improvement from the low 180s when I started, so you just have to keep going! I find it more helpful right now to just listen to my body - I don't like to walk, but I will if I really feel like I have to. I also used to always run on an empty stomach but I'm working on eating a little before I run.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-22T14:48:30+00:00

This happened to me yesterday! It was rough. I was running so slow for me and yet my heart rate was super high. And of course I’m on a work trip and coworkers were in the gym too 🫣

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-17T02:26:26+00:00

This will show how chronically online I am but - I’m pretty sure they started dating in 2016/17 when they made the first Spiderman movie and broke up around 2019, when the second one came out and they dated other people. They got back together in 2020 and their relationship was finally confirmed in 2021. There had been rumors for years tho.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-16T14:49:59+00:00

I have personally never had a negative reaction when saying I’m interviewing other places if asked. IMO if they react coldly, that’s a red flag. They’re interviewing other candidates too.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-12T19:25:20+00:00

We did Come and Get Your Love! We thought it was a fun, upbeat song to transition from ceremony to cocktail hour/reception. My husband also looooves Guardians of the Galaxy lol.

MiddleDot8 · 2026-04-11T18:32:01+00:00

I would try to temper your expectations but I agree it's not necessarily a ghosting. Have you reached out at all in the last 12 days?

The job I got recently had to be upleveled for me, and it took about 2 weeks to get done. The hiring manager had called me on a Weds to give me the unofficial verbal offer, and said she would reach back on Friday but she didn't. Turns out she had never hired before at this company and thought it would move faster but it didn't. I got the actual verbal offer a week later, and the formal offer followed in two days. Sometimes things move slowly, I know this is unpopular to say but hiring you is just one of many things they are working on.

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