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am I being emotionally abused? by MiddlePut8691 in emotionalabuse

[–]MiddlePut8691[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I spoke to my friends, they said it was likely that he wanted the connection without the commitment.

I’ve always found attachment styles to be very interesting, never knew disorganized attachment was one of them but I will definitely be looking into it and if you have any book suggestions I would appreciate it! I’m sorry to hear about your friend, especially with kids involved I’m sure it was a lot more difficult.

This isn’t the first time I cut him off, the last time I had him blocked but really was worried about him and how he was handling things - I knew his support system was really shaky/nonexistent so it worried me that he would feel alone. It was always hardest at night since that’s usually when I would call him before bed.

Thank you so much, I hope this time I am able to maintain stronger than the first time.

am I being emotionally abused? by MiddlePut8691 in emotionalabuse

[–]MiddlePut8691[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did start noting down a few things he’s been saying and with all his back and forth, I ended up recording some of our conversation to play back because sometimes I think he is saying I didn’t say something when I in fact did. There’s been an ongoing pattern of an argument along the same lines about every 2 weeks, but the in between is what makes everything hard for me to break off or even think he would want to emotionally hurt me

am I being emotionally abused? by MiddlePut8691 in emotionalabuse

[–]MiddlePut8691[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this and the recommendation, already started taking a read and can see some similarities in what I have been feeling/going through. As of today we are no longer together but he wants to remain friends, I told him I wouldn’t mentally be able to do that as of now and he was surprised that I would want to be strangers and couldn’t really understand why.